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10 Oct 2013

Quote by mountaingaljanelle29
By that i mean society bullies everyone into what behaviour is unacceptable or acceptable.

I differ from your point of view. Society sets rules or norms that tells us what is acceptable and what is not. That is not bullying. In the absence of those norms we would have total anarchy and the law of the biggest and meanest would rule. we would have one person ruling differently or as they see fit as far as their area of terror would cover. In essence wouldn't those people be what we today refer to as bullies?

10 Oct 2013

Quote by NickiC
Bullying is a horrible thing and if you have ever talked to a victim of it, it would break your heart. I have a relative who just bullied a child and I had some words with him, very strong ones.

I agree, bullying is horrible and you did good by talking strongly to your relative.

10 Oct 2013

Quote by dpw
Started out life as bright and showy back in 13c, by 18c it had come to mean lewd and lacivious. About this time prostitutes were called gays and gay boys were the male prostitutes, in the late 19c they were called gay cats in USA, probably street boys that would do anything for money. 1920's homosexuals refered to themselves as gay, in the original meaning of bright and showy. The use of it meaning prostitute was by then in decline. The homosexual meaning entered the Oxford English Dictionary(the bible of the English language over here) in the mid 1950's. Although other meanings still exist, the primary useage now is homosexual.

Thank you for the explanation. It was very informative and interesting 3601

3601

10 Oct 2013

Quote by sprite
it STILL means happy to me!

I, just like Sprite, will always have a GAY old time ;)

10 Oct 2013

Quote by NickiC
Keep your dietary body fluids to yourself. That. No. No No NO!

What do you mean by dietary body fluids?

10 Oct 2013

Quote by Dancing_Doll

They're cute. I have one of the Red Foxes from when they first came out. Now I just need a matching buttplug.

For all your Halloween and music festival needs - plenty of animals to pick from: http://www.spirithoods.com/

Awesome, you are my new best friend smile

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By the way, you can buy the tail through Amazon... http://www.amazon.com/Wild-Tail-Anal-Women-Adult/dp/B00CPLI93C

10 Oct 2013

Quote by dpw

NOW THAT'S SEXY, the jeans and the shirt have to go though.

I agree... just the hood and the tail would be awesome for me ;)

10 Oct 2013

Quote by Dancing_Doll
I'm not a gay guy, but I think this is a totally adorable and sexy idea. Well.. assuming those are faux-fur, of course.

I like the fox one, personally.

And you could always get a Red Fox SpiritHood to match the tail-plug!

Hi Dancing, yes they are both faux-fur. By the way, that Red Fox Hood is awesome and would match quite nicely with the fox tail butt plug. Do you know where I could buy it, and for how much?

10 Oct 2013

Quote by kylie_kained
It has to be the bunny why not wear the full outfit?

Kylie, I am affraid that the whole outfit might to defeat the sexiness of the original idea sad

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10 Oct 2013

Quote by NickiC
I have a friend who is a sex therapist and she does not believe in labels. She thinks very few people are one or the other. She says sexuality is a bell curve. They may choose one or the other but if we open our minds we will have some serious fun. I call myself bisexual because I am, more into men but I have been with women who have meant a lot to me. I have 'gay' male friends who have been with one or two women, some who would never do it. Same with the ladies. Very good topic btw.

Nicki, although I consider myself as 100% gay I can definitely relate to your friend's train of thought. I believe that the Kinsey scale/study suggests approximations to the true values, but there are no absolute blacks and no absolute whites. Instead there are a whole bunch of gray scales or in betweens. I believe that human behavior is a little bit more complicated and does not accurately fit in the 6 levels of Kinsey's Scale. If we open the scale to all of the possibilities in the world, we will end up concluding that there are no true values or definitives, and that lines soon become blurry.

Each event and/or experience we have sways us a few notches one way or the other, hence the gray in between. What's even more fascinating is that the same event or experience may sway a different person onto the opposite side of the spectrum. That may very well be either because of a previous experience or because of the lack of another experience. By the way, some of those experiences may happen even before we are born and are transferred to us through our parents chromosomes. It doesn't matter how we attain our experiences, but, at the end of the day we are all a collection of various experiences which makes up who we are and how we behave.

In other words, I think that no matter how gay or straight a person might be, no one is 100% one or the other. We may position ourselves closer to one end of the spectrum than the other, but we will never be absolutely black nor white. As we begin to move more towards the middle of the spectrum the lines become blurrier, but even then we may have a certain preference for one gender over the other. So I can understand and relate fully to your friend's way of thinking.

What I can't understand is why do we, as human beings, have the need for labels that divide and in some cases hurt. We are all humans and we all have the right to be happy and to love whomever we wish to love. In my book the only absolute is that humans have no real need for labels!

9 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
That would be so cute. And hot. It would certainly get my attention in a good way.

Aww... thanks honey

Quote by xXRachelRoseXx
I'd really like it. The gesture itself is just great in itself but the added sexual plessure would be the cherry on top

With all the positive anwers I guess I have no choice but to surprise my man with either a bunny or a fox outfit. Thank you all, I knew I could count on my horny fellow forum friends ;)

9 Oct 2013

Quote by Autumn17
I think that bullying can be a learned thing more often than not. If a child is always hearing their parents or guardian saying negative things and making derogatory comments and slurs about other then they might follow along with it. Children look up to their parents and they might not know any better. It's not just parents though, their school environment probably affects them too, when other kids are picking on each other, more might join in so that they don't become the one being made fun of.

I don't think that anyone is ever born to be hateful and a bully.

Autumn, I would normally agree with you but in this case the child's father took action to prevent the kid from traveling through a wrong path. His father seems to be a good influence in the kids life, not a negative or bad influence. Did you have a chance to read the article and look at the video? They are actually both very short. I got the feeling that the father is a positive role model for a kid that somehow went astray.

9 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
Alas, that doesn't mean it isn't learned. The fact that the father humiliated him as the punishment suggests that the father might not be as innocent as he thinks. Humiliation and intimidation are bully tactics, I'm afraid, no matter how good the cause.

The article said that the father tried all sorts of punishments to make the kid understand that bullying was wrong, but I will not put my hands in the fire for anyone I do not fully know. So yes, he may have learned the behavior at home or from other peers even at that early age.

Quote by seeker4
For the record, I was bullied (quite badly at times) from grade school through high school. A lot of that was taunting me for being "gay" simply for not conforming to the social norms rather than because I was actually engaging in any gay sexual behavior. That is likely why I didn't start to seriously explore my bisexual side until recently. Acting out my male fantasies would be validating the taunts or something like that.

Poor soul you. I feel for anyone that was or is bullied. It is just not fair. we all deserve to have a happy life. In your case you might have missed a few fun years of your life which I am sure you will get back, but some kids can't cope with the bullying and end up committing suicide.

I was very lucky growing up because although I have always been gay, I was deeply in the closet and no one suspected about my sexual orientation. Otherwise growing up in a South American macho society it would have been hell. However, being in the closet did not stop me from experimenting my sexuality as I had my fair amount of boyfriends. What I think it did do was to shape my sexual role. Being in the closet and with no access to gay culture and porn, I grew up watching straight porn like the straight kids did, but instead of lusting after the woman in the picture like they did, I got hard by watching the men and their hard cocks. And since the women were still in plain view, I used to fantasize about me being the women being fucked on the screen. Funnily enough, I never wanted to be them except when having sex. I never had cross dressing desires nor did I ever needed to feel feminine. Instead I have always been quite manly, but since then I have always assumed the sexual role of the bottom. Today I wouldn't change that fact for anything in the world.

9 Oct 2013

Is hate and/or bullying a learned behavior or are we born being hateful? I just read an interesting article about a 4th grade child that bullied his peers in school. He did not learn that behavior at home since his father, upon learning what had happened, taught him a valuable lesson by having him stand in a street corner with a neon sign that said "I am a bully. Honk if you hate bullies".

To read the article follow the link: Valuable lesson

9 Oct 2013

Have you ever had or do you still have a sexual limit without really trying to find out if you really like it? And no, I am not talking about , scat or under age sex...

9 Oct 2013

Quote by dpw

He doesn't have to keep it hard, he has to keep it tight. I have to get it hard and in his case I'll have no problem. Lol

In my case he would have to keep it hard and that might be a problem for him. But even in your case scenario, by the time he gets home after work he may not feel in the mood to "bring work home", and even if he did for how long do you think that he will remain as tight as you would like?

9 Oct 2013

Quote by Willtryanythingonc3
Oh my that would be a turn on but I would need to see plot evidence to Confirm

If I buy the bunny tail, I would make sure that his carrot get all the attention ;)) LMAO!

9 Oct 2013

With Halloween being so close, I thought of a naughty custume to heat up my sadly non-existing relationship. I do not currently have a steady boyfriend, but I do have a few fuck buddies to play with and I was thinking of buying one of these two butt plugs, a set of matching ears, paint my nose and wait for them au naturel, to knock at my door... what do you guys think? I could definitely forsee a fun time for me!

Would the picture of someone you care enough to have as a fuck buddy dressed as described exite you or turn you off?

9 Oct 2013

Quote by dpw
Oh yes but only a certain one. I'm sure I could cope with anything with regards his job and that's what it is, a job. The sex is real but there's no emotion, that's the acting. They might enjoy the sex but lots of people enjoy their work.

Yes, it is a job and some people enjoy their jobs, but what would happen if he can no longer keep it hard because when he gets home he is spent after a day at work? Will it affect his/your personal relationship?

9 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
Something short term with lots of hot sex, sure.

Something short term may even be classified as acting up a fantasy, which would most likely be associated with a heighten state of arousal and plenty of satisfaction... but what I am asking is what happens after the storm has passed, when you sink into a routine... will the relationship strengthen or weaken?

9 Oct 2013

Most porn stars are extremely appealable, sexually speaking. That is why they are chosen for the job, and whoever says that they have not fantasized at least once in their lives with being sexually intimate with one of them is probably lying to themselves, but... would you date one? and if your answer is positive, wouldn't you be jealous of his/her work? would you be worried about their and your health (both emotionally and physically)?

9 Oct 2013

When did the word "GAY" cease to mean "HAPPY"? I will never forget that the theme song of the Flingstones finishes by saying "You'll have a gay old time." When and why did the word "GAY" change its original meaning to a person that likes another person of their same gender?

By the way, I am lucky that I fit both definitions of the same word

9 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
Hmmmm. Getting a bit philosophical here. Perhaps we can, as you say, be aroused as voyeur even if the experience does not arouse us. Or something like that. Ask me again if/when I have some experience, I guess.

I would love to hear about your first time if and when it happens. And you are right in that perhaps the partner you chose to be with may not have been the right person and therefore, you may get a bad experience that turns you off completely. But the other way around is also true in that your fantasy or what you expect to feel and/or how it makes you react in a real situation may be way different.

9 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
On another board, I posed the question "Why can't we just all be 'sexual'?".

I actually love the idea that we are all human and that we are all 'sexual'. Hmm... I like the way you think smile

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8 Oct 2013

Quote by seeker4
This is why I use the bi-curious label. I simply do not know if being with a guy will really work for me until I actually do it. Perhaps it simply won't live up to the anticipation and I'll decide I'm not bi after all.

I find that fascinating... do you get aroused by watching a naked man? how about if that same naked man is having sex with another man? If your answer is positive to either of those questions, do you think you would still be aroused by watching that same naked guy, even if when you actually had sex with another person of your same gender it does not work for you?

I have a female friend that labels herself as straight yet by her own accounts she gets aroused by lesbian porn. She once told me that they only same-sex experience that she has had did not work for her, yet she still manages to get aroused by watching two women loving each other. Can we detach our physical need for human contact and still be aroused as voyeour even if we do not identify as gay?

8 Oct 2013

Why do people get so uptight about sexual labels? Heterosexuals don't like to be called gay. Gay people don't like to be called bisexual. Bisexual people most of the time don't care what they are called. And then you have the pansexuals and the transgenders... when did we cease to be human?

8 Oct 2013

Reading through the forum there are a few people that label themselves as bisexual or gay, yet they have never had sex with a person of their same gender. Can someone think and feel as if they are bisexual or gay, and even be aroused by same sex porn, yet once they have actually tried it realize that they are not as bisexual or gay as they once thought?

8 Oct 2013

Be patient and regard the hunt as part of the fun. And remember, once you land your perfect match, victory will be so much sweeter ;)

7 Oct 2013

Love to swallow... what kind of gentleman would I be if I did not swallow my man's warm juice?

7 Oct 2013

yes I have. He was huge and had me grinning all day afterwards ;)