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Over 90 days ago
Heteroflexible Male, 77
0 miles · California
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Quote by forgedsteel11
I was staying at a females friends house for a few days. While I was there I stayed in her bed every night. But when I tried to make a move she turned me down. Why would she want me to sleep in her bed if she didn't want to sleep together?
It took me a long time to understand.. but it isn't always about sex.. there is a journey that leads to every destination and sometimes we men try to just get there as fast as we can.. there is a comfort in closeness.. and she gave you the privilege of her private space.. which on some levels is far more intimate than sex.. maybe she just wanted you to recognize that..
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Quote by suzziecat
(he emailed me that he lost his phone)
this was my reply:
by the way i really hope you dont think im that stupid. if you had lost your phone for some reason you wouldnt just email me. but whatever. i dont care anymore. i just wanted to know that you were alright but i guess you are. i found someone new and im really happy. not that you care. i was really hoping we could be friends but i guess thats not an option im tired of your childish games. when we were together i always thought you were the best man in the world i was so in love wit you i never realized how you treated me, and i dont care if you think im putting all the blame on you bc alot of it is your fault, i know i wasnt innocent in this but our relationship was way fucked up and a lot of it was you. you can play the victim and you can blame me all you want i dont fucking care anymore. i found a man who loves me no matter what and would NEVER hurt me in a thousand years! i thought you were the one and that youd always be there for me but i was wrong, i was so wrapped up in you i didnt notice the people who really were there, the ones that cared for real. im not gonna sit around and be sad that i lost you ima make the best of this. i actually cant thank you enough bc if it werent for all the pain you put me through i never wouldve realized how great of a man he is. thanks to you i met the love of my life. so i guess i should be nicer bc without your shit i wouldnt have realized how wonderful he is. so uh yeah thanks. im guessing youll never reply to this so uh bye. i hope you find someone who makes you as happy as he makes me
There isn't a handbook on ending relationships and each one is as different as the people and circumstances involved.. people who have been hurt in a relationship sometimes need to vent.. I think she was talking as much to herself as she was to him.. and very likely felt he was so disconnected that closure only came with great detail for his consideration.. sounds like she accomplished her goal..
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There is a technique being undertaken by a few in the medical field.. it is called Hormone Therapy.. they do a complete study of your body and harvest whatever they need from your own resources.. then revitalize them and inject them back into you.. they do have a very high success rate of giving people back that part of their lives they have lost.. Google it for more info.. best of luck Shadowcat..
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I think what surprises me the most about this thread are the variation of responses.. yes.. maybe.. no.. and.. OH HELL NO!! and the surprise is actually that it seems the no's and oh hell no's are the majority.. watching one's partner be pleasured by someone else as well as pleasure someone else is a very arousing experience.. almost orgasm by proxy.. of course you have to have the self-esteem and security of your relationship in order to truly enjoy it.. I'm not suggesting that it's everyone's cup of tea.. but I can tell you from experience that it can be powerful if the chemistry is there..
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Good anal play is learned and gradual.. it should happen over a period of sessions and not just the first time right out of the box.. literally.. tongue.. fingers.. beads.. plug.. vibrator.. and then cock.. it should be an anticipated pleasure for both of you.. and the best lube for anal is olive oil.. it slides easily.. and it's edible.. but always keep in mind it is the ultimate privilege you are offering him.. make him honor it..
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Quote by sprite
"Maybe this time I won't let you up. Drown you like a kitten nobody wants, you fucking worthless piece of shit"
my ex. we call him 'The Monster' for a reason. i don't share those words often, but i have never forgotten them and sometimes, when i'm at my lowest, the ring loud and clear in my head.
Those are words that should never ring loud and clear at any time.. burn them from your memory.. it was his loss.. not yours..
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I don't think any of us want it all to be the same.. each of us has our 'style' and 'techniques' that we like to believe we have perfected over the years.. we had a saying in the Navy.. "There's no such thing as a bad fuck.. just some are better than others." If I could narrow it down I would say that passion and imagination are the keys to great sex.. variety.. pick up the pace.. slow it down.. eye contact.. whispers.. moans and quivers.. fantasy play.. everything else is just body parts.. I've had many great sexual experiences where I never even got my dobber in or reached orgasm for myself.. it was all about the pleasure I was giving and not so much about what I was getting.. but hey.. that's just me..
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Apparently everyone else on Lush is smoking hot.. I chose my pic because I'm not.. from the avatars I always see.. everyone here is a 10 but me.. I guess I'll have to learn to write.. and just stay out of everyone's sight.. but if there's ever a knock on my door.. you'll get the wings and abs.. and a whole lot more..
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.
Perfect response..
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This is a good thread.. spme interesting viewpoints.. some will.. some won't.. some will for their mates.. some will for themselves.. a lot of 2 & a halfsomes really.. whether it's mfm or fmf or even fff.. the dynamics may change but the intent is the same.. it's about pleasure and exploration where the word 'NO' is never inappropriate.. I've had my fair share of mfm and fmf.. and I found that those 3somes which were planned and anticipated were far more rewarding than those that happened spontaneously.. one man's opinion.. 'try everything once.. some things more often'..
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Quote by Curlygirly
You did. That's why I never go back and forth on these things, because I'm talking to different people and it takes me about 20 minutes to form a rebuttal and miss about 10 posts!
BTW, still NO cumming!!!
OUCH!!!!! Dang woman.. you are a hard task master.. lol
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Quote by Curlygirly
Some would be me. Yes, I would be more or less doing it, because it's on his list. I'm good with that. If I was not, then I wouldn't. But there are certain aspects of it I'm not comfortable with.
What if I was really interested in pegging my guy (if you're reading this, I swear I'm not), but he was totally against this? Then maybe just some good old fashioned prostate stimulation might be a nice wholesome compromise for us.
These issues seem like things you should already be passed sexually.. I know if my mate said "Honey I'd like to 'peg' you tonight because it would arouse me" then her arousal is all that would matter to me.. I think we are saying almost the same thing.. I'm just letting my boundaries be a little more accommodating.. and by the way.. I don't mind being pegged by her at all.. lol
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Quote by Curlygirly
I disagree. I have no boundaries on oral, fucking, or anal, so there would be a bit more going on than show and tell time.
I've heard of boundaries/rules being set for 3somes many times. I'm willing to push my boundaries (to a point) for my partner and hope that he's willing to compromise a bit for me, because he knows it's not something I necessarily desire. If he's not and it's something he really wants and only his way, then we're better off not together. If we've gotten to the point of planning a 3some, then he knows and is OK with what I'm comfortable with. You need to have a bit of compromise in all aspects of a relationship.
I've expressed myself a little more clearly in later posts.. not that it may change much.. but it did seem in your initial post that you were restricting your guy to some pretty rigid standards.. no cumming being foremost.. but rules are rules and if he is OK with that I am too.. as a man though.. let him have a drip or two.. lol...
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Quote by LittleBambi
I understand what you were getting at, I was more elaborating on the fact that there are likely to be some ground rules and that that's okay (which wasn't made entirely clear in your original post).
Well.. I am often accused of being unclear and somewhat evasive.. I stand convicted.. lol..
My original point was that if you over-think the whole 3some thing and start setting do's and don'ts and what ifs.. then the actual act becomes staged and unnatural.. each of us who are in relationships should already know our boundaries and should know what would be acceptable.. if my mate refused to do anal with me but let the 3some dude have his way then there might be a problem at some point.. I'm a guy so it wouldn't be a deal breaker but if everyone goes into the 3some being natural and flexible in limitations it would be a worthy experience..
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
I've been the 'third party' in the past and I'm ok with basic groundrules, but if they're too complicated or the girl has seemed like she's really only doing it to please her boyfriend and is generally paranoid, then I've declined (I've declined way more often than I have gone for it, actually).
If the rules are "no kissing, no penetration, don't look at my man, he can't cum anywhere near you blah blah", then I'll definitely take a pass. It's not fun for me if I have to second-guess everything I want to do in the moment or if I'm mainly there to spectate or have a minor role while they enjoy all the fun.
lol.. well said..
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Quote by LittleBambi
Everyone has things they're not comfortable with. Some girls aren't into anal, for instance, should this girl not 'bother' to have sex because she's setting a rule for her partner?
There's nothing wrong with having boundaries if everyone agrees on them.
I was referring to basic sexual conduct as opposed to the more "privileged acts" that may or may not happen.. from my reading it seemed that some were doing a 3some to satisfy their mates desires and not so much for their own.. all I was saying is that perhaps that may not be the best way to approach letting someone new in your bed.. rules and communication are always good.. and so are boundaries.. but if the acts in your 3some are restricted to just a small percentage of the things you and your partner traditionally enjoy together.. then it's just a 3some lite? (my attempt at humor)..
