Several years ago, after I had been involved and cohabiting with a young woman for a few years...our work and school schedules began to eat into the time together she and I could share. I think I also took her for granted as well and allowed my assumptions to cloud my better judgement.
She began a sexual relationship with a man she worked closely with on a daily basis and after a few months I simply confronted her with my suspicions and her silence confirmed what she was unwilling to give voice to.
I then helped her move out of our residence and into this other man's home, as we both felt we should end our relationship.
Within the space of three months she was moving out of his house, breaking off all contact with him, quitting her job and taking another with a different firm. She and I remained friends.
She expressed to me her profound sorry and regret for straying while we were together, but try as I might...while I still felt close to her in many ways, I could not ever trust her again to the point necessary - I felt/feel...for a continuation with our relationship at a level approaching what we once enjoyed/endured.
Often times, doing the right thing results in emotional pain...but not doing the correct thing will result in even more mental havoc.
It simply was not meant to be, for the long term.
Becoming a 'cheater' to strike back at someone is not something I would want to become, nor an act I would relish having on my resume'. I'd think you'd have to locate a willing cheating partner for one thing, or you'd be cheating with an innocent person and risk hurting him or her, as well.
Pfft, screw a bunch of that noise.
Constant Gardener
