There's a lot of things I hate, but hating reality doesn't change it.
Quote by Shylass
I am sick and tired of the "stick to your own league" attitude that I often see on these sorts of threads. It's rubbing salt on the gaping wound. Thanks so much for that reminder. Sadly, I think the only people who don't care about what a person looks like are the ugly, desperate ones like me. And we're desperate, so what do we know?!
Fucking hate that mentality.
I don't have to guess quite a few things about you Shylass. Why? Because you just lay it all out on the line for the world to see. And that's admirable. You tell us on your Lush profile that you're not just anti-social, but very much that way, while also being very shy & extremely inexperienced.
My guess is... your lack of experience covers a robust range of experiences which most of us really only do experience by growing older and slowly building up those new experiences until we acquire a broad band of true experience.
I was JUST LIKE YOU when I was in my teens and early twenties... Just like you. Most all of us were during that timeframe. That's not a mentality, that's a reality. You don't care for it to the point of you detesting it. I get that.
Doesn't change how things are.
And I wasn't typing that comment to rub any salt in anyone's imaginary wounds. If you have those wounds, they are yours to deal with and heal. Not mine, nor anyone else's except perhaps the asshats who you have experienced who tried to make you feel less than they themselves feel.
The reality of that situation is that you've been dealing with fcktarded asshats - don't be one and you're already light years ahead of them... and their miserable lives.
Or remain very anti-social, standoffish and shy. That's working so well for you so far, huh? And that's not meant to be mean towards you either - but towards anyone who is by their own admittance - everything you have described yourself in your own words - to currently be.
Do I think I have the looks or the overall attractiveness of George Clooney, Harrison Ford, Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise (men who are all except for Ford) in my general age range...?
Fuck no...I'm not living in that kind of fantasy world and I never have. There are literally hundreds of thousands of women in this world who are way the fuck outta my league. They wouldn't look at me once, let alone twice and certainly I would be surprised (dare I say stunned - if someone I thought was out of my league - winking at me and flirting with me even moderately).
I'd know how to respond to that situation though - because I'm not even the least bit anti-social, and I have gobs of experience (not with that situation) but with the flirting thing and the actually getting fucking laid part of the equation (then the dealing with women in ongoing friendly - and sexual relationships of all manner).
That's experience I have (which people younger than me currently don't enjoy)...and which I was once exceptionally fucking ignorant of - and hence, lacking confidence or even having the foggiest guesstimation of how to act myself.
Difference between you and me is ... I know it and have accepted it all my life.
As George Carlin once said... Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.
And I'm not saying this to be mean spirited or a prick.
Don't let any real truths hurt...address the truths and live in reality...Remember too - that you are the only one who can control how you feel.
I suggest to ease up on the hating and anti-social things. But that too is just a suggestion.
