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I often do but its usually from my Wife's perspective .
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black1
2 days ago
Straight Male, 62
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I am 56 . I think the older you get the more adventurous you become. For example we do a lot of roleplaying. The key message is if you want to keep enjoying sex is to look after your health. Make sure you keep fit and have an healthy diet. Keep the latter 2 things in check and keep sexually active, is the key IMO to a long lasting fulfilling relationship . I have been with my partner now 30 years this coming March.
I have to admit the language used on Lush has taken a bit of getting used to as it is much more cruder or more to the point than a previous UK based forum I was a member of.
I have to admit the language used on Lush has taken a bit of getting used to as it is much more cruder or more to the point than a previous UK based forum I was a member of.
I wouldn't go quite that far. Yes true I am married but I don't go around with blinkers on, but I still think you can admire a person without imagining them being naked . I also think it works both ways as well. I did feel slightly uncomfortable going to a night club straight after a "ladies night" when the crowd in their were mainly women, with eyes watching every move I made even though I was with my partner.
A very well to do couple that we are acquainted with are hosting a couples hot tub party , with all proceeds going to charity . They do quite a lot of these adult type parties ( normally fancy dress) with proceeds going to various charities.
All the couples will be carefully selected by the hosts and are well known to them.
However my Mrs has reservations .
1) Body confidence. Like some women who had had kids she has stretch marks and a mummy tummy. She has to wear a baby doll of corset in the bedroom to give her the necessary confidence . So normally this is not a problem . Obviously here she will be covered up in a one piece swimsuit but is wary that some of the ladies may be wearing bikinis and may feel a little frumpy or a little left out .
2) She is also bothered that the swimwear may start coming off once the party gets going and the influence of alcohol starts taking effect. Whilst , perhaps I could see that happening I don't think it will end up like a swingers event .
I accept her reservations and have decided not to attend and will not place any pressure on her .
I am just wondering would you or your partner have similar reservations or would just go with the spirit and flow of things ?
All the couples will be carefully selected by the hosts and are well known to them.
However my Mrs has reservations .
1) Body confidence. Like some women who had had kids she has stretch marks and a mummy tummy. She has to wear a baby doll of corset in the bedroom to give her the necessary confidence . So normally this is not a problem . Obviously here she will be covered up in a one piece swimsuit but is wary that some of the ladies may be wearing bikinis and may feel a little frumpy or a little left out .
2) She is also bothered that the swimwear may start coming off once the party gets going and the influence of alcohol starts taking effect. Whilst , perhaps I could see that happening I don't think it will end up like a swingers event .
I accept her reservations and have decided not to attend and will not place any pressure on her .
I am just wondering would you or your partner have similar reservations or would just go with the spirit and flow of things ?
If anything, I would say its more of the other way around especially with us. Since being married and later on we started becoming more adventurous and added a little kink into the bedroom. What I would say though, sometimes you have to keep working at your relationship. In essence its a bit like an investment, the more you put into it the more you will get out of it and enjoy it. 
I am just wondering how many of you that have lost weight and look younger at the end of your programme ?
Before I lost weight, I looked about 10 years above my actual age. After losing over 6 stone ( just maintaining my weight these days) ,I look 10 years younger than my actual age . So in essence my weight loss programme took 20 years off my "Starting" age. I think some of this was due to losing fat from my face and making it more narrow .
It is nice receiving compliments about my looks from both genders . Before nobody would give me a second look.
Before I lost weight, I looked about 10 years above my actual age. After losing over 6 stone ( just maintaining my weight these days) ,I look 10 years younger than my actual age . So in essence my weight loss programme took 20 years off my "Starting" age. I think some of this was due to losing fat from my face and making it more narrow .
It is nice receiving compliments about my looks from both genders . Before nobody would give me a second look.
I think in the past you have been playing with fire and lucky that you havnt been burned .StD s and even Aids comes to mind. Sometimes we do think of the best bits of our past but we often forget that life is not a bed of roses. As it looks like you have settled down now then just look to the future with your girlfriend and not the past.
All genders can sometimes be guilty of giving mixed signals. Sometimes it is through nievity .I have been guilty of the latter in the past and had to brush up on body language and eye contact as I found I was sending false signals. Sometimes people can find another person attractive or of interest to them but their existing arrangements i.e. existing relationship, prevents them from taking things further. It can be a bit of a minefield out there.
It sounds like to me , that the spark just needs reigniting. Many couples go through this at various stages in their relationships .
Try booking a romantic weekend away or go out for a meal dressed up to the "nines" to make you both irristable to each other. Ask her to put her best lingerie on when you go out.
I don't think its anything to worry about you just need to ignite that spark again.
Another precaution is just to make sure that there are no medical reasons why her libido is so low eg hormones etc.
Try booking a romantic weekend away or go out for a meal dressed up to the "nines" to make you both irristable to each other. Ask her to put her best lingerie on when you go out.
I don't think its anything to worry about you just need to ignite that spark again.
Another precaution is just to make sure that there are no medical reasons why her libido is so low eg hormones etc.
I usually wear Cologne . I think its called that these days for when we go out. However I don't use it as after shave as the alcohol tends to sting and make my neck go red . Moisturises or Sensitive Shave balm are probably better products to use after a shave. I still have some original Hai Karati after shave in a bottle , but I guess its probably gone off smell wise although it never did smell good IMO. More like a female repellent !