I use 'come' as both the verb and noun (although I rarely use the noun in my writing anyway).
I've always found 'cum' to be too vulgar for my uses (it's psychological, I can't explain it). I don't have any problem with people using it though, and have seen it executed quite expertly.
In either case, I like writers to be consistent.
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Clumeleon
My characters are mine; I generally know just about every little thing about them whether I put it on the page or not. I know how they would react in certain situations, things they would and wouldn't say, what's important to them. They tend to have little bits of myself in them, but are never me (except the one true story I've written).
For this reason, I would be reluctant to let someone embellish a story of mine or write follow-up stories based on my main characters. If someone did, I probably wouldn't be able to read it without constantly thinking, "No, he wouldn't do that; you've completely forgotten that he said this in the last chapter; where would he even MEET her?" and things like that. Hypothetically, if someone asked to use my characters on Lush, I would probably consent to it and just let them get on with it, knowing that their clone wouldn't really be the same person that I created.
Likewise, I wouldn't like to use someone else's character because I would struggle to really get inside their head. If I create a story 'from scratch' then I can do what I want with it and am not restricted to the framework already given to me.
For this reason, I would be reluctant to let someone embellish a story of mine or write follow-up stories based on my main characters. If someone did, I probably wouldn't be able to read it without constantly thinking, "No, he wouldn't do that; you've completely forgotten that he said this in the last chapter; where would he even MEET her?" and things like that. Hypothetically, if someone asked to use my characters on Lush, I would probably consent to it and just let them get on with it, knowing that their clone wouldn't really be the same person that I created.
Likewise, I wouldn't like to use someone else's character because I would struggle to really get inside their head. If I create a story 'from scratch' then I can do what I want with it and am not restricted to the framework already given to me.
Clumeleon
Listen to Dancing_Doll, she's a genius! However, I don't believe that guys are, in general, any more superficial than girls.
Sometimes, guys do have low sex drives, but once every 2 months is certainly cause for concern. It sounds to me as if the relationship has fizzled and you should definitely talk to him about it.
If you're waiting around for him to initiate sex when you really want it, then just jump his bones now and again, it might reignite the spark. If he is actively rejecting your advances then either he has lost interest in you and/or the relationship or there is something mentally or physically wrong with him; try to find out which. If it is the former, you can try to remedy the situation and get to the root of your problems, or just dump his ass (you're still young, after all, and there are plenty of cocks in the sea). If it is the latter, you can encourage him to seek appropriate help (probably a doctor) and support him through it; hopefully things will then get better for you two.
I am going to be so bold as to suggest that one problem in your relationship is that, instead of speaking to him about your issues, you are asking strangers on an erotic story website. Don't get me wrong, we're all happy to give our two cents, but there have been a lot of people on these forums recently looking for advice when they should have been looking a little closer to home in the first instance.
Sometimes, guys do have low sex drives, but once every 2 months is certainly cause for concern. It sounds to me as if the relationship has fizzled and you should definitely talk to him about it.
If you're waiting around for him to initiate sex when you really want it, then just jump his bones now and again, it might reignite the spark. If he is actively rejecting your advances then either he has lost interest in you and/or the relationship or there is something mentally or physically wrong with him; try to find out which. If it is the former, you can try to remedy the situation and get to the root of your problems, or just dump his ass (you're still young, after all, and there are plenty of cocks in the sea). If it is the latter, you can encourage him to seek appropriate help (probably a doctor) and support him through it; hopefully things will then get better for you two.
I am going to be so bold as to suggest that one problem in your relationship is that, instead of speaking to him about your issues, you are asking strangers on an erotic story website. Don't get me wrong, we're all happy to give our two cents, but there have been a lot of people on these forums recently looking for advice when they should have been looking a little closer to home in the first instance.
Clumeleon
I was in a very similar situation to you - I thought opportunities would abound once I got to university, but it turned out to be fairly similar to high school, in that respect. I eventually did lose my virginity in the second semester (it's one of my stories, Smokin' Aces, if you're really interested).
I hadn't planned on it happening; I didn't see it coming at all, it just happened. In the moment, you know it's right. I have no regrets about how I lost it, even though I wasn't in love or even a relationship with the girl.
So you don't have to necessarily wait for 'Mr Right', but certainly don't rush into anything because you think you should. Don't over-think it and it will happen when the time is right for you. Don't worry - I have friends who have been in uni for 2 or 3 years now and are still virgins.
I hadn't planned on it happening; I didn't see it coming at all, it just happened. In the moment, you know it's right. I have no regrets about how I lost it, even though I wasn't in love or even a relationship with the girl.
So you don't have to necessarily wait for 'Mr Right', but certainly don't rush into anything because you think you should. Don't over-think it and it will happen when the time is right for you. Don't worry - I have friends who have been in uni for 2 or 3 years now and are still virgins.
Clumeleon
This could be in the 'Relationship Advice' section, although you're likely to get some guys posting here anyway.
I think such a relationship can bring its own set of difficulties on top of the crap 'regular' couples go through. I think it takes real strength of character to have a successful long distance relationship but there are examples the world over of people doing it. Love conquers all, as the say. I'd be willing to do it for the right person.
On the plus side, I bet what little time they do get to spend together is incredible.
I think such a relationship can bring its own set of difficulties on top of the crap 'regular' couples go through. I think it takes real strength of character to have a successful long distance relationship but there are examples the world over of people doing it. Love conquers all, as the say. I'd be willing to do it for the right person.
On the plus side, I bet what little time they do get to spend together is incredible.
Clumeleon
I have succumbed to the will of readers before and written a sequel I had not originally intended to. Naturally, it was not as popular as the first (although the third in the eventual trilogy came close). I was fortunate enough that the characters were pretty well-formed in my mind and I quickly got a clear idea of where I wanted their story to go.
Conversely, I have also done the opposite. I have written stories with the intention of giving it a sequel and then never done so. This is usually when I fall out of love with the story or the characters and just don't get the right feeling about carrying on. That said, none of my stories are such that they cannot be read as stand-alone pieces, so any cliffhangers I set up are simply to leave a little to the reader's imagination, an air of mystery, not because there's necessarily more to be told.
It's important for me, as a writer, to really enjoy what I'm writing, or it won't be any good. If I don't feel I can do justice to a sequel or if I feel I've taken the characters far enough, then I won't write one, no matter how much the readers beg and plead (HA!). Likewise, if I get a strong urge to write a sequel to one of my stories, even if it was relatively unpopular, I will go ahead and do that. I think most writer know, themselves, when it feels right.
As a reader, I have seen some wonderful examples on this site of excellent follow-ups and long-running series. Some writers carry it off extraordinarily well. However, I've read some abysmal stories as a result of writer being pressured into writing an unnecessary, unplanned, rushed sequel. Avoid this!
Conversely, I have also done the opposite. I have written stories with the intention of giving it a sequel and then never done so. This is usually when I fall out of love with the story or the characters and just don't get the right feeling about carrying on. That said, none of my stories are such that they cannot be read as stand-alone pieces, so any cliffhangers I set up are simply to leave a little to the reader's imagination, an air of mystery, not because there's necessarily more to be told.
It's important for me, as a writer, to really enjoy what I'm writing, or it won't be any good. If I don't feel I can do justice to a sequel or if I feel I've taken the characters far enough, then I won't write one, no matter how much the readers beg and plead (HA!). Likewise, if I get a strong urge to write a sequel to one of my stories, even if it was relatively unpopular, I will go ahead and do that. I think most writer know, themselves, when it feels right.
As a reader, I have seen some wonderful examples on this site of excellent follow-ups and long-running series. Some writers carry it off extraordinarily well. However, I've read some abysmal stories as a result of writer being pressured into writing an unnecessary, unplanned, rushed sequel. Avoid this!
Clumeleon
Two of my friends are now aware that I write on an erotic story website, and one of them (who writes similar things herself) has read some of my work.
It's not something I have much desire to share with many people in my life. If you knew me in person, you would almost certainly not guess at this side of me. It would certainly not be the end of the world if everyone found out, but I don't want to have that conversation too often.
It's not something I have much desire to share with many people in my life. If you knew me in person, you would almost certainly not guess at this side of me. It would certainly not be the end of the world if everyone found out, but I don't want to have that conversation too often.
Clumeleon
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My advice is my motto which is down below vvvv
your advice is be strong, be tough, be proud, be a Steeler's fan? ok, you seriously need to rethink that as to how it applies here!
I think he meant the other part of his sig:
"Life Is Too DAMN!!!! Short To Be Taken Too DAMN!!!! Serious."
I hope so, anyway. Ha.