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Clumeleon
I find it very interesting that this was posted in Ask The Guys. That's the problem, isn't it? We (unconsciously) let men decide what the measure of a woman is.
In fact, the transition from girl to woman should have fuck all to do with us and everything to do with that person's own experiences and personal development. Instead, too many girls think that they become a woman when a man deems them to be so, or tells them that they are.
Patriarchal bullshit, is what it is.
So don't 'Ask The Guys' what the difference between a girl and a woman is. We don't decide that. Our opinion is irrelevant.
I know the question was innocent enough, but it's indicative of a bigger problem and it would be remiss of me to sit by and let this thread fill up with arbitrary judgements that unwittingly undermine the self-esteem and self-determination of a fuck load of women.
In fact, the transition from girl to woman should have fuck all to do with us and everything to do with that person's own experiences and personal development. Instead, too many girls think that they become a woman when a man deems them to be so, or tells them that they are.
Patriarchal bullshit, is what it is.
So don't 'Ask The Guys' what the difference between a girl and a woman is. We don't decide that. Our opinion is irrelevant.
I know the question was innocent enough, but it's indicative of a bigger problem and it would be remiss of me to sit by and let this thread fill up with arbitrary judgements that unwittingly undermine the self-esteem and self-determination of a fuck load of women.
Clumeleon
Quote by stephanie
NOT THE SAME BILL!!!! READ THE FUCKING PAPER!
First of all, you need to calm the fuck down.
Secondly, when I said "the equivalent bill", I meant equivalent to the English bill Katie referred to.
Thirdly, I am not referring to civil partnerships (trust me - I've taught classes on same-sex marriage law around the world). We had those before too, but only recently legalised MARRIAGE between two people of the same sex. I'm going to my cousin's wedding and she will leave with a WIFE, not a civil partner.
Now, I have no idea if Ireland's forthcoming legislation is basically the same thing or something fundamentally different (you talk about constitution, and Britain doesn't really have one), but you seem quite confident that Ireland is a pioneer in whatever it's doing, so I'm inclined to believe you.
But rest assured, what was legislated for in Scotland last year guarantees the same rights to same-sex married couples as to opposite-sex couples. Indeed, Scotland just topped some league table about legal equality for LGBTI people. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-32683817
So yes, let's celebrate this historic occasion together with Ireland, but please don't belittle the hard work that has been done to achieve equality for LGBTI people in other parts of the world.
Clumeleon
Quote by KatieElizabeth
I'm thrilled about this too
Gay marriage became legal in England in March last year. I have no plans to marry right now, but it's amazing and also liberating to know I can if I want to
Scotland passed the equivalent bill last year, too. I'm going to my first "gay wedding" (my cousin's) in two weeks.
Ireland is (or will be) the first country to legalise same-sex marriage as a result of a popular vote.
Clumeleon
Quote by sprite
oh, you really want to get in a pissing match about EPs, do you? bring it, Scotty.
No, your majesty... *shuffles off*
Seriously though, in response to the question:
It's, quite simply, gender stereotyping to say that women will like a certain type of story and men another, or that women will be more likely to read an author's work because of reason X, so I'm not going to say that.
Whatever you write, as long as it appeals to you, it will appeal to someone else, be they men or women. I'm quite happy if my cat gives my writing more than a passing glance.
Clumeleon
Quote by sprite
you left out:
post lots of cock pix on your profile
and
always open with the line 'what are you wearing?' when you black box them.
So, you didn't like the cock pix? Hold on, I'll send another one from a slightly different angle - you'll LOVE it!!!
Also, you never did tell me what you're wearing, so I'm gonna assume nothing. You got ?
Clumeleon
Quote by stephanie
I PM'D you the unedited version YOU FUCKING CUTE BITCH!!!
LAUGHING ALOUD
xx SF
This is a prime example of how to attract a female audience:
• Make it seem as though you are female by giving yourself a female name
• Use capital letters and exclamation marks, A LOT!!!
• Call girls bitches.
• Send girls unsolicited PMs about your stories.
Clumeleon
Quote by stephanie
(To Explain... It is INCREDIBLY offensive to call SCOTTISH people, (or SCOTS...) *SCOTCH*... (That's so BAD!) To refer to a KILT as a SKIRT is almost as offensive. As you can see I DID BOTH... )
Glad you explained. Thought I was being called a religious cross-dressing whisky.
Clumeleon
Quote by Dani
Callum brought this up before, but I'd love it if every time I deleted a post, it didn't resolve to the first page of a thread.
It gets tedious when removing multiple posts within a thread to have to go back and search for where I first began removing posts.
I spoke to Gav about this and, basically, no. It's horrible forum code that no one wants to touch.