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Bisexual Cis Male, 35
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Clumeleon
Quote by AriOli101
I'm aware this is ask the guys, but I'm curious - do men generally care less about romanticism,or is that just a bad stereotype?
From my experience, it's a bad stereotype. I would probably say a majority of the guys I know are very romantic, or try to be. They care a lot about making an evening or an occasion special for their lady, and are not only thinking about sex.
I like to do romantic things. I like to do things I know she will enjoy a lot, and that show that I really care about her and her interests. I like to surprise her with flowers. I like to take her out for a nice meal at aswanky restaurant. I like to make her feel really special.
With my ex, our first proper date was to go see stand-up comedy, because I knew how much she loved live comedy. She really appreciated the thought and consideration I put into that.
Some girls just appreciate me offering my arm as we walk, or my jacket when it gets cold. Little things can be just as nice as grand gestures. Call me old-fashioned, but a man should express his romanticism in every little way he can.
Clumeleon
I've never been crazy on the whole threesome thing. I'm not completely dismissing it, but I wouldn't say it's a fantasy of mine.
I can imagine that the guys you've known to back out have felt a bit of pressure. Guys often talk a good game, but a lot of them are probably at least a little insecure or uncertain about how good they really are in bed. A brand new sexual experience like this could serve to heighten his anxiety.
If they're faced with the prospect of two women, maybe they're feeling pressured to do twice the work they usually do. Maybe they're nervous about trying to please a new sexual partner.
If they're faced with bringing another man into the mix, they may feel threatened. What if they don't "measure up"? What if his girl is more interested in the other guy? What if some bisexual stuff goes down that he wasn't really mentally prepared for?
It's also possible that the guy never really wanted a threesome in the first place, but was more in love with the idea of a threesome. Maybe he felt, because of this "common knowledge" you talk about that he's supposed to want a threesome.
Like I say, I'm not crazy on threesomes, and the situation you describe has never been a reality for me, so I don't actually know. But guys have their hang-ups, too.
I can imagine that the guys you've known to back out have felt a bit of pressure. Guys often talk a good game, but a lot of them are probably at least a little insecure or uncertain about how good they really are in bed. A brand new sexual experience like this could serve to heighten his anxiety.
If they're faced with the prospect of two women, maybe they're feeling pressured to do twice the work they usually do. Maybe they're nervous about trying to please a new sexual partner.
If they're faced with bringing another man into the mix, they may feel threatened. What if they don't "measure up"? What if his girl is more interested in the other guy? What if some bisexual stuff goes down that he wasn't really mentally prepared for?
It's also possible that the guy never really wanted a threesome in the first place, but was more in love with the idea of a threesome. Maybe he felt, because of this "common knowledge" you talk about that he's supposed to want a threesome.
Like I say, I'm not crazy on threesomes, and the situation you describe has never been a reality for me, so I don't actually know. But guys have their hang-ups, too.
Clumeleon
I like detail that's relevant. A good piece of writing allows me to build up an image of the characters and setting that is sufficient to the purposes of the story. The image in my mind might be completely different from the writer's, but that doesn't matter if the differences don't impact at all on the story or the characters' relationships.
Overly-detailed descriptions, just for the sake of it, are not endearing. I think some writers, wanting the reader to see things exactly as they do, fall foul of this. Think about what's important and what's natural to say.
As a writer, I have sometimes omitted detail on purpose. With one story, I wanted my male readers to be able to put themselves in the position of the main character, so I left his physical characteristics very vague. I know other writers have kept a character's gender ambiguous, either for wider appeal or as an experiment.
But you also don't want to leave too much to the imagination without good cause. Good, relevant details are important in shaping your characters and their environment.
Overly-detailed descriptions, just for the sake of it, are not endearing. I think some writers, wanting the reader to see things exactly as they do, fall foul of this. Think about what's important and what's natural to say.
As a writer, I have sometimes omitted detail on purpose. With one story, I wanted my male readers to be able to put themselves in the position of the main character, so I left his physical characteristics very vague. I know other writers have kept a character's gender ambiguous, either for wider appeal or as an experiment.
But you also don't want to leave too much to the imagination without good cause. Good, relevant details are important in shaping your characters and their environment.
Clumeleon
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