I have faked an orgasm once. I had already come and so had she but we were still going... for AGES. We were both satisfied and exhausted customers but I felt awkward just stopping rather unceremoniously so I hammed it up a bit then "came" again. Then we snuggled and it was nice.
Thanks to everyone for their responses. You've shown compassion and given me a lot to think about. A lot of you have brought up the "being friends" thing so I wanna give you my perspective on that.
We were good friends for a long time before we got together and helped each other through a lot of hard times, as friends. From the first time we met, we just clicked and that, no matter what else has happened, has been a constant. After we broke up, the relationship reverted, by default, back to that. Yes, I still have strong feelings for her but I don't spend time with her to try to persuade her to get back with me. Likewise, she doesn't hang out with me because she feels "guilty" about breaking my heart. We're genuinely friends and we would spend time together like that even if the relationship had never happened.
I understand people saying that I should put some distance between us and give myself time away from her. Indeed, I recognised that as a good idea very soon after the break-up. However, it has gotten to the point where we now spend time together as friends again (I'm finding this difficult to put into words). I don't even know how I would now go about creating that distance - we have classes together, we share mutual friends, we are part of each other's lives. Do I just cut her out of my life? Do I start avoiding her in hallways and ignoring her texts? Do I tell her, "Hey, I'm still insanely in love with you so we can't hang out any more."?
We just are close and I don't know how to change that. People often say you can't be friends with your ex but it's more like I'm exes with my friend (if that even makes sense).
A little bit more information: We were together for nine months; not a terribly long relationship, I know, but my longest and it was, at one point, really going somewhere. We broke up after a miserable summer apart - something changed, we're not sure what, and she didn't feel the same about me physically (she felt awkward kissing me, holding hands, etc.). She felt it was unfair to me to carry on like that. So when I say "she broke up with me" it was more that her feelings had changed such that we both knew the relationship had to come to an end.
I know it sounds like I'm dismissing a lot of your comments but I'm not; I'm just trying to figure out how to actually best put them into action. There's part of me that really doesn't want to let her go and is even content to wait, however long it takes. I'm not unhappy about being alone, only about not being with her. I know that's not healthy but it's a very difficult internal battle for me.
Thanks again, really.
A very happy birthday to a very nice man. I'm glad to have his acquaintance.
It's now over three months since my girlfriend broke up with me. I took it really hard, probably harder than I even realised at the time, and wrote a mushy poem about how I still believe we'll end up together but now isn't the time. I've been dealing with it, or trying to, and I've even started dating someone else.
The thing is, I'm still madly in love with her. Not a day goes by when I don't think about being with her again or wishing that she'd somehow take me back. But nothing's actually changed in these three months so there's no reason why she would and, if she did, it would probably end in exactly the same way. I really thought I'd get over her by now but, if anything, it's getting harder over time.
We're still friends - good friends - and when I'm around her it's so easy just to be myself and talk about real shit, like we have since before we got together. When I'm with her though, I need to battle with every fibre of my being that wants to hold her hand and kiss her and, sometimes, throw her down on the bed and have amazing sex, like we used to. I've had no indication from her that she shares any of these feelings.
Part of me is still clinging onto the hope that we'll get back together soon; part of me is waiting for her. Because I feel like that, I'm finding it really difficult to move on, like it would be unfair to start seeing someone else when I'm sure I'm destined for this girl.
One of my best friends has told me I'm crazy to still be hung up on this girl and that I deserve better than to wait around on this girl who is, in some ways, toying with my emotions. Am I crazy?
There's a very real possibility of me having sex for the first time in a long time on Saturday and I have no idea how to feel about it. It almost feels like I'll be cheating on her (which is ridiculous, I know) and that, if I do have sex with someone else, that's really the end for us.
So, what do you think? Do you think I'm nuts and should forget about being back with her? Or do you think it's worth waiting for if I really love her?
Also, is it fair on anyone else for me to date them and sleep with them if I'm still seriously hung up on this girl?
Any general advice on the situation is welcome, too. This situation is becoming an obsession and my mind is so tired. I'm just at a loss and know that some of you lovely Lushies give some really sound advice. Thanks in advance.
Thank You For The Venom (My Chemical Romance)
I suppose I would go back to about a year ago and tell myself not to fuck up the relationship I just started because getting over it is going to be fucking difficult. Also, to start saving money like crazy because I'm going to be poor by the end of the year. And to be the best friend I can be.
It's A Wonderful Life. Just... never got around to it.
I can't recall ever sitting ON them but sometimes when you sit down they find themselves in an uncomfortable position, like wedges in your groin or bunched up near your penis to give you an awkward bulge. I bet this guy never even thought about what he was doing; it becomes such a natural thing for guys.
It's a hard life for men...
Props for commitment to the BS though.
Genital piercing can be very hot; I'm a big fan. That's in theory of course as I've never been with a girl who has any. I think piercing can be extremely sexy anyway. My ex got a bar in the back of her neck and I effing loved it.
Black Rebel Motorcycle Club. A friend just texted me to ask if I wanted to go see them and I'd never heard of them.
I've had a long, stressful semester and all I want is a little time to just do nothing. I want to relax and eat and drink with family and just not think about anything else, just for a little while.
My ideal girl cares about and remembers the little things that mean a lot to me. She doesn't necessarily understand why I think things are important but she tries to and she supports me in them as much as she can. Occasionally, she does things she doesn't want to, like hang out with my friends who she doesn't like, because she knows I'll appreciate it.
To please me, all my ideal girl has to do is want to please me; I'll be happy with whatever she does if her heart is in it. She doesn't have to try too hard because our bodies and lives are in rhythm and it all comes naturally. In the bedroom, she goes with the flow, sensing my needs and desires (and I reciprocate); we guide each other with our actions.
All I need on a regular basis is one of those kisses that lets me know she's there for me.
She sounds great, doesn't she?
For me, the ultimate compliment someone can pay my stories is to say that it made them think or that it touched them in some way. This might mean it helped them to view something in a different light, or think about something they hadn't previously considered. It might mean that it struck a cord with them emotionally, for whatever reason.
Only very rarely have people ever said that my stories have made them hard/wet, or that kind of thing. My writing isn't the raunchiest but I like to think that it has some depth (some of it anyway). Of course, it's always nice to hear that your erotic fiction has turned someone on but that's never been my main objective (indeed, sometimes it's the very opposite).
To hear people say they laughed out loud or shed a tear to my story - that makes me the happiest writer in the world. If they can rub one out to it, too, that's just a nice bonus.
I've photoshopped one of mine so that I look like Danger Mouse. Oh, and I think one of them is in B+W.
Licked and sucked? I can take it or leave it. However, the best blow jobs I've ever had are when she gently massages the balls with one hand while sucking the cock. Outstanding!
It's a 15-puzzle of a Stormtrooper. I haven't worked out if it's in a solvable configuration.
Spaghetti and meatballs, probably.
I don't use many contractions in my prose; just a personal style preference. In dialogue, I think about a) how I would say it, and b) how I imagine the character would say it. It's usually pretty clear to me which is the most appropriate. My recommendation would be to not think about it too much; you'll notice if there is a break in flow when you read back later.
like when are we going to have the 'do your own theme' contest OR better yet, the Figging contest!
