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One of my unsatisfied fantasies, I'm afraid. Someday...
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Irish is sexy as are some of the Southern US ones (more the southeast, Texas/Oklahoma drawls aren't that sexy to me). Spanish and some of the Hispanic ones sound beautiful as well. In the end, though, it is the voice rather than the accent. The accent is just part of the equation. I've met Irish voices that didn't do anything for me and plain old Eastern Canadian ones that do.
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Irish is sexy as are some of the Southern US ones (more the southeast, Texas/Oklahoma drawls aren't that sexy to me). Spanish and some of the Hispanic ones sound beautiful as well. In the end, though, it is the voice rather than the accent. The accent is just part of the equation. I've met Irish voices that didn't do anything for me and plain old Eastern Canadian ones that do.
What about the English accent?
What about the Liverpool accent?
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I've seen the word "cheat" bandied about in many threads. It always refers to sex outside a relationship without the knowledge or consent of your partner. I've often read in profiles or in the forums about people whose partners have gone off sex and the relationship has become sexless.
So the question is: In a sexual relationship is denying sex for a long period cheating if it isn't for medical reasons?
So the question is: In a sexual relationship is denying sex for a long period cheating if it isn't for medical reasons?
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Quote by JohnC
It is simple... "cheating" involves anything that is against set rules. The degree of cheating and what it means to a relationship depends on what rule or agreement was broken. It is really that simple. What may be cheating to one relationship may NOT be cheating to another based on the rules and agreements they have. And a good rule of thumb is that if you have to ASK if it is cheating, there is a good chance that it IS. But if in doubt, ask your partner, not "others"; because in the end, THAT is what matters, not what we think.
I remember this guy! Really sad, he was only about 30 and hadn't had sex for years, his wife went off sex altogether! I don't know how he coped at that age!
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Quote by HotBttmInBriefs
I have to disagree about a hand job too. Some of the hottest cums I have had have been hand jobs given while driving, under the table during dinner, in a bar under the table, etc.
The perfect one has the right amount of pressure...a firm but gentle touch....and a mixture of speeds, slow for the build and fast at the right moment.
I do know how to masturbate and I do enjoy it very much, but at times there is nothing like a different hand wrapped around ur cock at that moment when regular intercourse or a blow job just isn't an option.
I'll admit that my post was slightly tongue in cheek. However your 2nd paragraph shows that you will do it better than anyone can because of the timings. You know the exact moment to increase or decrease speed and or pressure.
Your 3rd paragraph also is the same for me, it's the bronze medal of sex but hey, you got something.
It can be incredibly hot but the op wasn't about the hottest, it was about the ideal.
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I'll have to respectfully disagree with the esteemed Mr. DPW. i fucking LOVE a good hand job. One of the very best orgasms I ever had in my life came from an unexpected handjob. A hand can do so much more than a mouth and a pussy and an ass. (Not to say I'd give any of them up for a life of handjobs) Hands can change speeds more easily, change grip pressure, angles, grips, can go straight up and down or add some twists, long strokes, short strokes. RAWR!!!
Now in my older life I'd say an ideal handjob would be one that I'm not expecting. Maybe we're going to a party or something and both dressed, she's just done her makeup. Just before we leave I go to the bathroom, she sneaks up behind me and when I'm done peeing, reaches around and takes me into her hand. Talks dirty in my ear while she strokes me hard and then until I cum.
Or a secret and slow hand job in a pool. Or at in a bathroom at a party. Or in the shower with me.
Lol! Esteemed my ass! That and "in my older life" made me laugh so much.
Anyway you've certainly given steamy scenarios but do they answer the questions?
The op asked about the stroke i.e. length, speed, pressure, area, lube etc. all the things that are natural to me. I'm not even saying that it's as exciting but that wasn't the question either. I suppose THE ideal one would be by someone who you fantasised about and who could read your mind.
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The way a man says my name when he wants me! There is nothing like the sound of your name laced with passion, want, desire and urgency
I can imagine that a guy saying throbbing wet pussy could be a real turn on and it might just turn him on too!
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Hey Lush, I have a question for you as an author.
As an author, I would never directly question a friend or stranger's vote on my story, but I received a comment lately that got me thinking. Is it appropriate to vote down a story simply because you don't like the style the author chose to write in? The member who left me the note said that they don't enjoy the style of poem I wrote, but that it's an excellent example of that style, yet still voted down. It's no problem to me if somebody doesn't like it, but if they think that it's GOOD, but not their cup of tea, is that really a reason for a negative review?
I'm also interested to ask readers why the vote on a story at all. What earns a positive or negative review? How much do you think about the score you're giving?
I asked myself all these questions regarding the stories and poems that I score as well. I really don't want anybody to think that I'm upset about my average score - I'm not, I'm very pleased. That commentary just made me think, and now I'm curious...
Well I've been scoring all the stories that I read as it stops me reading them twice. I usually leave a comment but they are generally good. As for the scores the genre plays little part, I vote on how good the writing is.
I recently read 2 stories 1 crossdressing and 1 both of which I didn't "enjoy" but couldn't stop reading! They both got 5, they were really well written and gripping.
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I get what you're saying and didn't think of it that way... She won't thank me as she isn't really one to realize ones efforts as such!
It's not just being horny though dude. Like it sometimes feels to me like she isn't even attracted to me, some guys might react like "if she's not giving me any attention she must be getting the attention off someone else" I trust her enough to believe this isn't the case.
I think you're right about not putting her under stress, or putting myself under stress, just wish that alone resulted in how I feel going away.
I may have been worried if it had happened earlier but not after so long. You've got to realise that women have this ability to prioritise better than men. She knows that the finals are her short term goal and everything else takes a back seat for a while.
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Yeah, marriage ends in 2 ways, divorce or death, so 50/50 would make sense ;)
I made my mistakes in younger relationships, I was so "active and horny" back then, that mistakes were inevitable and I assumed as things are on the decline, I kinda guessed things would continue, 30-50 years sounds good though lol.
Could you say I kinda became dependent on that throughout my time at uni? And the change has been hard for me, and now the idea that I can't even flirt without being put down just kinda frustrates me...
I dunno, maybe I should just stick it out, that seems to be the most occurring answer here.
I just feel it'd be easier to bring it up now as I'm down rather than face to face if she declines doing something I'd perceive as normal.
You've got through 3 1/2 years, wait another few months. It'll be clearer when you're together.
Here's the curveball! What if you put pressure on her coming up to her finals and she fucks up? Will she forgive you and will you forgive yourself?
What if you fuck up? Will you forgive yourself?
For the sake a few months, wait. She'll thank you for not adding to the stress she must already be under. Just go buy a porno and beat off!
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Being a gay bottom I guess you can say I am some what of an expert on this subject. Please do not try doggy style as someone suggested because this is definitely not a beginner's position. That position allows for a deeper penetration and gives control to the man behind you which may not be in tune with what you are feeling in terms of pain. The two of you facing each other can also be challenging because you would have to adopt an uncomfortable and unnatural position, especially for the first time (you do have to remember that our anal passages are way back in our bodies, so we have to lift our legs and lower torso even higher in order to allow for the penetration to happen and if the anal passage is not straight, the intruding member will bend opening the hole even more causing lots of more pain, the beginner will feel it 100 fold) and again, the man has complete control, even more so than doggie style. At least in a doggie style position, you may go forward and escape the pressure that he is applying. The same thing would apply to you being on your belly. You would surrender all of the control to your man which may not be so good for the beginner.
For the first time, a good position is for both of you to be spooning (on the side) because even though the control is still on his hands, you may still escape if the pressure is applied to fast, plus he may hug you while you both kiss. In this position you will feel lots of reassuring and loving body contact so you may concentrate on relaxing your anal muscle. You may also flex your knees a little while bringing them (together) towards your head (but not too high up on your body either, just about 90 degrees off of your torso), your legs should move parallel to the bed, not towards the ceiling. This knees and legs position is very important because it will naturally part your ass cheeks giving him a better and easier access to your anal cavity. By the way, penetration in this position is not only a good and loving beginners position, but also provides a penetration that is not as deep as doggie style. My advice to a beginner though (the best position), is to try riding your man. The man has to be laying flat on his back as you lower yourself on his hard shaft. This gives you full and complete control... you will decide how fast and how deep you want to go and can wait as long as you like to accommodate to a new feeling and sensation. There are lots of people that have tried anal sex and didn't like it, and the reason is because they did not have the luxury of riding their first man.
But before you try out any of these positions you still have to think about using an fleet anal cleaning solution, and work on gently massaging and stretching your sphincter with a small finger at first and gradually insert more and more. In my experience, stretching before sex is more important to relax the sphincter of the beginner than the actual act of stretching your hole. The key to anal sex is to relax your sphincter and use lots and lots of lube. The best are water based like K-Y, Anal Ease or Astro Glide but these will last a lot less and will have to be reapplied a lot sooner than lubes that are oil based. Also, water based lubes are much easier to clean and wash than oil based lubes. The reason I would not use oil based or non-water based lubes is that they will heat up and cause a burning sensation, and if a condom is worn (which I highly recommend) may break it out of friction. I have done it without lube using spit instead and it works wonders for those improvised moments of intense heat between me and my man but would not recommend it for the beginner. Cum also works great and there are quite a few men that pre-cum rivers which will also work quite nicely (not for the beginner). I have had men ask me to suck on their cocks as sloppily as I could, drooling all over their shafts so that we may use my own spit as lube. By the way, without lube it may also be painful for your man although I imagine not as much. I am not sure of this because I am 100% bottom, but I have heard a few men complain.
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I've put a lot into the relationship, we're both young (probably immature as a result) and that's what bothers me, I don't want to be in a sexless relationship, especially whilst I'm still active and horny. I don't wanna annoy her again by bringing it up. I feel right now I should I make up for the lack of contact by asking her to do wild things because otherwise I don't know whether it's all talk to keep me happy or whether things will change later.
Really appreciate you guys taking some time out, no guarantee I can reply to everyone but I am taking note.
I think that you must be one of the sweetest guys on this site. Do you know the chances of success for a first love ending in marriage and if it did the divorce rate is 1 in 2. You haven't said but I guess you haven't cheated on her even at your age and raging hormones. Whoever you do marry is going to be lucky.
If you've had a sexual relationship during the vacations the chances are that will resume when you get together. Personally sexting, cyber and phone sex does nothing but frustrate me because I can't touch and that's what I need.
I also think it's fantastic that you've got through all but a few months of the time apart, you're almost there! Don't start doubting too much, throw yourself into studying for your finals.
The big laugh I got from your post was "while I'm still active and horny". I have to let you know that you've got at least another 30 to 50 years of that! It doesn't fade much and the better you become the more you want to do it.
Good luck.
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For us it is more foreplay or teasing than roleplay. We try to do the roleplay as i mentioned, usually pretending to be strangers but most of our outings, it is all about sexual texting, comments or a little bit of touchung. Love the all day/evening foreplay.
Yes I mentioned it didn't have to be roleplay, I knew you meant more than just that and it doesn't even have to be a text. You can be in the most unsexy place in the world and a mere look can start the ball rolling, a raised eyebrow, a half smile, a lick of the lips, an casual brush of your hand. If you know what you're doing the mere promise of things to come can be electrifying.
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Let me try to say it differently... what a brat does in BDSM is not the Alpha Challenge. The brat's control extends past issues of conflict and apparent control. They dictate and lead the relationship and dynamic, in both times of struggle AND in times of conflict. The Alpha Challenge is a game that is played by some, yes, but is not really a part of the D/s dynamic involving brats. It can LOOK that way, but only if you ONLY focus on times of conflict. In the BDSM community, the brat is the one in control... or attempting to be.... in both conflict and peace.
So these brats get everywhere!
Gay brats are fun, I think you get the best sex with them but you have to earn it! High risk and high reward, lol.
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I like when our foreplay/teasing starts early in the day with a note left for one of us or a text message. It can be all day teasing or something that starts when the two of us our out for the eve.ing on a "date". (We have been married over 30 years and still date- each other). Sometimes when we are out, we pretend to be strangers meeting up, other times just texting goes back and forth between us while people around us at the restaurant of bar have no idea of the content of the playful/erotic messages. I love when we get home, put.on some music, open a bottle of.wine, take a shower and slip on very little clothing...if any at all. We sip wine, talk and lots.of times dance. Some close sensual dancig, as swell as the hustle or swing dancing. Throughout the time, there is kissing and touching as well as someone maybe being pushed down onto a chair and having a little oral sex performed.on them. Maybe we go back to dancing or baving more wine, maybe we stay where we are and have wild sex or move to tbe bedroom (or other room in the house) to make love or get a little "kinky". This all to me is foreplay/teasing. Unfortunately sometimes time does not permit and we have a quickie wit h very little foreplay.
I'm surprised that nobody else picked up on this answer. Although it can be role play it doesn't need to be. I've always thought that foreplay starts with visual expressions and verbal suggestions. Just a look can lead to excitement! The best foreplay starts before you even touch your partner.
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Yes I always check the profiles, it's the same in the chat rooms, I always check the profile after the initial hello. It shows, I feel, that you are at least interested enough to find out something about them. I can't see the point in chatting to someone, or asking them to be your friend if you can't be bothered to look beyond the face pic . Like you said, we are not all here for the sex, but then again if we weren't here for at least a little bit of that, we wouldn't be here at all.
I'm not sure about the last line, some of us just don't like those puzzle books.4nKUpCrSiB8XN1U1
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But you see, there is NO CHALLENGE. LOL YOU would be the one being "worked", not the other way around. You may enjoy the "struggle" and the "conflict", but trust me, you are not working anyone. It isn't like breaking a wild horse. Once you have broken them it is over. You will NEVER "break" a brat. Their GOAL is to work YOU into dominating them until they must surrender (NOT SUBMIT, there is a mental difference between the two). And then when it is over, they NEED that again, and will play you over and over and over. They are in control, not you.
Hey, get me in a BDSM thread.
I agree that brats are not subs but not that they're in control, rather you have to "earn" the control. It's not D/S nor S/M it's a totally seperate roleplay. It is more Alpha dominance and control and much more aggressive than D/S but the rewards can be fantastic if you like the struggle.
It's not a constant fight as many seem to think and, to my mind, more interesting. I could never get into D/S as I'd find it too mild, that will upset some doms, I prefer the Alpha challenge. "Chacun a son gout!" as the French say.
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Quote by NickiCIn the beginning I didn't understand the way it worked here. I like a profile with some interests. I did not realize that people have several profiles so now I am more careful and selective.
WHAT! WHY?
Why would anyone have more than two? I was going to say one but I'd make an allowance for a trans or c/d who may take on a different persona. Even in that case it should say on both profiles.
I assume this is for the purpose of the chatrooms and not the forums? It must be a lot of work if it was the forums trying to remember what you've posted and as who.
I have to stick with one, as everyone knows, I'd end up argueing with myself!
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Quote by Dani
This may be a weird or even illogical line of thinking, but the divorce rate being what it is has always made sense to me. If I'm not mistaken, it's at around 50%. That's how relationships are. 50/50 chance that it will or won't work.
It doesn't mean the love wasn't there. Other things got in the way and it wasn't as strong as you thought. That doesn't mean that it was never real love. Just because you truly love someone doesn't mean you're meant to be together forever.
There are different types of love. When things come to an end, it doesn't mean the love didn't exist...it just wasn't the right kind of love.
Yes the divorce rate today makes sense to me, the ease at which to get a divorce often means a couple will split up rather than trying to work things out.
I think love certainly does exist but, true love, I'm not too sure about. It's undefineable, therefore is it just a fantasy? I actually think that it does exist but it's a rare commodity and people are too willing to give up the search and settle for what's on offer, knowing that it's easy to move on if it doesn't work out.