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Quote by Sexybebe
my bf wants to have a 3-some, with double penetration, so we tried anal this morning for the first time, and I could not go thru with it. Hurt so bad, once he got the tip of his c..ck inside me, I told him to stop, hurt so bad. But now people are telling me we should have used lube, so I don't know maybe I will try again, but not any time soon, I am pretty sore now, and we did not even go all the way.

NO LUBE! Are you crazy? For the first time use too much not too little!
Also it will be better if you're on top, that way you set the pace. You have to be really relaxed to get the full enjoyment. Good luck.
Quote by Dani
Of course it exists. There's no set definition because it's different for everyone.

With the divorce rate as it is I sometimes wonder if it does really exist. Maybe it exists but we don't undestand what it is. Is it meant to be transient or fixed, fleeting or permanent, unique or transferable?
If it is different for every single person does it really exist or is it a state of mind?
Quote by daddysweetheart
I had many many one nighters in my 20's..

Some good , some not so good....


I might be the queen of them..

Kinda had a lot.
Some at fancy hotels, rent by the hour places
On a boat in a hot tub. In a limo
In army barracks.
In a public park

Ect ect ect..
Shrugs..






I've had more than one one night stand in one night!
Quote by Casualguy1st



I don't understand that answer.

None of us did!
Well I haven't come across anything like that but if anyone asked me not to read a story I'd want to read it to find out why! That would defeat the object.
As far as authors go they're just a cross section of Lush, you find good and bad everywhere.
Quote by TexasSon
So... I'm pretty casual about everything and something I find kinda funny is the...uhhh... slight hypocrisies of people on here. For instance, a lot of ladies get SO bent outta shape when others don't either read or pay attention to the info on their profiles. It is annoying though and I totally agree with them!

So, it more than cracks me up when I get hit up with a Chat Request while I'm in a ChatRoom and the person gets offended, slighted, pissed, or downright demeaning to me because I'm not into cybering much. I sometimes manage to be funny in the rooms, and then all of sudden I'm supposed to be Super Sexy Captain Cum Maker in a Private Chat..?.. errrr... if I claim to be the "Resident Idiot" in the ChatRooms, why the hell would you think I'm going to be any different in a Chat? ESPECIALLY when the first thing you say to me in that chat is: "You're funny!"

I say all of this really just to take a poll:

Is it rude to still be generally chatting around in a room when you have a Private Chat going?

Apparently, it is. I was just informed of this tonight. Which is funny, because I do this all the time and no one has ever seemed bothered or cared. The best part (and damn me for not having my Chats saved!) is the lady hit me up because she thought I was funny. Then when I maintained my usual jovial self in the Chat & ChatRoom - she became dissatisfied and ABRUPTLY switched gears, called me "rude", and then called me a "little boy".

...which is just awesome! I mean, I know the fellas on here never call out the ladies for being "teases", "bitches", "bitter old ladies" when they get turned down for chats. If someone's not into it, they're not into it - right? I know everyone simply respects that!

Weird thing, I'd just read your profile before I saw this post and it made me laugh.
The bio says your a clown, so what do people expect? If I was talking to a joker I'd be hoping for a fun chat with plenty of banter.
Do you honestly care if she was rude? Will it change your life? No! Just carry on being who you are and have fun.
Ok chaps, I'm intrigued to know, so please tell all:-
What an interesting question!

Do you consider cumming and orgasming the same thing ?
Yes but it's not. In my case the time between the two is so small that it feels like they are the same.

If not, can you describe how the two differ ?
The orgasm is affects your brain, cumming is a feeling in your balls and cock.

Are you disappointed if sex doesn't lead to you cumming ?
Sometimes if that is the aim. Not all sex is about cumming.

Realistically, once you've ejaculated, how long does it take you to be able to do it again ?
Usually a lot longer now than it used to. Varies between 15 mins and an hour, it used to be no longer than 20 mins.
They remind me of oysters, they taste better than they look!
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Just once, but we'd stayed up all night and I was coming down off X and he was taking forever to orgasm (a side-effect for guys). He just kept going and going. I fell asleep for a bit and then woke up again... apparently I hadn't missed much, he was still going.

Finally told him we'd have to try again later (I was getting sore). I rolled over and napped while he continued to chafe his dick with his hand for another hour.

Those were the days! Up all night, so to speak.
At least you knew what you were buying.
Quote by Mazza
Despite everything that's happened, I'll do my best not to put my ex down - certainly never ever in front of the kids and I've made a HUGE effort to make sure that mutual friends and family continue to treat him with respect. I feel that's important as he will continue to be a part of my life, because of the children. I also know that it makes it easier for other people in our lives to deal with our split (that's obviously not my primary concern, but it does help, I think)

The down side is that he doesn't seem to be extending the same courtesy and some of our "friends" and his family have completely cut me off... My tendency is to withdraw in difficult situations and I think that people find that hard to understand.

I am finding it hard to just keep my mouth shut, but honestly, apart from perhaps persuading people who probably weren't as close as I thought, I just don't see the benefit in getting into it...

All I can say is that you are the one that is showing maturity. I've got no children but my belief is that you don't pass the mistakes of parents onto children.
In my case there has never been any animosity after a break up. Mine were almost always engineered by me to have the least impact. No cheating on my part, with one exeption I just knew I wasn't in love with them. The one I was, I was scared of the commitment. Idiot!
Quote by barella_gurl
How would the ideal hand job be from a girl? how would you like them to stroke your penis and what would they do with their fingers what should their facial expressions be like in particular their eyes and if they should give much eye contact if any and what sexy quotes would they need to whisper to you to get you hot?

Please don't get carried away and describe the ideal blowjob as I am strictly after info on hand jobs.

There's no such thing as the ideal hand job from a partner for me. It's like the relation you don't like showing up on your doorstep that you pretend to like!
I know how to masturbate myself, I've spent years practicing. Nobody can do it as well as I can. I want a partner to do things I can't do not do things that I can do better!
Yes I've done it but not during a dry spell, it just happened. We continued to be friends but it was never mentioned again!
Quote by bluewolf12


What have they fallen asleep on you then or where they just really bad

No they weren't asleep but they may have well have been. They just lay there and there was no reaction, as though they just wanted to be used. I asked one guy if he wanted me to stop and he said no, he was really enjoying it! I asked him if he was like that every time he had sex, he said like what? He had no idea how to show any emotion at all! Sad.
Quote by trinket



I'm trying to decide if that was funny or sad

Neither, just annoying and frustrating. If I'd wanted to sleep with a sack of potatoes I'd have dug one up!
Quote by adagio_sabadicus
I would say that impaled on the weather vane atop the barn is. I get dizzy spinning.

Yes but on a still, clear day you get a wonderful view!
Quote by bluewolf12
Anybody fallen asleep during sex if so was it boredom or tired

I've never fallen asleep during sex but I have got up, dressed and left more than once because of boredom. If I have to check their pulse, well I'm not into necrophilia, I need some reaction!
Quote by MissMicah
Well the thought of 2 guys fully focused on only me...MMF

If you want them to focus on you, you want MFM.
MMF means they're having fun with each other as well as with you.P8p4L8GB5eKgnkdg
They're all too big for me!
I'm mammaphobic! The bigger they get the more I dislike them. So when a woman talks to me I always look at their face and women like that. Unless there's a really nice guy passing then I'm distracted.jXHmuM4vi13AASzb
Quote by Willy6941


I often fantasize about MMM threesomes. While I don't directly benefit from a cock in my ass, I like that I'm giving pleasure to the man fucking me. At the same time, I really enjoy a cock in my mouth. I think being fucked in both ends at the same time would be super-exciting.

Is this all happening on the Greyhound?
Quote by ukwelshguy
Doubt I would knowingly being observed

If you start off totally unobserved you can get to a point where a coach party walking past wouldn't stop you.bCEdQjUDPJid6Zms
Quote by seeker4


I think it is. I could never be gay, at least not without some internal conflict. I am just too attracted to women to focus totally on men. Men don't have tits, for one thing, and I luv me some tits.

Really, though, the main reason I haven't done it is that I am married. While I have strayed with women a few times, the need for discretion and my ongoing internal battle over the fact that I have strayed are what have kept me from pursuing an affair with a man. Not saying I've given it up, but I am increasingly looking at my life and thinking I need to get back to loving (including physically) the one I'm with and even give up my occasional dalliances with ladies, let alone starting to have them men.

Two questions and one piece of advice.
When did you become curious?
Where you already married?
Unless you are prepared to face the possibility of your whole life being turned upside down, then I'd keep to being curious. The biggest problem would be liking it a bit too much! The other thing is that I'd never advocate cheating but that's just me, may be if a partner has gone of sex I'd think differently.
Quote by HotBttmInBriefs
I think so many factors can play a part. Many that have already been listed.

I would have probably been longer if circumstances didn't just fall into place one day (well with a little help from the guy). Due to the area we lived in, my shyness at the time, etc. I would have never made the effort on my own. I would have just sat back.

Later I got married. And I was raised that cheating was wrong. So for the five years we were married other than my fantasies I was faithful to her. Yes I was still curious about the other side, but if I was still married today I would have still just been curious about that part of my life.

It is weird when I think about it, because I was raised and taught that sex outside of marriage was wrong too. I never have followed that one. LOL But the part of fidelity and cheating in marriage stuck.

I know your story and I think if I'd have been in your position I might have been the same, I'm monogamous even when my partner has cheated. I've even had chats on here with guys that are curious and warned them that they might be opening a can of worms. I think it is so much harder for a "straight" guy to become bi than to become gay. With gay there's little confusion, you know what you are and tend to accept it. With bi then you're attracted to both sexes and it can be hard to understand. I wonder if the confusion is part of the reason to be reluctant?
Quote by Willy6941

I don't so much like other men, but I like cocks.

Mine's not detachable!
Quote by Willy6941
I sometimes fantasize about blowing a stranger in the back of an inter-city bus on a night trip. Yes, I think I would do that.

Bus route, time and date please!
Quote by JohnC
I think that depends on the person, where they live, etc. It could be any number of reasons from cultural to personal. I think also it differs between men and women. I think it is still more acceptable (even on a personal level) for a woman to be bi-curious and then bi, then it is for a man. I think that society (and thus individuals) tend to think it is more acceptable for a woman to be broader (no pun intended) in where they fit in the sexualy scale than it is for men. I also think that for most men, the opportunities for a male/male encounter are far less than what women are presented with because of many factors as well. I could be wrong though, it is just what I think happens (or does not happen).

I understand that people are different and location plays a part, although moreso in USA, Canada and Oz than most of Europe. I certainly wouldn't agree that it's easier for women to hook up in fact I'm sure that there are more internet sites for guys.
My question is more to do with willingness to take that step, walk the walk not just talk the talk. Why are people reluctant to make that move if they want to?
"Procrastination is the thief of time", so they say!
Why does a bi curious man or woman wait so long to take the plunge?
I always thought that I was gay and apart from a disastrous night with a girl at 18 I only had sex with guys. When I went to uni I wasn't really out but I also wanted to know if I was certain I was gay so I slept with girls and even had 2 year relationships with a couple. After that I knew that I prefered guys but I was glad that I'd tried and enjoyed straight sex.
So what makes people wait, is it inhibitions, a lack of opportunity or something else. Why wait until it's possibly too late, nobody wants to die curious.
Quote by GentlemanJack
That I had some gay experiences when I was younger and some Bi MMF with an ex girlfriend. I would describe myself as Bisexual and sometimes I think she knows, maybe when she can see how much it turns me on when she fingers my arsehole, but I've never told her. I'm worried about the reaction and whether she's feel different about me.

I take it that she doesn't log on with you then.
Nice arse to finger by the way.iBplEvVSqWAHmseI
Quote by Carl_H
This LMFAO

Looks like Graham Souness on holiday!
Quote by GentlemanJack
Yes, when I was younger my mate and I watched a porno. He kept the film on while he went upstairs to get changed for the night out (and probably masturbate) and I carried on watching the porn. As much as I wanted to get my cock out, I didn't want him to catch me so I rubbed my cock through my trousers and within a few minutes shot my load in my pants!

Didn't he offer to help you clean up?