I've been fascinated with porn and cuckold porn specifically for years... never mentioned it to my wife though... and I'm glad because I recently found some that more appropriately fits what really turns me on...

The Hotwife/Stag dynamic really does it for me... it's all the fun of the cuck porn without the humiliation...

A person cannot control how large their penis is (or isn't) so making fun of them is little better than a grade school bully, in my opinion. My wife and I are playing with lots of toys (that I custom make) all of them are larger than I am. I enjoy her reactions to the size/shape differences and the intensity of her climax is a HUGE turn on for me.

I know the toys are larger than I am, she knows it too... but she tries to downplay the size difference, saying that the 'angle is different' or 'it moves differently'....

I watched her very closely the first time I slipped one inside her, and she had to visibly relax and allow herself to stretch to take it... and when it slipped barely inside, her eyes gave away the truth of her feelings that her words have not yet shared... it was so amazing.

I'm curious about exploring elements of this lifestyle.

I've been approached os LS by a number of people who claim to be dommes... each time it starts the same way...

THEM: hey, you want to learn more about this lifestlye...
ME: Yes
THEM: ok, requires a 'tribute' of $XXX then we can get started...

I feel like these are scammers trying to leverage my curiosity into a financial benefit.

I have not paid any 'tribute' and my question is this, Is this the 'normal' way the BDSM/FemDom lifestyle works?

I'm not interested in a FinDom situation... the banks have that part covered...