Quote by Dancing_Doll
Technically all three people are at fault in this hypothetical.
1. The 'buddy' for talking shit about a mutual (supposed) friend to the degree that the person doesn't want to get called out on it (ie. it's kind of two-faced and lacks loyalty if it's someone they consider a friend).
2. The 'female friend' for blabbing a private conversation to someone else, thereby betraying a confidence - although unfortunately this particular confidence sounds like it was shady anyway, so loyalties seem kind of weak with this whole group as it is.
3. The 'new girlfriend' for issuing an ultimatum in a friendship that shouldn't involve her, thereby acting like a total control freak.
But... based on the final question - I would say no - I'm against ultimatums. People should make up their own minds. A relationship isn't ownership (well.. unless they're into BDSM, I guess).
Yes... and no. lol
1. The two original friends may not have been talking shit. Maybe they were talking favorably of the friend, or of concern of a health problem. Or just talking about his new car, who knows. He could very well have been gossip or mean spirited shit.. but maybe not.
2. Maybe the boyfriend is the one that blabbed? Maybe he told a buddy and he told someone, it got around and got back to the gf?(although we now know that the gf found out via snooping)
3. Bingo!
An ultimatum from a gf or bf, especially so early on in a relationship is a HUGE red flag. I have an ex that didn't like the line of work I was in and told me I needed to find another job. All because she was jealous of the relationship I had with the people I worked with (I was in my early 20's and worked with jr high and sr. high youth, and I loved it) She dropped that bomb on me on a ride home from a weekend trip. I dropped her off that night and we never went out again.
