I had unintentionally but thoroughly, hijacked a legitimate thread, selfishly overiding another persons real question with my freakish issues. To those who took the time and effort to provide input, your effort is greatly appreciated. Id like to apologize to all who read the posts I made, as they made little sense, were out of orser and context and sounded more than massively ”whiny”.
Here is the synopsis if my issue, it will be extensive, so if it bores you, feel free to disregard and move on. Im 45 years old, retiring from the US Army after 23 years of service as an MP. My issue is that my life completely sucks. I have been married twice and divorced twice. First wife left because ”I was gone too much”, (this was before the war), she left me for a Co worker of hers ten years my senior and 50 pounds overweight. Second wife basically tricked me into marriage. How you ask, I have ptsd, from an incident before I joined, makes me very overprotective of women. She played on that so I ignored lies that popped up, manipulation, etc. Did I love either woman, the first, yes, the second, no. Now before marriage or in between, I meet ladies and fall hard for them. But I am always tossed aside for the cool guys, the better looking, charming suave types Id love to bury a ka bar in. since I started dating, age 14, there have been 33 if these ladies. Yes I remember all of them, they all did a very good job imprinting themselves on my memory. The latest, or last I keep wanting to say, was a much younger lass, in another unit. We knew each other from in processing, but I just looked out for her, single mom, pretty girl, bad men yada yada. A little over a year ago, I was on dating site and her picture came up as wanting to know about me. I contacted her as discreetly as possible, asking her about the site. She was on it, but that wasnt her profile. She easily figured out who I was, even said she preferred older men, and was attracted to me. Nothing physical happened, as she was having medical issues at the time that forbade sex...well with me anyway. One weekend she vanished off the radar and I freak. We had spoken the night prior and I thought I messed up, I do that a lot. I was also scared because of her condition. When she did answer two days later, she said she was with family, I didnt own her and I needed to calm down. Find out she was with one of the guys that worked for me! A little thug wannabe car guy, who KNEW I was talking to her, her pic was my background. I get told Im too needy and timing. So for the 33d time, I am nuked. I have no ego or self esteem left. I want to shred him, cant. He sees me as no threat, all the better for my ego. Oh why so many? I kept falling for that ”tgeres someone out there for you” line and Id go balls to the walls to show a girl I could make up for my looks with passion and intensity and romance. I tried to get this out in the other thread, but screwed it up and pissed a lot of nice people off. So any takers on the impossible loser express?