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oshkrozz
1 day ago
Straight Male, 51
0 miles · Baltimore
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Advanced Wordsmith
I am unsure of your choice of words in that do you mean how do you introduce the fantasy? or do you mean your wife is dead set against it and you are trying to get her to want to try it?
If it is option 1 ...
Start with a toy, you can introduce it to your sex play it can be something simple, take it out and even give it a name ... and see how she reacts. If you have shared erotica with her (or watch erotic movies) try some with swinging or with the wife going off with another man and see what her reaction is (is she turned on, is she more amorous ...) if she doesn't enjoy it then stop and just keep it a fantasy.
If it is option 2 ...
It will never end well don't try.
If it is option 1 ...
Start with a toy, you can introduce it to your sex play it can be something simple, take it out and even give it a name ... and see how she reacts. If you have shared erotica with her (or watch erotic movies) try some with swinging or with the wife going off with another man and see what her reaction is (is she turned on, is she more amorous ...) if she doesn't enjoy it then stop and just keep it a fantasy.
If it is option 2 ...
It will never end well don't try.
Advanced Wordsmith
Anything you hide from your partner is "cheating" in some way or another. That can be going out with the guys when you said you were at work, that can be having a friend that you share a close intimate bond with (not sex) that you hide from your partner (or your partner explicitly said they are not comfertable with the relationship). It can be actual sex ...
You also need to ask yourself if your partner engaged in the same activity would you be ok with it? How would you feel to find out?
Is it cheating as in having sex with a person ... this is more partner specific, fundamentally it is different you never had actual contact ... but ... the potential is there to try and take it to the next level so from someones perspective it is the same as making out leading up to actual sex therefore you are a serious cheater.
Others will view it as really bad but accept that you never had any intentions to meet and let it slide .. this time
Others will be like eh whatever floats your boat ... your sleeping on the couch tonight ... and I am taking your computer (like when they caught you going out to happy hour when you "stayed late" at work)
lastly others will be like ... uh next time I want you to do that while I am on your lap ...
You also need to ask yourself if your partner engaged in the same activity would you be ok with it? How would you feel to find out?
Is it cheating as in having sex with a person ... this is more partner specific, fundamentally it is different you never had actual contact ... but ... the potential is there to try and take it to the next level so from someones perspective it is the same as making out leading up to actual sex therefore you are a serious cheater.
Others will view it as really bad but accept that you never had any intentions to meet and let it slide .. this time
Others will be like eh whatever floats your boat ... your sleeping on the couch tonight ... and I am taking your computer (like when they caught you going out to happy hour when you "stayed late" at work)
lastly others will be like ... uh next time I want you to do that while I am on your lap ...
Advanced Wordsmith
For the most part minimum age matters for legal reasons ... beyond that all depends what you are looking for
Does it matter for a quicky in the park behind the bushes .. not really (well could change how much they charge)
Does it matter for amazing passionate lusty sex that you will keep going back to in your fantasies? not really
Does it matter for a long term stable relationship that is not about what can be done on the desk, chair, walls, table ... yes ... yes it does.
Does that mean it can't work? no just that a person who is 20 doesn't have the same hopes and dreams and view of life as someone who is 60. 10 years even can make an entire difference in perspective. However, if you meet someone and you connected in a way you never had before, you share the same goals, you work well, communicate well, and are open to each other in ways you have never been with others then age is less important .. yet age tends to be a good indicator of where a person has been ... and where they are going.
Does it matter for a quicky in the park behind the bushes .. not really (well could change how much they charge)
Does it matter for amazing passionate lusty sex that you will keep going back to in your fantasies? not really
Does it matter for a long term stable relationship that is not about what can be done on the desk, chair, walls, table ... yes ... yes it does.
Does that mean it can't work? no just that a person who is 20 doesn't have the same hopes and dreams and view of life as someone who is 60. 10 years even can make an entire difference in perspective. However, if you meet someone and you connected in a way you never had before, you share the same goals, you work well, communicate well, and are open to each other in ways you have never been with others then age is less important .. yet age tends to be a good indicator of where a person has been ... and where they are going.
Advanced Wordsmith
As I travel now and then I have found myself in this situation ... of course the worst is that flight right after some big road race. The best idea if you travel often to add to your carry on bag besides the noise canceling headphones (or less expensive but equally effective ear plugs), blindfolds (and no not for your date that night) is a face mask and a little bottle of a really nice fragrance you spray the inside of the mask (as much as is needed) and put it on. It will accomplish two things:
1) keep you from smelling anything else
2) Stop people from talking to you ...
1) keep you from smelling anything else
2) Stop people from talking to you ...