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Fowler's is an excellent read (if very dated). I had a copy on my bookshelf at one of my old jobs; if ever I was to look something up in it I'd probably still be reading it half an hour later.
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The beta blockers shouldn't stop you from enjoying a good long walk. Even on the drugs, your body will tell you if you're pushing it too far; listen to it and either slow down or stop.
Unless you're really trying to maintain a high heart rate the blockers shouldn't interfere with your exercise. Walking has so many benefits for mind as well as body, maintaining a good walking schedule should help you come off the beta blockers when you're ready.
Unless you're really trying to maintain a high heart rate the blockers shouldn't interfere with your exercise. Walking has so many benefits for mind as well as body, maintaining a good walking schedule should help you come off the beta blockers when you're ready.
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Happy birthday, Essex girl. Hope you get spoilt rotten xxx
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Hilarious, since when are put downs and mud slinging "honest opinions"? Go tell this to the gays and lesbians after you finish telling them what twisted perverts you see them as being. Then, you can move on to those who are "into" feet or latex or... But hey, your spanking thing... why... there's nothing wrong with that, right? You have a right to FEEL whatever you please and do or NOT DO whatever you please. BUT, when you start chucking rocks you really need to make sure YOUR glass house is rock proof.
Spanking is weird. People are well within their rights to think it's fucking gross - and if they want to do that, fine. I wouldn't bleat about them judging anyone who does like it. I've never hidden the fact that my name and avatar are merely there to attract attention - and it works brilliantly.
Feet, latex... pantie sniffing... all signs of some kind of arrested sexual development... perversions. Things that, ostensibly, should not provide sexual gratification.
As I said, comparing kink to sexuality is a flawed argument. Being gay or lesbian or bi or straight is about what you are fundamentally; kinks are just a subset of those.
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What a sadly predictable thread. Someone posts something about a particular kink, some people give their own honest opinion on it and then a load of people jump on those opinions and start screaming "DON'T JUDGE ME! YOUR OPINIONS ARE WRONG! YOU'RE NOT IN THE LIFESTYLE YOU WOULDN'T UNDERSTAND!"
Of course YOU know it's nothing to do with but can you, with 100% certainty, know that your partner thinks the same. That's when, for me, it's starts to get creepy.
Comparing your kink to sexuality, is a flawed argument. Actual paedophiles try to use the same argument to defend their kink.
No one likes to be told they're weird and creepy but just because you don't see something as weird doesn't mean it's not. For me, family play - no matter how innocent - belongs in the same subset as scat, knife play, fantasy, asphyxiation and similar. Yes, consenting adults should be allowed to practice these if they so wish (within reason) - but I will defend my right to judge people who like that (often literal) shit as freaks and/or perverts.
"It makes me feel loved and special when he crimps one off on my tits!"
I could expand, go through the psychological dangers of infantilising sex and dehumanisation (don't even get me started on pet play) but I can't be arsed.
Of course YOU know it's nothing to do with but can you, with 100% certainty, know that your partner thinks the same. That's when, for me, it's starts to get creepy.
Comparing your kink to sexuality, is a flawed argument. Actual paedophiles try to use the same argument to defend their kink.
No one likes to be told they're weird and creepy but just because you don't see something as weird doesn't mean it's not. For me, family play - no matter how innocent - belongs in the same subset as scat, knife play, fantasy, asphyxiation and similar. Yes, consenting adults should be allowed to practice these if they so wish (within reason) - but I will defend my right to judge people who like that (often literal) shit as freaks and/or perverts.
"It makes me feel loved and special when he crimps one off on my tits!"
I could expand, go through the psychological dangers of infantilising sex and dehumanisation (don't even get me started on pet play) but I can't be arsed.
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Foot position can be an indication that someone's mind is elsewhere. There's a theory that because they're the furthest thing from the brain they are the things act the most naturally and most likely to give you away.
Next time you're in a room full of people, note how many feet are subconsciously pointed towards the most attractive person in the room
Next time you're in a room full of people, note how many feet are subconsciously pointed towards the most attractive person in the room
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Maybe they're attracted to the tease. The aloof girl - she who seems unobtainable.
It's easy to be attracted to something you can't have, you don't have to think about what you'll do when you finally get it.
Do you even know what you want from him?
It's easy to be attracted to something you can't have, you don't have to think about what you'll do when you finally get it.
Do you even know what you want from him?
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At school I was told to use full stops for abbreviations, when I started working in publishing in the early 90s I was told to never use them.
They're messy, especially at the end of a sentence (eg, "In 1972, they joined the E.E.C..").
They're messy, especially at the end of a sentence (eg, "In 1972, they joined the E.E.C..").
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The Guardian Style Guide says "OK is OK, okay is not"
The Oxford Manual of Style prefers OK
Collins dictionary is happy with both but refers to "okay" as a variant
The Oxford Manual of Style prefers OK
Collins dictionary is happy with both but refers to "okay" as a variant
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An interesting 5 part series that played this week on Radio 4
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b065k5wz/episodes/guide
The series looks at how women and sex have been portrayed in fiction over the centuries. From the Bible, through Shakespeare and fairy tales and right up to date with Twilight and 50 Shades.
You might not agree with the conclusions that are drawn (or not drawn) but it certainly invites discussion.
Apologies in advance if the player doesn't work outside the UK
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b065k5wz/episodes/guide
The series looks at how women and sex have been portrayed in fiction over the centuries. From the Bible, through Shakespeare and fairy tales and right up to date with Twilight and 50 Shades.
You might not agree with the conclusions that are drawn (or not drawn) but it certainly invites discussion.
Apologies in advance if the player doesn't work outside the UK
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Sci-fi and Fantasy are probably easier to write about because who's going to correct you? Most good writing in these genres deal with readily identifiable conditions and situations - fighting tyranny, political intrigue, love, revenge etc - the setting is usually just a backdrop to make things more exciting for the reader.
Writing outside of a sphere of knowledge is great if you're the sort of writer that loves research but if you're not, why make life harder for yourself? The key things we always back to though is characters - you can create a very believable environment but if the characters suck your story will too.
Writing outside of a sphere of knowledge is great if you're the sort of writer that loves research but if you're not, why make life harder for yourself? The key things we always back to though is characters - you can create a very believable environment but if the characters suck your story will too.
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I've written from the male POV a few times, and I feel like that requires getting into a different kind of zone.
It's ok, we all know that Ashleigh's a boy's name
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I know many people seem to have an issue with the size of their forum signature. As of now, it only says no more than ten lines. Okay, that's cool, but it doesn't help if you're using a photo as your signature. How do you know when you've reached the "ten line" rule. It should say in the area where it says ten lines, what size height and width are acceptable, so it's there for anyone to see and not be confused when making their signatures, as some put a lot of time and effort into making nice ones and don't want them deleted, or to get in trouble. Could it be possible for this feature to be added?
One of the best additions to the site recently has been the option to turn off forum sigs (Settings>Settings/Privacy>General)- it makes the forum significantly less crap-looking
Now they they just have to give us an option to turn off all those shitty animated avatars that are currently stinking out the place
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It's bullshit.
I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking that
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you probably pop the balloons at children's birthday parties, don't you?
Given that around 5% of the population have adverse reactions to latex, having balloons at a children's party is just irresponsible.
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The point of the competition is to maximise the number of unique hits on your profile page. Things like animated avatars and eye-catching forum signatures are just part of the fun. Bandwidth restricted users have the option of using the mobile version of the site if they have problems with data allowances. I would think this option would be preferable on a PAYG contract anyway, no? Using the full version of the site on a mobile device would load everything, and large images are plastered all over the forums anyway.
You can make an animated gif without it being so stupidly large. Nicola's is just 66k and it's very eye-catching
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I found it to be an enjoyable read - not just the relationships, but the culture.
This is an important point. The book was shocking not only for its content at the time but also for breaking social taboos. The themes covered in the book have been so well-trodden since that it's hard to see what all the fuss is about when looking back.
It's not a book about sex. In a similar sense, anyone reading The Well of Loneliness expecting it to be page after page of hot lesbo action is going to be in for disappointment http://gutenberg.net.au/ebooks06/0609021.txt
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my Lucy Slut is performing above expectations
What a charming term of endearment for someone so obviously at their lowest ebb.
How fortunate you were there to take [s]advantage of the situation[/s] care of her
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Calm down. The attention whore comp ends in 14 days.
So anyone viewing Lush on a PAYG contract should come back July 1st?
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Ideally they need to be no bigger than about 150px square and less than 1mb in file size.
Does your image meet those requirements? Could you post a copy here for us to check?
Thanks,
Liz
1mb seriously? yours just sneaks under that at 995k - if everyone had an av as obnoxiously large as that this place would grind to a halt
Come on people, do you seriously need avs of over 100k?
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The reviews and forums here are an excellent source for research. There are sample galleries with all the cameras reviewed, and reviews for many of the older models above are still online and allow you to compare how the technology and performance of various models have changed from one generation to another. At this point I'm pretty much a convert to the Fuji X series, but then I don't shoot a lot nature/landscapes, but shoot in low light a lot.
You might also want to look at micro 4/3 cameras. Panasonic and Olympus have some excellent cameras in this category.
http://www.dpreview.com/?utm_campaign=internal-link&utm_source=mainmenu&utm_medium=text&ref=mainmenu
Mirrorless does seem to be where the next big things are going to come from. For me they are an obvious step forward with the technology but you still can't stop people wanting to have an SLR to look like a "proper" photographer. That said, who's going to argue with someone carrying one of those gorgeous Leicas?
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I think my ass needs a bit of a workout OMKN. Wanna bring me a protein shake on your way over here?
Thanks.
I always understood that your protein shakes brought all the boys to your yard
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I'm doing the walking thing now. It was the gym sorry my brain is a little off I'm working an over night not my usual shift
That's not going to help, your body needs good quality sleep to repair itself. Pick up your protein intake as well to help with your recovery
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The tiresome, awful habit of some poor, unimaginative writers who constantly, unnecessarily pepper their droning, long-winded prose with superfluous, pointless adjectives.
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I know the information on profiles should be taken with a pinch of salt but you say that you've recently started exploring BDSM with people you've met in real life. I don't know how this is working out for you or if your husband is involved at all but it's something that you might want to slow down on until you're in a more comfortable and stable situation.
You're in a vulnerable position right now and while I'm sure you're getting plenty of offers for help, sadly, not all those individuals offering help will have your best interests as a priority.
People change, that's a reality of life - when you were young maybe you felt needed the type of attention he gave you. Perhaps now you're seeing it as something else, something more selfish and controlling. Recognising that he's chipping away at any self-confidence you have is an important step you've taken.
Get as much help and advice as you can. Your local Citizen's Advice Bureau is a good place to start - they can point you in the direction of services local to you - including, if needs be, refuges.
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/relationships/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse/
You're in a vulnerable position right now and while I'm sure you're getting plenty of offers for help, sadly, not all those individuals offering help will have your best interests as a priority.
People change, that's a reality of life - when you were young maybe you felt needed the type of attention he gave you. Perhaps now you're seeing it as something else, something more selfish and controlling. Recognising that he's chipping away at any self-confidence you have is an important step you've taken.
Get as much help and advice as you can. Your local Citizen's Advice Bureau is a good place to start - they can point you in the direction of services local to you - including, if needs be, refuges.
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/relationships/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse/
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Kudos to you for printing a retraction so soon! You show true strength of character (in my humble yet vocal opinion). Plus, I really hated your idea!
Because conformity is so much better than innovation.
No one should ever have to apologise for having ideas about the site they contribute to. His idea may not be great but that doesn't mean someone else might not take that idea, shake it up and come out with something not only innovative but popular too.
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The OP poses a very interesting question, one that given the responses here, calls into doubt the system of giving a story a score out of 5. If appreciation of art is entirely subjective why quantify it?
Aggregators like Digg or Reddit have developed complex algorithms to measure and predict popularity based on content and user-interaction. All these really do is measure popularity rather than quality, for the eventual purpose of targeting advertising.
Of course it can be argued that popularity and quality tend to go hand in hand. However our own experience often shows that good writers are sometimes ignored and that some writers who we may find personally not to our taste are baffling successful here. In very general terms though, the best writers are often the most popular. WH Auden got it right when he said "Some books are undeservedly forgotten; none are undeservedly remembered."
Of course higher quality is what all writers should be aiming for, but I'd argue that popularity is more important for the site. Popular stories expand the site, bring new readers and, most importantly, new authors. Maybe there is a way of using popularity metrics here as long as we're always conscious that they don't imply quality.
Aggregators like Digg or Reddit have developed complex algorithms to measure and predict popularity based on content and user-interaction. All these really do is measure popularity rather than quality, for the eventual purpose of targeting advertising.
Of course it can be argued that popularity and quality tend to go hand in hand. However our own experience often shows that good writers are sometimes ignored and that some writers who we may find personally not to our taste are baffling successful here. In very general terms though, the best writers are often the most popular. WH Auden got it right when he said "Some books are undeservedly forgotten; none are undeservedly remembered."
Of course higher quality is what all writers should be aiming for, but I'd argue that popularity is more important for the site. Popular stories expand the site, bring new readers and, most importantly, new authors. Maybe there is a way of using popularity metrics here as long as we're always conscious that they don't imply quality.