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rgrman133
4 days ago
Straight Cis Male, 59
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Advanced Wordsmith
This is a question directed to the ladies, but I will share my perspective for those who might be interested in a man's view. I love to kiss during sex and I love to use my mouth to pleasure a woman. So going from her pussy to kissing, my face often very wet with her juices, is something that happens often, and I have not had any partners who hesitated to enjoy that. It's no different if she has been sucking my cock, we kiss often, before and after.
A better question is about kissing after you wake up with morning breath, and while we sometimes get up and brush first, I have also noticed that if you just immediately start kissing, the morning breath goes away like magic in less than a second.
A better question is about kissing after you wake up with morning breath, and while we sometimes get up and brush first, I have also noticed that if you just immediately start kissing, the morning breath goes away like magic in less than a second.
Advanced Wordsmith
I really appreciate the detailed replies from the ladies in this thread. I'm fascinated by the feminine and female sexuality as "the other." I really like it when a woman has learned her body well, and can articulate her experience and idiosyncrasies clearly. I've enjoyed omgyes.com for this reason. It's a great project that has confirmed things I already knew and expanded my knowledge as well. Women, in my experience, can differ surprisingly from each other in how they reach orgasm or how they can have multiples. cheers,
Advanced Wordsmith
I have a very strong "love the one you're with" attitude with sex, so I find things that turn me on about each woman- and it's not always the same. As for breast size, the natural shape large and small will be arousing to me. Enhanced breasts are fine to the extent that they replicate a natural shape, retain the sensitivity, and can be well-kneaded. If the enhancement doesn't have a natural shape, then that detracts slightly from how well they will ping my arousal triggers. I recently had a conversation with a woman who had a breast removed due to cancer and she was concerned that I would not find her attractive, but I assured her that I find scars attractive, especially if I like her and "fall for" her, then it becomes almost an endearing feature.
Advanced Wordsmith
oddly, i rarely make noise when i masturbate. when i am with a woman, for some reason, it's different. my throat is often sore afterward because i tend to growl deeply. when i had kids staying with me on weekends, my partner and i kept it muted, but when the house was empty except for us... we left doors open, did it in various rooms, and basically reveled in the freedom to abandon restraint just that much more. sex is fundamentally about abandoning boundaries, giving yourself over to it, letting go, being caught up in it, having it overtake you
Advanced Wordsmith
I've dated women who fantasized very actively about other women - as in both of us talking and making up stories of us about having a threesome with another woman, but none of those women actually wanted to act out those fantasies. Their fantasies were not my idea and I wasn't initiating, they were, BUT the ladies were very clear that it wasn't ever going to happen in real life, but for some reason it turned them on to fantasize. They were not secretly gay, nor even bisexual, or anything like that. I know one of these gals still as a friend and she's definitely not gay nor bisexual (though she says she gets hit on all the time by women...).
I have dated and known other women who were only attracted to men. It was unequivocal. Only men. Not because of society or anything else, but other women just did NOT arouse them. It wasn't a choice to be aroused. I can't say I don't understand. I do. I have no sexual attraction to men. So I get it.
Having said that, almost all the women I've know have an appreciative eye for feminine beauty, though it seems sort of more technical than a man's testosterone-driven appetite.
I have dated and known other women who were only attracted to men. It was unequivocal. Only men. Not because of society or anything else, but other women just did NOT arouse them. It wasn't a choice to be aroused. I can't say I don't understand. I do. I have no sexual attraction to men. So I get it.
Having said that, almost all the women I've know have an appreciative eye for feminine beauty, though it seems sort of more technical than a man's testosterone-driven appetite.
Advanced Wordsmith
I'm glad someone brought this up though my one problem situation was a little different than the original question posed. It's a delicate subject because women are often very self-conscious about their scent. I have noticed that it can vary greatly, but most of the variations are likeable and some have been downright pleasant. So acquired taste? Yes, in part. I don't know that the variation in smell/taste is always as simple as hygiene because all of my partners practiced normal daily hygiene.
The problem situation was that I had a gf once who could be pretty pungent. I can't lie, it detracted from things during sex sometimes. But, foolish youngster that I was then, I didn't have the skills to approach her about it in a sensitive tactful way to nudge her to try to seek some remedy. It wasn't the reason we broke up, but I can't say it helped matters. Looking back, I admit some cowardice in not trying to broach the subject, but at the time, I just thought that was how she was and I didn't want to embarrass her. It's not like I have this over-sensitive nose either. She was a nurse too. No diseases, nothing like that. I didn't know about ph then, and I don't know if she was on medication or not.
I can say that there was another woman I dated who literally tasted and smelled sweet and fresh - like spring water. She was a joy to taste and smell and I'm not embellishing things at all. I would salivate at the thought of going down on her. The only thing that stands out about her that was different was how strict she was about her diet... not paleo exactly, but only whole foods and organic foods, avoiding anything processed or modified or tainted with pesticides.
Please, ladies of lush, don't fucking frag me over this, ok? I'm stumbling through life just like everyone else, learning as I go, and, for what it's worth, I made this woman cum more than all her other lovers put together times 100.
The problem situation was that I had a gf once who could be pretty pungent. I can't lie, it detracted from things during sex sometimes. But, foolish youngster that I was then, I didn't have the skills to approach her about it in a sensitive tactful way to nudge her to try to seek some remedy. It wasn't the reason we broke up, but I can't say it helped matters. Looking back, I admit some cowardice in not trying to broach the subject, but at the time, I just thought that was how she was and I didn't want to embarrass her. It's not like I have this over-sensitive nose either. She was a nurse too. No diseases, nothing like that. I didn't know about ph then, and I don't know if she was on medication or not.
I can say that there was another woman I dated who literally tasted and smelled sweet and fresh - like spring water. She was a joy to taste and smell and I'm not embellishing things at all. I would salivate at the thought of going down on her. The only thing that stands out about her that was different was how strict she was about her diet... not paleo exactly, but only whole foods and organic foods, avoiding anything processed or modified or tainted with pesticides.
Please, ladies of lush, don't fucking frag me over this, ok? I'm stumbling through life just like everyone else, learning as I go, and, for what it's worth, I made this woman cum more than all her other lovers put together times 100.
Advanced Wordsmith
In my humble opinion, women are just way too complex for their libido to be based on something as simple as the size of their clit. The real sexual organ for every human is mostly their brain, which regulates the hormones, and the brain, we are discovering, is incredibly plastic and malleable.
Some people were referencing orgasms and multiple orgasms, and while this is related to libido, it's not exactly the same thing. i guess the connection there is the logic that as you experience more orgasms you desire more sex, but libido also has a large hormonal component. Just because you desire sex doesn't mean you are going to be very satisfied, though it's true your desire might be reduced if you are unsatisfied too many times.
Women, in my experience, vary surprisingly in their standard equipment as far as size and shape, and then they all grow up differently, so the brain pathways develop differently from person to person. The combination of these things produces quite a bit of variation in how women can experience pleasure in sex to orgasm. The research (omgyes.com) shows there are some loose bins. For example, some women, relatively few, can orgasm repeatedly without any pausing or recovery. Cool for them. I've dated a few like that. Others have to change up how they are stimulated because their clits are too sensitive after they cum. Even within that group, the way they need to recover and rebuild has variation. Yet others can keep going quickly without much recovery, but need more indirect stimulation for round two or three.
It always amuses me when I hear a guy talking about one technique as The Way, or I hear a woman making a pronouncement about every woman based on her experience. Nope, it is not that simple.
Besides, the question only addresses the visible part of the clit - which we are calling "the clit." My favorite parts are the wings that go down along each side of the labia. Those are underappreciated and fun to stimulate.
Some people were referencing orgasms and multiple orgasms, and while this is related to libido, it's not exactly the same thing. i guess the connection there is the logic that as you experience more orgasms you desire more sex, but libido also has a large hormonal component. Just because you desire sex doesn't mean you are going to be very satisfied, though it's true your desire might be reduced if you are unsatisfied too many times.
Women, in my experience, vary surprisingly in their standard equipment as far as size and shape, and then they all grow up differently, so the brain pathways develop differently from person to person. The combination of these things produces quite a bit of variation in how women can experience pleasure in sex to orgasm. The research (omgyes.com) shows there are some loose bins. For example, some women, relatively few, can orgasm repeatedly without any pausing or recovery. Cool for them. I've dated a few like that. Others have to change up how they are stimulated because their clits are too sensitive after they cum. Even within that group, the way they need to recover and rebuild has variation. Yet others can keep going quickly without much recovery, but need more indirect stimulation for round two or three.
It always amuses me when I hear a guy talking about one technique as The Way, or I hear a woman making a pronouncement about every woman based on her experience. Nope, it is not that simple.
Besides, the question only addresses the visible part of the clit - which we are calling "the clit." My favorite parts are the wings that go down along each side of the labia. Those are underappreciated and fun to stimulate.
Advanced Wordsmith
hard to say which one of my principles is more important than another. i didn't make these up, but i have learned that they work very reliably in a wide variety of situations and relationships
- practice gratitude
- apply the golden rule
- look for the good in others and situations
- always seek to find the win-win answer in conflicts
- have some reasonable expectation of the other person applying the golden rule in a relationship with an equal
- unconditional love can be dangerous and is unwise and unrealistic between equals. but if i really love you "unconditionally," then i will leave you if you are abusive
- the right to self-defense cannot and should not be taken away. everyone is entitled to and should act in their own enlightened self-interest- (which could include giving up your seat on the titanic's lifeboat. it is one thing to willingly give up yourself sacrificially, but different if it is demanded by someone- that's usually abuse)
- accept reality, but push on the areas you can change (same as the serenity prayer)
- give the benefit of the doubt until someone makes it obvious they should not have it
- don't jump to quick conclusions... suspend judgment until you can investigate
- love has to be given freely. manipulation is antithetical to love.
- free gifts have to be given freely. don't trust people who give to incur obligation
- a relationship with an equal should have some overarching equitable equivalency to it. you might give different things to each other, but it feels like your giving as good as you get
- be honest with yourself, be aware, be present
- practice gratitude
- apply the golden rule
- look for the good in others and situations
- always seek to find the win-win answer in conflicts
- have some reasonable expectation of the other person applying the golden rule in a relationship with an equal
- unconditional love can be dangerous and is unwise and unrealistic between equals. but if i really love you "unconditionally," then i will leave you if you are abusive
- the right to self-defense cannot and should not be taken away. everyone is entitled to and should act in their own enlightened self-interest- (which could include giving up your seat on the titanic's lifeboat. it is one thing to willingly give up yourself sacrificially, but different if it is demanded by someone- that's usually abuse)
- accept reality, but push on the areas you can change (same as the serenity prayer)
- give the benefit of the doubt until someone makes it obvious they should not have it
- don't jump to quick conclusions... suspend judgment until you can investigate
- love has to be given freely. manipulation is antithetical to love.
- free gifts have to be given freely. don't trust people who give to incur obligation
- a relationship with an equal should have some overarching equitable equivalency to it. you might give different things to each other, but it feels like your giving as good as you get
- be honest with yourself, be aware, be present
Advanced Wordsmith
Ladies, you all will be happy to know that it is a myth that bras are necessary to prevent sagging. In fact, they make it worse. This has actually been researched and studied. 
http://breastnotes.com/aware/aware-bras%20cause%20saggiing.htm
So,
don't feel worried about sagging;
don't be a dupe for the bra industry;
make your man (or men or woman) smile more,
and set those bodacious puppies free!
(and no size of breast is bad or less attractive to me - they all be gorgeous!!)
Stay perkier my friends!
http://breastnotes.com/aware/aware-bras%20cause%20saggiing.htm
So,
don't feel worried about sagging;
don't be a dupe for the bra industry;
make your man (or men or woman) smile more,
and set those bodacious puppies free!
(and no size of breast is bad or less attractive to me - they all be gorgeous!!)
Stay perkier my friends!
Advanced Wordsmith
Personally, I have not cheated on a partner, and by that I mean having a double life where I am pretending to be emotionally and physically intimate with one partner, but sneaking off secretly to be emotionally or physically intimate with someone else. I think many people in that situation feel split in two and often they guilty about the duplicity involved. Some degree of guilt feelings would be natural in those circumstances.
Life is complicated. Divorce is often not an easy option. The other party can be guilty of abuse or neglect. Sometimes, people are just outright trapped with someone stifling and controlling. Those are not just hypothetical situations, they happen to real people. Unfortunately, they happen too much.
I categorically reject the “cheaters always cheaters” idea. It’s is just way too simple and doesn’t match the real people I have met in my life.
Yes, there are some people who are serial cheaters. They cheat on their mistress, and on their mistress’ mistress. Maybe they cheat on their taxes too. They are fundamentally incapable of bonding with anyone, and have a serious character flaw that causes them to be unable to enjoy intimacy with another person for very long. They always need something new and novel, and they relish the hunt more than the feast. Yes, those people exist. Their promises mean nothing, so don’t believe them when they lie to you repeatedly. I have no idea what % of cheaters they are, but I know that they are not all, far from it. Cheaters are not always going to be cheaters.
I have personally encountered “cheaters” who did not have divorce as an option, and who were stuck in a sexless marriage, or worse- with a stifling, abusive, controlling, manipulative, judgmental partner. This doesn’t just happen to women either. Men can be trapped as well. I think there is something about the mockery of a manipulative, oppressive partner that makes it much more difficult to bear than merely being alone. When the life is being sucked out of you, sometimes a fling can feel like a breath of fresh air.
Then, in between the serial cheaters and the ones who are stuck, there are others who are more responsible for the attenuation of the bond between them and their partner. They and their partner together allowed the love to grow cold, drifting apart, and then one or both could not resist when something more tempting came along. Are they always going to be a cheater as if they contracted an incurable STD? No. Most of the time they do not. Sometimes, those people realize the new partner is a better fit, and they end the original relationship and move on. Other times, they go back and patch things up.
Life is complicated. Divorce is often not an easy option. The other party can be guilty of abuse or neglect. Sometimes, people are just outright trapped with someone stifling and controlling. Those are not just hypothetical situations, they happen to real people. Unfortunately, they happen too much.
I categorically reject the “cheaters always cheaters” idea. It’s is just way too simple and doesn’t match the real people I have met in my life.
Yes, there are some people who are serial cheaters. They cheat on their mistress, and on their mistress’ mistress. Maybe they cheat on their taxes too. They are fundamentally incapable of bonding with anyone, and have a serious character flaw that causes them to be unable to enjoy intimacy with another person for very long. They always need something new and novel, and they relish the hunt more than the feast. Yes, those people exist. Their promises mean nothing, so don’t believe them when they lie to you repeatedly. I have no idea what % of cheaters they are, but I know that they are not all, far from it. Cheaters are not always going to be cheaters.
I have personally encountered “cheaters” who did not have divorce as an option, and who were stuck in a sexless marriage, or worse- with a stifling, abusive, controlling, manipulative, judgmental partner. This doesn’t just happen to women either. Men can be trapped as well. I think there is something about the mockery of a manipulative, oppressive partner that makes it much more difficult to bear than merely being alone. When the life is being sucked out of you, sometimes a fling can feel like a breath of fresh air.
Then, in between the serial cheaters and the ones who are stuck, there are others who are more responsible for the attenuation of the bond between them and their partner. They and their partner together allowed the love to grow cold, drifting apart, and then one or both could not resist when something more tempting came along. Are they always going to be a cheater as if they contracted an incurable STD? No. Most of the time they do not. Sometimes, those people realize the new partner is a better fit, and they end the original relationship and move on. Other times, they go back and patch things up.