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Quote by Magical_felix
You know my dig at jazz fans was hilarious. Admit it!
i'd like to thank MF for so well illustrating why this, and the HW, thread exist. people have commented on 'why didn't she speak up, say something, report him, etc'. it's because of attitudes like this. we're not taken seriously. we're dismissed. it's joked about. obviously, it's not funny to the person who's been the subject of harassment or assault. but yeah, at some point in time, you realize that speaking up is akin to banging your head against the wall. sure, some of what we've been talking about in here have been "minor incidents", but how many of us have put up with all the little things, day in and day out, without anyone stepping in and saying 'that's not right' or without feeling comfortable about confronting the perpetrator for whatever reason. their position of power, their physical power, the cultural power that backs them up.
we get comments daily about our asses, whistled at, leered at and we're told to lighten up if we respond negatively. that's just a step away from giving permission to be fondled or groped, which in turn, a step away from being assaulted, but yeah, just lighten up. and yeah, we've all done it. instead of confrontation, we've ducked into a crowded store so we're safe. we've stayed home so we're safe. we keep our backs to the wall so we're safe. we stay at home so we're safe. we don't go out at night so we're safe. but yeah, lighten up, girls.
yeah, make jokes. the thing is, unless it's happened to you, you have no idea how it feels. anyone whose gone through it doesn't think it's funny, and doesn't think it's something to be taken lightly. i just hope that his attitude, his presence, doesn't put people off about participating her, about speaking up, about not allowing themselves to be silenced.
xx
rachel
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Quote by BethanyFrasier
I have refrained from talking about my too often here because I was once reprimanded by a mod for even mentioning it in a forum (my post was deleted, along with two others who quoted me and it made me feel awful). But two men me for hours when I was a freshman in college. Another model I had worked with lured me into sex with her, and set me up. I was naked in her apartment (which turned out to be theirs) when they came in, and I was trapped. She told me to just relax and enjoy it while she watched them double-team me over and over. I never reported it because I knew how the situation would make me look, and my whole sexual history would be dragged out in court. David was my residential advisor back then (it's how we first met). He realized something serious had happened to me and got me into therapy after I told him what happened.
Note - I asked Sprite about posting this because it's a bit graphic for the Spa.
cause she's awesome like that. on a serious note, i think that all of us who have posted in here agree that this stuff is hard to talk about - anyone reading it is probably uncomfortable as well - and that's why it's not talked about a lot. that's why it's important that it IS talked about. there's a veneer of shame that goes along with being harassed or . hopefully this helps take that away.
I was just asked in a PM if talking about being still effected me. the answer is yes. since the HW case broke i've been going through the same kind of stuff, to a lesser degree, that i went through afterwards. it hits you from time to time - i've said it before, but it bears reminding myself as well as others. you never really get over it. you learn to deal with it better, it hits you less often, and you know how to handle it when it does, but you never get over it.
obviously, that's the same with harassment - the "minor stuff" as Ms B once put it will always be there - it's responsible for us changing ourselves around to deal with it, such as standing differently on a train or bus or hiding out upstairs pretending we're sick. it's responsible for us not pursuing the things we love at times - quitting martial arts class or dancing. it's insidious. it has serious long term effects, so here's something important - if you see someone being harassed, speak up. it's hard to do at times for a variety of reasons, but it's important to do.
*gets off my soap box*
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#MeToo.
much as i've talked about my sexual assault, there's something i've never told anyone that still bothers over a decade later.
i used to go to a lot of raves as a teen and continued it into my 20s. i loved the summer time ones, especially, since many of them would be out doors and i'd go by myself and get totally lost dancing under the stars to good music - it was a natural high and it was something i loved very much.
one night, i was dancing, the music was really good - wearing a backless halter top. felt someone's fingers brushing over my shoulder. happens a lot, so it was cool - some guy dancing near me. still, it bothered me a bit, so i moved away a little. and then, it happened again - this time, it lingered - obviously not an accidental brushing. again, i moved, and again it happened. by then, i was creeped out and more than a little upset. i ended up leaving and going home and i've never done it since. something i loved was taken away from me. now a days, i'll go to clubs, if i'm with friends,but it's not the same -being alone, under the stars like that - it was almost spiritual... i miss it.
it's the little things that hurt the most, sometimes.
much as i've talked about my sexual assault, there's something i've never told anyone that still bothers over a decade later.
i used to go to a lot of raves as a teen and continued it into my 20s. i loved the summer time ones, especially, since many of them would be out doors and i'd go by myself and get totally lost dancing under the stars to good music - it was a natural high and it was something i loved very much.
one night, i was dancing, the music was really good - wearing a backless halter top. felt someone's fingers brushing over my shoulder. happens a lot, so it was cool - some guy dancing near me. still, it bothered me a bit, so i moved away a little. and then, it happened again - this time, it lingered - obviously not an accidental brushing. again, i moved, and again it happened. by then, i was creeped out and more than a little upset. i ended up leaving and going home and i've never done it since. something i loved was taken away from me. now a days, i'll go to clubs, if i'm with friends,but it's not the same -being alone, under the stars like that - it was almost spiritual... i miss it.
it's the little things that hurt the most, sometimes.
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Quote by browncoffee
Tonya, I'm so glad your son's okay. Last year my brother crashed his car on the motorway; it was icy and he swears the car did a 360 but he got out without a scratch. The car was scrapped. Sometimes we're so lucky.
I'll have tea, please. I'm sitting in sprite's throne whether or not she's already there.
i'm already there, and i'm not wearing pants.
*hugs for Tonya* scary! glad he's ok. see? miracles do happen and that was an excellent one.
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Quote by oceanrunner
I went to try to post in Rumple's bar thread (https://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst8477p857_RUMPLATIONS-Honky-Tonk-and-Cyber-Bar.aspx), and for some reason, the reply buttons are missing for me. Other forum threads seem to be normal. Can someone shed light on what's going on?
thanks!
Rumple said something about you not paying your tab - i think he's cut you off. lol - i'll take a look, but you're probably better off getting help from Liz or SJ or someone like that.
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Quote by LYFBUZ
1) I've gotten away with ridiculous amounts of rebellious behaviour in my current job but I expect I'll get fired or encouraged to leave at some point...I'm not concerned in the least about this
2) my fall back career: Sprite's houseboy
is it wrong that i'm hoping you get fired soon?
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Quote by Joannem310
Saw Bladerunner 2049. Stunning film, beautifully shot, well told, and definitely the best movie I have seen this year.
blew all my expectations out of the park. everything about it was pretty much perfect, imo. the look, the cinematography,the music, the story, the acting. gripping from start to finish.
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Quote by MadMartigan
Can't really complain when I only spent two hours on this story from inspiration to completion and only spent 30 seconds editing it. Easiest top 7 finish ever. Though on second thought, maybe I should have spent more time.
Haven't had any time to actually read any entries so far, but I guess the Inhave the tops list as a suggestion now.
i spent even less time on mine.
congratz to the winners - to the always superb Ms B, who dips her pen in an inkwell full of sensuality and lust. To the often off the radar wolf-boy who always astounds me with a reminder of how good he is every time he decides to grace us with his presence. to the hard working Mike who takes so much care in crafting wondrous smutty tales to get completely lost in, good job all.
and to the dirty dozen, all of whom gave us some amazing tales to read - i didn't judge this one, thank god. not sure i could have picked a clear winner with so many top notch entries to choose from.
=d>
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
Personally I don't wear them, though I do have thermal tights and base wear for skiing, snowboarding and sometimes just walking the dog during hardcore winter. They're not attached though.
I did take a second glance the other day at the Roots' Cabin Collection waffle onesie, but that's got buttons down the front and no flap, so I guess they're not technically Long Johns.
mmm. waffles.
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