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Quote by JohnC
I have never understood the whole "coming out" thing. And frankly it outright annoys me. I could understand it back when homosexuality or bisexuality was HIDDEN and it could cause serious issues for people. But from what I can see, that time is LONG gone and most of the problems I see concerning it are caused by gay/les/bi people themselves (not all, only a very vocal minority) as opposed to the general public or even families. Most people just don't care. Be YOURSELF and just do what you do. People will know, if it is important to them. If not, so what?
The simple truth is, there are bigoted people out there, and bigoted for all sorts of reasons... not just sexual orientation. We have some of them in our families, and we run into them in the general public. But homosexuality/bisexuality/etc. are pretty much as common as pepsi and coke now days. It does not have the shock factor or impact it did 30 or more years ago. You see it on TV, in movies, on the street, you name it. There is no need for coming out, imo, any more. I find that the reality is that gay/les/bi folks tend to make more of their sexual preference than anyone else does.
But I guess it also depends on where you live too. What country, and even what part of the country. So what I said applies to where I have lived and what I see... it may not apply to everyone else.
spoken like a heterosexual. no, that's not a snide remark. the simply fact is, you have never had to walk in the shoes of a gay man or woman. yes, culture and society are slowly adapting, but it's generational, the older generations are still not as accepting, and religion plays a big part of it. i grew up in the bay area, and even there, i saw bigotry. while Seattle has a feel similiar to SF, as a lesbian couple, we often gauge our affection levels based on our surroundings and, while my family has accepted us, i get a very cold reception from my wife's for being the woman who 'turned their daughter gay'. *shrugs*
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sometimes yes, sometimes know. Blondie is a reoccuring character who is very much a version of me. same for kitty girl. other stories, no. I'm writing about someone one, not myself. that said, like other said, you can find a bit of me in all my characters, if you know where to look.
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Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
This entire paragraph is a giant "WTF?" to me. How is it anybody's responsibility but your own to establish how you perceive and therefore judge people? No one should have to govern who/what they are just so those on the outside looking in can understand them better. I think it's up to us as individuals how we decide to treat others based on these perceptions. I'm not gonna look at a flamboyant homosexual and tell them to tone it down for the greater good of all homosexuals. That's the most absurd line of thinking ever.
Flamboyant homosexuals exist. Promiscuous, stylish, effeminate homosexual men exist. That's what the 'flaming homo' stereotype is based on. But even if the stereotype didn't exist, there would still be flamboyant, promiscuous, stylish, effeminate, homosexual men. If an individual decides to take this and run with it, then they're to blame for their own ignorance.
But I'm sure these men don't say, "Not only am I gonna be gay...I'm gonna be stereotypically gay." As with any member of any group, sure there are those that do become sensationalized versions of themselves just to drive their point. I'm not saying that doesn't happen. But I would never go so far as to say that everyone does this.
"Well, if those homos don't want us to think this is the way they are, they need to change."
Why can't people pull their heads out of their own ass and accept people for who they are without feeling the need to shove them in a box?
Ugh.
please quit stereotyping people who stereotype.
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Quote by MadMartigan
And I'm uptight about introductions. Bad introductions can kill of a story for me.
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i stress this if people ask for advice on how to write. people make quick decisions about what they want to read - if you don't hook them right away, they'll move on. sometimes you have an entire paragraph to do it in, but don't count on it. usually it's just one or two lines. my most, to me, important advice, something i've repeated over and over, but bears repeating - don't fall into the trap of the laundry list - it's a terrible cliche of erotic stories - it's that opening paragraph where you list all the characters attributes:
hi. my name is jenny. i'm 5 foot 11, weight 130 pounds, have blonde hair, blue eyes, and my boobs are 34DD.
honestly? you're already lost me. it tells me nothing about Jenny except that she's kind of boring. yes, if you feel strongly about describing her, slip it into your story, but don't open like that. tell us about HER, not what she looks like - who she is, and don't do it like a list. usually, i'll just open a story up with something of interest to grab someone's attention - action of some sort. something to grab onto, making them want to find out what's going on, what's going to happen - giving them questions they want answers to, answers that they have to keep reading in order to find them:
I’m bound face down on the bed, waiting to be fucked. Again. The only illumination is the digital blue of the clock, the numbers crawling slowly towards the next hour. Every hour, on the hour, he returns. It’s almost 6 am so this will make the seventh time. I tingle with anticipation, wondering what the coming hour will bring. Each time he surprises me. Each time I cum louder and harder than the time before. I’m sore, my arms and legs stretched out across the mattress, my ass and pussy still recovering from the last time, my drool cool against my cheek as I stare at the clock, set where I would be forced to watch it count down the minutes.
there - hopefully that makes you want to find out more about what is going on. who is this woman? why is she tied to the bed? who is the man? what is going to happen when the clock turns to 6am?
that is what you should look for in an opening paragraph - Morgan Hawke, in her forum, has a whole topic devoted to Hooks. i would suggest that everyone who writes here read it. it's essential if you want to draw an audience.
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Quote by Tenon
Thanks for your replies. My intention is not to offend, or steal, so I will not pursue this.
thank you. as an author who has, at various times, had to put more time and effort into having stories that i've written removed from websites where they've been credited to someone else then i did actually writing them, i want it to be as difficult as possible to copy anything published here - yes, i sincerely believe your intentions are innocent, but if we make it easy for you to do, it's easy for those with less sincere intentions. my suggestion would be to simply read them out loud to her - you could easily substitute your names while doing so, if you wished.
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btw, a hint for writers out there. everyone writes at different speeds, but something to think about. i am in contact with a lot of writers here. the ones you see getting RRs and EPs, the ones whom are names here, like Dancing Doll, Lisa, Jaymal, etc, don't just push stories out. they are painstakingly crafted and take weeks, sometimes months from conception to publishing. this is why they are as good as they are. like anything else, the more effort you put into it, the better it will be - also, these are people who have been doing this for a long time - they learn, they listen, they improve. like any other creative skill, the more you do it, the more your practice, the better you will get - don't be discouraged if the first story you write isn't brilliant - consider writing like playing music - no matter how many guitar solos you've listened to, no matter that you can hear the one you want to play in your head, the first time you pick up a guitar, you are probably not going to sound like Jimi Hendrix. just keep at it until you do.
sorry if i got off the subject a bit, but it reminded me of an incident from a few years back where someone asked me to fix a story for them - apparently they'd spent a whole hour on it and didn't have the time to fix it themselves...
back on the subject, taking it a little more seriously then my once upon a time line...
for me, the stories i write here,i start with a character. before i even begin to write, i find their voice, define their personality, who they are, sort of spend some time getting inside their head - it's a little like roleplay, i guess - then i set them in a scene and write - by then, i know them intimately enough to know how they would react, how they talk, what they would do in the scene i place them in so that the writing part is fairly smooth - what does take time is that i like to play with styles, with different ways of describing sex scenes (let's face it, at it's core, sex if fairly basic - penis/tongue inserted into vagina/ass/mouth, in out in out until climax, followed by cigerette or cuddling). btw, i usually write the story leaving out the actual sex scene with notations such as : blow job here. rim job here. intercourse here. it's like writers foreplay, setting the scene, the build up, really gets me in the mood to write what is, hopefully, steamy sex. it's a little like edging. ;)h
sorry if i got off the subject a bit, but it reminded me of an incident from a few years back where someone asked me to fix a story for them - apparently they'd spent a whole hour on it and didn't have the time to fix it themselves...
back on the subject, taking it a little more seriously then my once upon a time line...
for me, the stories i write here,i start with a character. before i even begin to write, i find their voice, define their personality, who they are, sort of spend some time getting inside their head - it's a little like roleplay, i guess - then i set them in a scene and write - by then, i know them intimately enough to know how they would react, how they talk, what they would do in the scene i place them in so that the writing part is fairly smooth - what does take time is that i like to play with styles, with different ways of describing sex scenes (let's face it, at it's core, sex if fairly basic - penis/tongue inserted into vagina/ass/mouth, in out in out until climax, followed by cigerette or cuddling). btw, i usually write the story leaving out the actual sex scene with notations such as : blow job here. rim job here. intercourse here. it's like writers foreplay, setting the scene, the build up, really gets me in the mood to write what is, hopefully, steamy sex. it's a little like edging. ;)h
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Quote by dpw
How long does it take you to write and do you ever research?
the shortest story i have ever written for this site, timewise, took two days of pretty much uninterrupted writing. that's fast. 2 weeks is usually the norm. btw, when i put those times out, that's my rough draft. after that, i spend as much time proof reading, editing, revising, and re-crafting. i won't put something up until i am sure it is as good as it can be. we're talking stories that are 5-10k words, btw - those broken into two parts, like some of the Mrs V stories take double that, obviously.
as far as research, not often - most of the subjects i write about i have intimate knowledge of the subject, locale, etc. sometimes i'll do a little research on fashions (i picked Dancing Doll's brain about high end clothing - Bikinis and sunglasses, etc) on Paris in Flames, but usually, it's all stuff that already resides within my brain.
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Quote by nicola
Hey! What are the other 4?
sprite.com is one of them
btw, you forgot to thank yourself for creating and running what is, in my not so humble opinion, THE best erotic story site in the multi-verse. congratulations and thank you for all your hard work.
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Quote by Poppet
I think a really nice addition to the site would be, when an author writes a story and submits it, when it is passed the mod who passed it sometimes says there were a few changes, nothing major, well, I think it would be great if we could then go into our story and see what has been changed. You know, like it would be highlighted so we can look at the original copy and the one passed to see what was changed, it would make it easier. Since we’re not told what is changed when the story is passed.
changes will be, 99% of the time - fixing misspellings, typos, punctuation, and grammar - we're not changing the story, simply cleaning up a few things. i don't have an issue of implementing this, if it's something that's easy and quick for Gav to do, but as a writer myself, i don't think it's up there on the top of the list of things that need to be done.
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Quote by trinket
you're including a poll to see how often this occurs? the only choices are 'oh yeah' and 'not in the least', just how is that going to tell you how 'what' occurs? It's not making sense sorry.
quit being difficult or i'll take away your mashmalllow rations.