In my 20's i tried too hard with women and got more blown out than a candle. 30s i got successful but not a massive amount of partners and then married and was faithful.
in my 40's the sex dried up at home and she accepted her lot but as a touchy feely guy who loves to give it wasn't enough for me . I reached 50 and suddenly women of a certain age took interest in me and by a bizarre twist of fate a mutual friend discussed affairs with me , trying to talk me out of the idea . Eventually i met her for a drink and suddenly i was a cheating husband . This on /off mutual sex lasted for over 5 years , sometimes 3 times a week but i loved being cared for and being nurtured . Since that stopped i haven't and subsequently have always tried to find one local friend with benefits who puts me back on an even keel.Sure i don't want to rock the home life but I'm discrete and now satisfied .
Like the guy before my wife doesn't (on the few occasions we actually have sex ) even touch me , so no arousal and she expects me to satisfy her . It just doesn't turn me on anymore where as my FWB is the total opposite and can't get enough of me and I'm glad to give her pleasure before thinking about myself.
yes I've cheated ...would i have it any other way ....No not now