My mistress and I are both new to bdsm, and while we have a wonderful time exploring all sorts of things together, I find myself struggling with topping from the bottom. As this is new territory for both of us, my mistress sometimes feels a bit insecure about her role as a dominant, so I try to be reassuring and help her feel comfortable, but every time I do that, I start taking over the reins from her, which is not something I want to do.
We both wish to be in a D/s relationship very much, so obviously we should both be taking responsibility for making it work. However, personally I think it's easier to hand over control (we've been in a relationship for a while now, so trust isn't an issue), than to accept control over someone along with the responsibility that comes with it. And because I have it easier, I feel more confident about my new role, which unfortunately often results in me topping from the bottom. And neither one of us is happy with that. I just don't really know what to do about it.
Has anyone here had similar problems? Any advice would be very much appreciated.
