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Quote by JohnC

LOL Ok. I can only imagine sitting across from those questions, given what you have posted thus far. Um.... interesting evening. lol


it was interesting but a bit awkward for some of them i can admit that lol but im still waiting for a reply to it though... lol is keeping you waiting a woman thing lol...
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To me it sounds like discussion went way past what was pretty much "friends with benefits" up until this post. When you start talking about whether you want kids, moving in with each other, etc..... I think maybe both of you (or her, I don't know who drove the conversation) moved WAY past simply adding a sexual component to the relationship you already have.


it was more of her asking me a lot of questions about how much of this i have thought about and such and i told her the truth a fair bit but i didnt think as far as kids or moving yet lol
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Well i had a fun day earlier today in town... we met up and discussed it more properly over dinner she was asking things like do i really see it working out well for us how long ive been thinking about it if i wanted kids or to stay in the same house as her ect... it got a bit strange but im fairly happy at how the outcome is looking for us now i just hope it gets much better... than in theory... but in a weird way i think she is just teasing me...
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Quote by MrLosAngeles
When a woman says she doesn't want to ruin a good thing, it usually means you're in the friend zone. Probably permanently. She doesn't crave you, but she'll hang with you sometimes. You may be a buddy, but not a fuck buddy necessarily. If you want passionate hunger, don't expect it from her.


I don't think that is true for everyone because it wouldn't be the first time we have had a fun evening/day and then woke up in the same bed in the morning. Although ill admit not every time we had sex but sometimes we had, never when either of us was in a relationship though.
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Quote by girlsetfree
Did you take any time to explain to her that your friendship doesn't have to end if the relationship does?


I spent a fair amount of time talking with her before I tried to explain it but after it I did try my best to explain that if she did or didn't like the idea nothing would have to change between our friendship. But when I think about it now i really wish that i worded it out better in case there was confusion now... lol
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Quote by overmykneenow
I'd say, give her the weekend at least before following up.


I'm willing to give her all the time she needs, but i want the reply now so the waiting is going to feel like forever.
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Alright it was a bit weird trying to ask her if she would like to go further than just friends... I honestly didn't know how to word it lol... A good and bad thing came from it... Firstly the good thing when i did ask her she did look interested in what i was trying to get across but she even helped me finish my sentence for it. I guess the good side is that she was interested in what i was trying to suggest but the bad part is... what the hell does it mean when a woman says 'They don't want to ruin what we have but will think it over first' mean?
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Quote by MrLosAngeles
All depends on what you want from life, I think. Some people (and for the life of me, I don't know why) can't be friendly with their fucks and vice versa. Why would you fuck someone you don't even like as a friend?


Im wondering that now lol
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Quote by blazestcyr
do you mean sex or a realtionship?

by all means do have a realtionship!!!!

but date first dont fall into the sack that second because you know each other

start fresh..learn things from a lovers point of view

i think "dont date a friend "is if all it can be is sexual or she is a rebound

but do if not only does she make you laugh but your heart sing too

however know..that if one ends it...the friendship MIGHT end too

but think if it does work...this is someone who GETS you....

always be honest be caring and remember who SHE was to you first

i do so hope it works out


i want to have a proper relationship with her...just a few times in the past we have had sex and nothing came of it after it
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I am pleased to say that I know where you both are coming from, but witht that said I'm amazed at the fact of people who tend to be relationships that you know of are in there 40s+ suggesting they could of met anytime. Downside for that is since you refer it to the age of 40+ makes me more unlikely to try and attempt it due to it can change the entire thing and might not go in a good way...

On the subject of Back-up Plans they basically are a would Be scenario for certain outcomes and having some in place wouldn't hurt, and it can have a lesser impact on the relationship if it goes to hell and perhaps save the friendship. Only issue I would have with that is you cant plan out everything but I do suppose for the ones I/We do decide to make can be used when needed even in a worst case scenario.

Overall I'm very satisfied with 2 reply's out of 48 people looking.
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Some people say that you shouldn't date people you are good friends with, or have known them a long time as it can ruin the entire friendship. Now I am just wondering as i have been out of a relationship for a few months and a friend of mine lost her boyfriend almost a month ago.

I've known them pretty much as long as I can remember, we share a good fair amount of things in common, and we talk every day we can. I will admit that on 4 occasions we have been out with friends and such and some how woke up in the same bed in the morning, Sometimes i remember what happened that night others i don't, yeah we have slept together a few times but nothing has happened after it. Truth be told I do wish something did happen between us but because of most people that I know claim you shouldn't date Close/life time friends as the friendships never hold if the relationship doesn't work out... So with all of that said i was wondering if anyone had a similar thing to me that they could issue advice on
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