Congratulations on entering into a domestic discipline relationship! You've given your husband the reins and it's his responsibility to help you stay on the straight and narrow path of good behavior and obedience. This is a new direction for you, but rest assured that it is a well-worn path for many women. And in many ways it is a far easier path. Letting your husband lead you relieves you of a lot of decision-making and burdens around providing for you and your family and leaves you with much simpler things, like housework and looking after the kids.

Understanding Why He Spanks

You are naturally aware that nobody is perfect. Most women have bad habits that need to be kept under control, and your husband can lend a helping hand (so to speak) to augment your self-discipline. To this end, you must accept that your husband will set rules in place for you. You have every right to gently provide some input to him, but at the end of the day his decision is final and you should accept it. After all, you know that he loves you and only wants what's best for you. And your devotion to him should naturally lead you away from habits that displease him.

But there will come a time when you find you can't help misbehaving. You may try to fool yourself into thinking that you can get away with something, but most husbands know what their wives are up to. Often he will let things slide rather than punish his wife, but rather than revel in a successful rebellion, you should confess to him and accept your punishment.

Your husband is the final arbiter of your punishment. It is his sole discretion when and how you are spanked and how severe your punishment is. If you, in the calm light of day, feel that your punishments are too severe or too lax, you can calmly request adjustments. But in the moment, you must accept your fate with grace and gratitude. Let's face it: spankings are painful. That's how they work: they force you into a mindset where you're repentant, and maximally receptive of your husband's forgiveness.

While You're Waiting For Your Punishment

Whether you confess to him or he catches you, he will decide to spank you. He may commence your punishment on the spot, or he may decide (particularly if the current time and place are inconvenient) to wait.

It's very likely that you would rather he punish you immediately and not have to wait. It's natural for the delay to fill you with dread and nervous anticipation. Try to direct that energy into thinking about what you did to deserve a spanking and how you can change your behavior to avoid it happening in the future. Remember that the spanking is for your own good. Your husband loves you and almost certainly doesn't relish the idea of blistering and bruising your bottom until you cry, but will stoically soldier on regardless.

It's likely that the reason he may decide to wait is to ensure that the punishment can take place in privacy. If you are in public when you misbehave, he'll want to wait until you are home to punish you. If there are other people in the house, he'll almost certainly want to make sure that none of them are aware of your special arrangement.

Do not spend the time sulking. Having a bad attitude in and of itself will earn you a harsher punishment. Certainly do not continue whatever behavior led to your sentence. Accept your fate with grace. Do not argue or beg. Responding with a meek "Yes, sir" would be the best response, if you must respond at all.

When It Is Time For Your Punishment

When your husband is ready to begin your punishment, the most crucial thing is for you to be obedient. Speak only in response to questions he poses you, and whenever possible, answer solely with "Yes, sir" or "No, sir." Do not beg or plead, and do not argue. Accept his decision and follow his commands.

He may decide for you to be disrobed fully or partially, but at the very least he will need to entirely bare your bottom for spanking. It's critical for him to be able to see the state of it to ensure he achieves the level of punishment he deems necessary, but no more than that. If he requires you to be disrobed more than that, then it is to heighten your embarrassment and vulnerability. Understand that this moves you towards a more receptive and repentant frame of mind, and that helps make the punishment even more effective.

He will decide which implement or implements to use for your punishment and will order you into the position that is most effective. The position he chooses may be uncomfortable or difficult for you, but you should understand that your comfort during the disciplinary process is completely secondary to the mission at hand.

Part of your obedience during the punishment is maintaining the position your husband has selected. This is not only a matter of submission, but also of safety and effectiveness. If you move or try to evade the strokes - which includes trying to block the strokes or protect your bottom with your hands - you may cause the implement to land in the wrong place, which can be both less effective and potentially injurious. More importantly, failing to hold your position demonstrates resistance and a lack of acceptance. Your husband may interpret this as a need to increase the severity or duration of your punishment until you are able to remain still and accept what you have coming.

Do not make any attempts to steel yourself emotionally or mentally distance yourself from your spanking. It is far better for you if you accept the strokes and the pain. If the spanking leads you to tears, allow yourself to cry. Your natural reactions will help you reach the proper state of repentance. What you must not do is beg or plead for the punishment to end before your husband has decided it is finished. Making reaction noises is fine (unless your husband demands otherwise), but you should avoid words during your spanking.

Your husband is in charge. He will take you where your punishment needs to take you. Be brave - it will eventually end.

Additional Punishment Components

Your husband may add corner-time to your punishment either before or after spanking. You must follow your husband's orders and stay wherever he places you and in whatever position and state of dress he chooses. Use this time to reflect on your behavior and how you can avoid disappointing your husband in the future. Under no circumstances must you speak or move out of position while you wait.

If you are in the corner after your spanking, you may still be crying and your bottom will still be feeling the result. Let the crying wash all of the negative emotions out of you and try to fill your mind instead with repentance for what you did and love for your husband.

If you are in the corner before your spanking, you likely are dreading the upcoming punishment. Try to remember what you did to earn it and that it is for your own good. Your husband loves you very much, despite the fact that he is about to dispense a healthy dose of painful spanking.

There are other potential punishments your husband may wish to use, such as mouth-soaping, enemas, or figging. These are beyond the scope here, but look for other pamphlets in this series.

After Your Punishment

When your husband has decided that your spanking is complete, he will release you from your position. You may be crying uncontrollably - that is to be expected. Allow your emotions to continue naturally - it's healthy.

Your husband may or may not have a rule against rubbing or touching your bottom after your spanking. If he does not allow it, then keep your hands at your sides away from your bottom. If he does allow rubbing, then you may do so if you wish.

If you are nude, do not attempt to shield yourself from him. The embarrassment is intentional and useful for you, and attempting to mitigate it is disobedient.

If your punishment is to continue with corner-time, then follow your husband's orders and assume the position and place he asks. You can continue to cry until the crying stops. Your husband will release you when he decides.

Once your punishment is complete, you should immediately go to your husband and hug and kiss him. You should apologize to him for whatever behavior earned you your spanking and he will forgive you. The moments after a painful punishment spanking may be the most tender and loving moments you ever experience. Cherish them. You will almost certainly feel better for having been spanked, even if you need to sit on a softer chair for a day or two.

Some wives wish to thank their husbands for carrying out his duty in a particularly intimate way. If you feel moved to express your gratitude by dropping to your knees and pleasuring your husband orally, you may do so, provided he permits it. Not every wife feels this impulse, and there is no requirement to do so. It is simply one way some wives choose to reaffirm their love and submission after a punishment. If your husband does not wish it, or if you do not feel inclined, a sincere apology and loving embrace are more than sufficient.

Common Mistakes New Wives Make

Almost all of the mistakes wives make in a domestic discipline relationship fall into one of three categories - the "three Ds:" Dishonesty, Disobedience, or Disrespect.

Any behavior that can be described by one of the three "D" words will naturally earn you a punishment from your husband.

Dishonesty is more than lying. Honesty requires you to be completely open with your husband. Hiding anything from him that he needs to know is dishonest. It may be difficult to confess to your husband that you've done something to earn a punishment that he hasn't discovered, but it's almost certain that the consequence for you will be less than if you attempt to cover something up or delay the inevitable.

Disobedience is somewhat more obvious, but it also includes the category of disobedience we've already touched on - disobedience during the disciplinary process. It also extends to your attitude toward your husband’s needs and desires. You should strive to be responsive and available to him, both emotionally and physically. Make your body available to him and take pleasure in the act of pleasing him. A wife who is cold, reluctant, or withholding in her affections is being disobedient in a way that can be just as damaging to the relationship as more obvious rule-breaking.

Disrespect in some ways is a superset of the other two. Hiding something from your husband is disrespectful, as is intentionally flouting a rule that you know he set down for you. But the larger category of disrespect is in arguing with him, or sulking when he makes a decision with which you disagree. There is no surer way to find yourself crying with a sore bottom than to have a bad attitude.

Other Times He May Spank You

Punishment spankings are the usual form of correction within domestic discipline, but they are not necessarily the only times that your husband would spank you. He may also spank you for maintenance, at his own discretion, or even - on rare occasions - in error. Regardless of why your husband decides to spank you, as previously outlined, you must accept your spankings with grace and gratitude.

Your husband may decide, particularly at the beginning of a domestic discipline relationship, that you should undergo a periodically scheduled spanking - probably weekly at a set time and day. These spankings help ensure both of you are accustomed to the idea of spanking as discipline. When the time comes for a scheduled spanking - as is the case for a punishment spanking - you must not attempt to beg off or postpone your spanking. Its purpose is to keep you in the proper mindset and help you get fewer punishment spankings.

Your husband may choose, at any time, to give you a spanking solely at his discretion. This may seem unjust, but you should consider it an opportunity to demonstrate your obedience to him and your acceptance of his leadership. Remember too the tender and loving moments after a spanking that you have to look forward to and be happy at least that your spanking isn't in response to something bad that you have done to earn it.

Your husband is not perfect, just like you are not. And so he may misjudge a situation on occasion and sentence you to an unjust punishment. It is crucial in the moment that you do not argue with him. Even if you are right, it is disrespectful and will likely make your punishment more severe. Accept the punishment with grace. In all likelihood he will discover his error later and apologize. Accept his apology and use it as an opportunity for you both to learn from the experience.

In Closing

You have taken an important step by entering into a domestic discipline relationship. It may feel strange or even frightening at first, but you should take comfort in knowing that countless women before you have taken this same journey with their husband and found greater peace, security, and happiness as a result.

Your husband has accepted the responsibility of guiding and correcting you. This is not a burden he takes lightly. When he spanks you, it is because he loves you and wants you to be the best version of yourself. Your role is to accept his leadership with grace, to learn from your mistakes, and to strive each day to be more obedient, honest, and respectful.

There will be difficult moments. There will be times when the punishment feels unfair or overly severe. There will be days when you resent the rules or the consequences. These feelings are natural, but they are also opportunities to grow. The more completely you surrender to his authority, the easier and more natural this life will become.

Remember that you are not alone. Many wives live under their husband’s loving discipline, and most will tell you that while the spankings are never pleasant, the relationship that grows from them is deeper, more intimate, and more secure than they ever imagined possible.

Trust your husband. Accept his corrections. Be grateful for his care. And know that every time you bend over and offer your bottom for punishment, you are strengthening both your marriage and yourself.

Welcome to your new life. You are exactly where you are meant to be.