It's clear that not all women respond to lavish spending, gifts, and materialism. It's also clear that some definitely do respond to that. What I'm asking is if MOST women respond to those things, as in a solid enough majority of women, enough to make it a basic strategy to have the types of sex, and sexual relationships that a guy desires.
Do most women respond to lavish spending (on them), plentiful gifts, money, and materialism? How is all of this affected by other factors, like having a big dick, being good-looking, having a great personality, having things in common, being able to give women a great time, and being really good in bed? Which of these things is the priority of most women? Which are your priority, in particular?
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Do MOST women respond to lavish spending, gifts, and materialism? If so, how is this affected by ot
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Rainbow Warrior
When you say 'respond', you mean 'put out', right? lol In almost every case, I'm better off financially than anyone I've ever dated, so I don't look for guys who can lavish me with material gifts. Wealth doesn't impress me. I'm 'responsive' to good looks, great personality and chemistry. Dick size is not really a factor. I'm sure there are plenty of gold-diggers out there though, so this ploy will probably work with a lot of women.
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When you say 'respond', you mean 'put out', right? lol In almost every case, I'm better off financially than anyone I've ever dated, so I don't look for guys who can lavish me with material gifts. Wealth doesn't impress me. I'm 'responsive' to good looks, great personality and chemistry. Dick size is not really a factor. I'm sure there are plenty of gold-diggers out there though, so this ploy will probably work with a lot of women.
I did mean "put out." I'm reasonably sure that it does work, for most women, mostly non-wealthy ones, but I'm more interested in the actual opinions of women on here, instead of just making unverified assumptions.
Since you're rich, do you think a multi-billionaire could wow you, with his level of money? Like if you liked him already, do you think deep down, you would be even more impressed, and thus like him more than if he had "regular money" because money/wealth/security would never be even remotely an issue with him?
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I did mean "put out." I'm reasonably sure that it does work, for most women, mostly non-wealthy ones, but I'm more interested in the actual opinions of women on here, instead of just making unverified assumptions.
Since you're rich, do you think a multi-billionaire could wow you, with his level of money? Like if you liked him already, do you think deep down, you would be even more impressed, and thus like him more than if he had "regular money" because money/wealth/security would never be even remotely an issue with him?
No. Wealthy men are too absorbed with their success to be good husbands and fathers. At least my father was! I'm quite happy sleeping with a well-adjusted poor man every night!
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No. Wealthy men are too absorbed with their success to be good husbands and fathers. At least my father was! I'm quite happy sleeping with a well-adjusted poor man every night!
Well, I am a very well-adjusted poor man. I'm so poor, beggars give me money. I also have a sense of humor.
Okay, okay, not a poor man. But well-adjusted. Trained by a great woman.
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No. Wealthy men are too absorbed with their success to be good husbands and fathers. At least my father was! I'm quite happy sleeping with a well-adjusted poor man every night!
You say that being financially stable.
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This one does not respond to gifts and offers. I receive some gifts at Christmas time from clients which are purely commercial. As for sex - I have all I want and can get more if I want it. If I do respond to offers of inducement it would be in a negative way.
The mere mention of sexual harassment at the moment has them backing off so fast it's amusing.
The mere mention of sexual harassment at the moment has them backing off so fast it's amusing.
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It's clear that not all women respond to lavish spending, gifts, and materialism. It's also clear that some definitely do respond to that. What I'm asking is if MOST women respond to those things, as in a solid enough majority of women, enough to make it a basic strategy to have the types of sex, and sexual relationships that a guy desires.
Do most women respond to lavish spending (on them), plentiful gifts, money, and materialism? How is all of this affected by other factors, like having a big dick, being good-looking, having a great personality, having things in common, being able to give women a great time, and being really good in bed? Which of these things is the priority of most women? Which are your priority, in particular?
Well I can't speak for 'most' women, just myself.
I had an ex one time that did believe in 'spend big, get rewarded' and it really sort of demoted him to a creep by the end of the relationship. It was just strange. Obviously I'm not the type to respond to material things. It diminishes the meaning of gift-giving to just a casual past time (and thus a complete waste of money). But it also said how little he thought of me.
And ever since that weird relationship with him, I've really sort of disliked being given anything lavish. And I don't follow up the receipt of a gift with a fuck. Because that'll just diminishes the meaning of sex, to me.
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This one does not respond to gifts and offers. I receive some gifts at Christmas time from clients which are purely commercial. As for sex - I have all I want and can get more if I want it. If I do respond to offers of inducement it would be in a negative way.
The mere mention of sexual harassment at the moment has them backing off so fast it's amusing.
Yes, I figure women have an upswing in the power dynamic in that regard now. Which is fair, that they can defend themselves in situations that would otherwise be unfair for them, if they choose not to reciprocate advances.
It seems people are actually going to have to work in the workplace now. Who would have thunk it?
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Well I can't speak for 'most' women, just myself.
I had an ex one time that did believe in 'spend big, get rewarded' and it really sort of demoted him to a creep by the end of the relationship. It was just strange. Obviously I'm not the type to respond to material things. It diminishes the meaning of gift-giving to just a casual past time (and thus a complete waste of money). But it also said how little he thought of me.
And ever since that weird relationship with him, I've really sort of disliked being given anything lavish. And I don't follow up the receipt of a gift with a fuck. Because that'll just diminishes the meaning of sex, to me.
Sometimes I wonder if it's just the type of gift. Like obviously once a gift is very expensive, 99% of guys have expectations that come along with them. Which doesn't make much sense to me because any logical person knows that setting up that expectation in a person, means that you would only be making it harder for yourself to get laid since most guys can't afford to do that too often. And then for the ones that can afford it, they do risk all of the things you are all pointing out. I can see how that can be true.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Since you clarified that by 'respond' you mean 'put out', I'll answer from that angle.
It depends on who you're asking. If you asked an escort or a sugar baby, or any woman who makes it a point to have sex with men for money, lavish gifts, etc., then yes.
Does this apply to most women? No.
With that being said, when my boyfriend buys me nice things, I fuck him. When my boyfriend does a nice thing for me that doesn't involve spending money, I fuck him. He makes me feel safe, secure, and insanely happy, and makes it that much easier for me to get out of bed every morning. He's also compassionate, considerate, and thoughtful, and he expresses that in many ways, and one of those ways is buying and/or doing nice things for me. Therefore, I fuck him. A lot.
I 'respond' to the thought behind these acts, and not the acts themselves, if that makes sense. I also reciprocate in other ways, like getting him gifts or doing nice things for him. And he, in turn, fucks me.
I've had guys buy me things or offer to buy me things, and I wasn't moved at all. So for me, it depends on who's doing the giving, and why. I don't accept (or give) lavish gifts without sentiment.
But that's my perspective based on my experiences that shaped what I do/don't like or respond to.
No woman here can tell you what 'MOST' women respond to when it comes to lavish gifts and materialism. They can only answer for themselves.
It depends on who you're asking. If you asked an escort or a sugar baby, or any woman who makes it a point to have sex with men for money, lavish gifts, etc., then yes.
Does this apply to most women? No.
With that being said, when my boyfriend buys me nice things, I fuck him. When my boyfriend does a nice thing for me that doesn't involve spending money, I fuck him. He makes me feel safe, secure, and insanely happy, and makes it that much easier for me to get out of bed every morning. He's also compassionate, considerate, and thoughtful, and he expresses that in many ways, and one of those ways is buying and/or doing nice things for me. Therefore, I fuck him. A lot.
I 'respond' to the thought behind these acts, and not the acts themselves, if that makes sense. I also reciprocate in other ways, like getting him gifts or doing nice things for him. And he, in turn, fucks me.
I've had guys buy me things or offer to buy me things, and I wasn't moved at all. So for me, it depends on who's doing the giving, and why. I don't accept (or give) lavish gifts without sentiment.
But that's my perspective based on my experiences that shaped what I do/don't like or respond to.
No woman here can tell you what 'MOST' women respond to when it comes to lavish gifts and materialism. They can only answer for themselves.
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I try to make gifts, rather than buy them, for anyone I am involved with. A story or poem, cool rocks with hearts painted on them, a meaningful photo nicely displayed, a wax/clay/hand-drawn flower. Some projects turn out better than others. My sense is that women are much more moved by that than something I bought somewhere. Of course, that has a lot to do with the values of the women I am involved with. But in my experience art trumps money every time, when it comes to making your way into a woman's heart.
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I'm not really going to respond to this kind of thing. I'm more concerned with how someone makes me feel, not but what they give me.
Coco Pop
I almost can't stand to receive expensive gifts. I'm not attracted to wealth. If I see a guy in a Ferrari, I automatically am predisposed to dislike him because 90% of the time, people buy expensive things to impress other people. I'm not impressed. If someone's obsessed with being seen as rich or powerful or successful to his 'friends' I really don't want to know him. My priority is personality. Kindness, sense of humour, intelligence, humility, generosity etc.
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I almost can't stand to receive expensive gifts. I'm not attracted to wealth. If I see a guy in a Ferrari, I automatically am predisposed to dislike him because 90% of the time, people buy expensive things to impress other people. I'm not impressed. If someone's obsessed with being seen as rich or powerful or successful to his 'friends' I really don't want to know him. My priority is personality. Kindness, sense of humour, intelligence, humility, generosity etc.
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The Linebacker
The guys who like to attract women with money, gifts, and materialism snag women who want all that. While that is pretty shallow thinking, it's mostly for shallow people.
Those guys want gorgeous sexy women and truthfully, there is no shortage of gorgeous sexy women who want the money and material lifestye, so they'll marry an older, even ugly man to get what they want.
I'm wondering if that's what Trump's three marriages were built on.
But just because the guy has money, sports cars, and all the trappings, doesn't mean that is who he is or what he wants in a relationship. In fact, some guys who have all that are very suspicious and skeptical of the women they meet because they do not want to end up with a golddigger.
And truthfully, this can be turned around. There are plenty of rich women with boy toy golddiggers.
But in the world, there are a lot more people who just want to get with someone who wants them for them and vice versa, to have a real meaningful relationship.
Those guys want gorgeous sexy women and truthfully, there is no shortage of gorgeous sexy women who want the money and material lifestye, so they'll marry an older, even ugly man to get what they want.
I'm wondering if that's what Trump's three marriages were built on.
But just because the guy has money, sports cars, and all the trappings, doesn't mean that is who he is or what he wants in a relationship. In fact, some guys who have all that are very suspicious and skeptical of the women they meet because they do not want to end up with a golddigger.
And truthfully, this can be turned around. There are plenty of rich women with boy toy golddiggers.
But in the world, there are a lot more people who just want to get with someone who wants them for them and vice versa, to have a real meaningful relationship.
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Sometimes I wonder if it's just the type of gift. Like obviously once a gift is very expensive, 99% of guys have expectations that come along with them. Which doesn't make much sense to me because any logical person knows that setting up that expectation in a person, means that you would only be making it harder for yourself to get laid since most guys can't afford to do that too often. And then for the ones that can afford it, they do risk all of the things you are all pointing out. I can see how that can be true.
The bigger question you should be asking is: Do I want to really get involved with women who are so materialistic that money spent on stuff is the only reason why they want anything to do with me.
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I'm not impressed by expensive gifts or bling. A winning smile, an act of kindness, showing a sense of humor, those are the things that I find attractive in anyone I am considering dating. BUt I can also tell you that sometimes, it depends upon where you live. While I was living in LA, and single / on the prowl, I found that a great many women were impressed that I arrived in a BMW, wore an expensive dress, and carried a designer hand bag. But that was LA, which I think of as a vast ocean of superficial people. But while I was happy to have sex with women (and a few men) who were impressed by those things, I never had any interest in long term situations with them. I was just using them for instant gratification, and all they were looking for from me was the same thing.
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It's the much less expensive, or free things that mean more to me. A little note, a flower, a poem etc. that takes effort.
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Unless you are a pro and expect money and gifts, I do not think men will get something from me that they would not get without the gifts.
I love sex and need it often. However, unless you are interesting, reasonably good looking and make me feel the best gift I could want is a night you. I doubt that any gift would change my conclusion about the man in question.
Now if we had a wonderful night and in the morning when I wake up and still have my sexual glow on and find an envelope with a gift certificate for Jimmy Chew, Tiffany or a weekend at my favorite SPA. Those things do not hurt your chances that there will be a fourth or fifth time for us.
I love sex and need it often. However, unless you are interesting, reasonably good looking and make me feel the best gift I could want is a night you. I doubt that any gift would change my conclusion about the man in question.
Now if we had a wonderful night and in the morning when I wake up and still have my sexual glow on and find an envelope with a gift certificate for Jimmy Chew, Tiffany or a weekend at my favorite SPA. Those things do not hurt your chances that there will be a fourth or fifth time for us.
I feel quite intimidated by wealth and tend to feel uncomfortable being paid for and so forth, so no I don’t necessarily find it impressive or a trait that draws me towards someone. That being said I’ve engaged with someone whom was of at least some degree of wealth and when you have grown up and are so well adapted to having very little, and constantly evaluating what can and can’t fit in a budget, it is certainly nice to be spoiled - but is certainly not what attracted me to this person nor what retained my interest.
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No, quite the opposite. I do not like men who appear to be trying to "buy" me in that way. I go with somebody because there is an attraction, not neccessarily physical, someone who interests me or makes me feel good about being me.