Truth & Lies

Quote by Milik_The_Red
In the first instance if I found that for some bazaar reason that I cannot fathom I didn't want to go down on her but loved her I would teach myself to get over it. I love her so she deserves the best I can give her sexually or otherwise.

In the second case I would never lie to a lady about how I felt especially after sex. That is a lie destined to explode in ones face.

You made the point that situations matter and that's true but I can't think of one off hand that justifies telling a woman I love her when I don't. The guy you were with was a fucking Neanderthal and a bastard. Be glad he is gone and hope quietly that he gets hit by a truck.

No guy believes in a pity fuck, if he said that he just wanted to have sex with you for the sake of it.

Quote by Magical_felix
I can't think of anything else that would be harder to tell a girl than, "hey baby, your puss is a little sour. Maybe you should douche." I'm being serious, there is no right way of telling her. Anyway you say it she will just hear. "Fuck, your pussy is grossing me out." And then she will be mad and you will be pulling your pud once she falls asleep. Every time I'm trying to seduce a girl and that moment happens when you realize, "I'm fucking this girl soon.." Only one thought crosses my mind. "I really hope her vagina doesn't smell bad because I like her and want to have sex repeatedly."

BUT if there is a bad smell you can:

A) Play through the pain.

B) Tell her to clean up (B isn't really an option)

C) Breath through your mouth and do not perform oral.

B) Tell her you are getting a strong friend vibe.

Quote by Dancing_Doll


OR...

Use something messy for the first round... like tons of baby-oil, or cum in her hair... then employ the "shower-fantasy" strategy before you start round-two. As in "let's go clean you up, baby and then have more fun getting dirty again..."

Quote by Magical_felix


But there will have to be a round one I mean sometimes a girl can look like a model and everything is going good, jokes are being told, laughs are being had, stares into the eyes are being allowed to linger, unnecessary body contact is being made. So you think you're golden, It's a lucky night, she looks good in her panties... Then you kiss up her thigh and you start to wonder if she has cats and the litter box is dirty or something... You get closer and it hits you. It's not her cats... It's her pussy! Your penis turns soft. so soft. You give it another chance next week. And the smell is there. Fuck. So you think third time's a charm and no, the smell goes up your nose and it is almost physically painful.

What then? A B C or D

Quote by Dancing_Doll


Hmmm... use heavily flavoured lube? Get so wasted before you have sex that you don't notice anything? Snort an eight-ball so that you can't breathe through your nose? Burn your tastebuds off beforehand using sour-candy-sugar? Skip the pussy and hope her ass tastes better?

I think this book has some other helpful tricks... Don't forget to gargle with mouth-wash later.

Quote by Shylass

I've had the experience of being told by a fella that he loved me, and did a few things with me (okay, he kissed me and let me wank him a couple of times), only to find out later that actually, he only did it because he wanted me to "feel like I was loved" because nobody else would and he wanted me to have that experience so I would know what it was like to be a real woman. I won't go into the rest of it, but he had regular occasions during which he could have told me how he truthfully felt (he had promised never to lie to me if his feelings ever changed when he first told me he liked me). In the end, he admitted that he had been lying the entire time. I still don't know why, unless he liked the fact that he thought he was doing me some kind of bizarre favour.

Quote by Dancing_Doll


I'll tell you what he did here... he felt that you were getting emotionally attached to him, so he decided to act like a douchebag and deliberately say something hurtful to you to turn you off him, under the guise of just wanting to be "honest" and "truthful". Rather than saying "this isn't going to go anywhere so don't get any ideas", he decided to take the passive-aggressive route and enjoy an ego-trip along the way.

My guess is that he's an emotionally-stunted asshole that likes to play psychological games with women.

Don't take it personally.

Nobody should use any verbal-chainsaws, spewing "the real truth" when there is the potential to needlessly hurt someone you once cared about (or at least liked enough to have sex with). When it comes to sex and/or love, being classy and tactful is always the preferable route. I say it's always better to do the "it's not you, it's me" thing, or the "I'm not ready for a relationship" or even "I don't feel we have the right chemistry"...

If the person continues to dig from there because they are demanding the straight truth and don't want the sugar-coated version then it's okay to dish the hurtful criticisms. Maybe that's what they need to get closure. And if they can't handle the truth, then they shouldn't ask for it.

Bloomin' right I got emotionally attached! He knew exactly what my history had been, how and why I couldn't trust anybody, and how I could barely let anybody hug me, let alone anything else. It was a total onslaught (on his part) to be as gentle and careful as possible with me, but stlll pushy and cajoling without me running for the hills (which also happened a couple of times). I couldn't believe him for months, and he said he was fine with it, even stepping it up, and then I began to believe what he said a tiny bit by forcing myself to.

And then eventually, I saw he'd de-friended me on Facefudge, but with his settings open, so I could see all about the new love of his life. I said nothing until he phoned me up two days later to "confess" he'd defriended me and might have met someone. I asked why he hadn't seen fit to tell me about it. That's when he delivered his lovely list of crap.

I bent over backwards to be a good friend, as well as something a bit more, and I just cannot fathom what it was that made him lie so hurtfully in the first place, and then say such awful things to me. I said from the beginning just being friends was a privelige (I was even thicker back then than I am now), and I actually forgave him! But he walked all over me as a friend too. When he had done it for the third time, I cut him off. I should have done it the first time, but I am the kind of person that desires the redemption factor.

Lush is teaching me a lot about fellas. But I don't understand why he would have done what he did. If I could understand it, I might not beat myself up so much for it.

Quote by Shylass


Bloomin' right I got emotionally attached! He knew exactly what my history had been, how and why I couldn't trust anybody, and how I could barely let anybody hug me, let alone anything else. It was a total onslaught (on his part) to be as gentle and careful as possible with me, but stlll pushy and cajoling without me running for the hills (which also happened a couple of times). I couldn't believe him for months, and he said he was fine with it, even stepping it up, and then I began to believe what he said a tiny bit by forcing myself to.

And then eventually, I saw he'd de-friended me on Facefudge, but with his settings open, so I could see all about the new love of his life. I said nothing until he phoned me up two days later to "confess" he'd defriended me and might have met someone. I asked why he hadn't seen fit to tell me about it. That's when he delivered his lovely list of crap.

I bent over backwards to be a good friend, as well as something a bit more, and I just cannot fathom what it was that made him lie so hurtfully in the first place, and then say such awful things to me. I said from the beginning just being friends was a privelige (I was even thicker back then than I am now), and I actually forgave him! But he walked all over me as a friend too. When he had done it for the third time, I cut him off. I should have done it the first time, but I am the kind of person that desires the redemption factor.

Lush is teaching me a lot about fellas. But I don't understand why he would have done what he did. If I could understand it, I might not beat myself up so much for it.

Quote by Shylass
That sounds like a whole load of work for very little benefit.

Is that the mindset of blokes as a whole in general, a select few, or a majority of them?

Thank you very much for your replies.

Quote by Shylass


When he had done it for the third time, I cut him off. I should have done it the first time

Quote by MMonroe
As for the cleanliness thing... there really is no right way to tell a girl (or guy!) that you dont want to go down on them because they stink. I think if that was me, i'd just avoid it and tell him i didnt like doing it. Mind you if he smelled that bad i wouldnt wanna have sex with him full stop.

Either that or i would have to bite the bullet and eventually tell him, but that would inevitably lead to a break up i feel. If a guy ever said that to me, i probably couldnt stay with him out of embarrasment


This is actually making me a bit paranoid now.... i hope a guy has never thought that about me

Quote by 1curiouscat

If the occurrence is constant and it bothers the partner who is performing the act, then if he/she wishes to change this, then action must be taken... hopefully trough mature communication.

I tried to explain the concept of "tact" to him. I don't think it worked - his next missus ended up punching him and dumping him. He's still single.

I wouldn't want Happy Time without being completely clean, personally, and I can't understand other people who like it a bit "riper". But everybody's different, I guess.

Quote by Shylass


I tried to explain the concept of "tact" to him. I don't think it worked - his next missus ended up punching him and dumping him. He's still single.

I wouldn't want Happy Time without being completely clean, personally, and I can't understand other people who like it a bit "riper". But everybody's different, I guess.