To get back to your original questions, there are nearly as many variations of the "BDSM lifestyle" as there are couples in it. Several of those with profiles that say they can't talk w/o permission can be found chattering away in various rooms. For most it is fantasy, the sub is 'forced' to endure being pleasured or giving pleasure etc. Some folks, like myself, have experience with the club scene, and for most it is something done, at most, a few times a month. Some have tried living it full time, but I don't know anyone who has suceeded for more than a few weeks.
I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO confused!!!
Why, Shylass, why???
You are giggling aren't you?
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
Here is the final answer to this a real Dom/Dommes gives rules to see how loyal their sub is to them. Do they really respect their Master/Mistresses wishes and do they really want to please them. Most times these rules have nothing to do with Jealousy but what is one of the Dom/Dommes main responsibilities to protect their sub.
And as to a Master or Mistress having insecurities that is false a true one is quite secure in their Lifestyle
I don't know what TPE stands for either, so it was definately a good question. It was just that the more I read on the thread the confuseder was my head.
Red Dragon gave a good answer explaining the why for the rules and it is pretty easy to understand that there are few ways to determine if an online sub is indeed obeying so that would be one test.
My giggling comment was not meant to offend, but was just that I was so I thought maybe someone else was also.
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
I think that the amount of freedom a submissive has is related to the degree of trust in them by their domme/dome to be loyal. *thinks for a moment then sighs* I must not be very trusting then o.o,
Someone please delete this post.
i have said it before, and it seems it bears repeating. in MY experience, the sub is usually the one with a need for control. most of the really good Dom/mes i have experience with are NOT control freaks - they are confident and giving and very caring men and woman who are able to look at a subs needs and act upon them. i know that, i my case, my Mistress tailors her actions to a large degree upon what i need, translating my actions and words or even my unspoken words, and acting upon them. she pays attention and gives me what i need - it's a lot of work, and she does it with a great degree of patience and she is GOOD at it. she's never abusive and she is careful with me.
the control comes in that i choose to give myself to her, i dictate, to a degree, what goes on in the relationship, and i KNOW that i can slow things down or put a halt to them at ANY time i so choose. in a sense, i am the one who controls what happens during our sessions, be it overtly or subltly - i give her power of me - and i do that because she has earned my trust. That is what defines a good Dom/me. Trustworthiness, NOT control. i call total Bullshit on the 'addicted to control' line - that's not how a good Master/Mistress operates.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.