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If you could take one trait from your ex and put it in your current significant other...

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There were many reasons my ex and I divorced and I am in a better relationship for it now. However, my ex was sexually adventurous... sex in public, swinging, toys, blowing me while I was on the phone... I really miss that aspect of the relationship and wished my current significant other wasn't so.... vanilla. If you could bring one trait from your ex into your current relationship, what would it be?
Porgy87
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I had an ex whose pussy flowed like a fire hose when she was aroused -- so much so that I couldn't go down on her without feeling I was going to drown! I was young, I didn't know what a good thing I had there! I love who I'm with now, but it would be SO much better if she had the ex's pussy juice.
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I had an ex whose pussy flowed like a fire hose when she was aroused -- so much so that I couldn't go down on her without feeling I was going to drown! I was young, I didn't know what a good thing I had there! I love who I'm with now, but it would be SO much better if she had the ex's pussy juice.

I had a girlfriend like that...yes I did have them. I used to call her Lizzy Dripping. Nice taste when I went down on her.
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There were many reasons my ex and I divorced and I am in a better relationship for it now. However, my ex was sexually adventurous... sex in public, swinging, toys, blowing me while I was on the phone... I really miss that aspect of the relationship and wished my current significant other wasn't so.... vanilla. If you could bring one trait from your ex into your current relationship, what would it be?


Minus the swinging part... you are describing my college GF - and sounds like we are both in the same type of... let's say... less adventurous situation now lol...

Similarly - despite the mutually awesome sex lol... my college GF and I broke up for many correct reasons - just wish I could get all of the sex part from that relationship into my current one.

Thankfully I have an unbelievable highlight reel in my brain - it was 25+ years ago but those highlights are vivid - were recorded in HD way before that got invented . Hmmm... maybe my brain knew that it'd better remember everything lol...
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I am glad that my ex and I are friends again. He was one of the most sensitive beings I have ever come across, despite the way things ended being less than I would have desire. I have not had anyone really special since my marriage ended, but if I ever do I hope that person will be as caring and sensitive
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Minus the swinging part... you are describing my college GF - and sounds like we are both in the same type of... let's say... less adventurous situation now lol...

Similarly - despite the mutually awesome sex lol... my college GF and I broke up for many correct reasons - just wish I could get all of the sex part from that relationship into my current one.

Thankfully I have an unbelievable highlight reel in my brain - it was 25+ years ago but those highlights are vivid - were recorded in HD way before that got invented . Hmmm... maybe my brain knew that it'd better remember everything lol...



I feel the same way, just lately that highlight reel has been playing virutually non-stop. I'm not sure if i've just been in a hyper-sexual mood or if I'm feeling I need/want to be in that type of relationship again.
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Her desire for anal sex. She enjoyed it very much.
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True love is loving even their imperfections. I can't think of anything in the world that I would change. If only he knew how I see him through my eyes. Perfectly imperfect.
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Her desire for anal sex. She enjoyed it very much.


That is something I have not enjoed in quite some time. It was very often, but my ex would let me enjoy her ass on special occassions.
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True love is loving even their imperfections. I can't think of anything in the world that I would change. If only he knew how I see him through my eyes. Perfectly imperfect.

I know I wrote a reply up above describing something I might add to my present partner's presence, but that doesn't mean I'd ever want her perfect. Both she and I are "perfectly imperfect" and we're happy that way.

You're a wonderful woman, Dragon Lilly!
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There were many reasons my ex and I divorced and I am in a better relationship for it now. However, my ex was sexually adventurous... sex in public, swinging, toys, blowing me while I was on the phone... I really miss that aspect of the relationship and wished my current significant other wasn't so.... vanilla. If you could bring one trait from your ex into your current relationship, what would it be?


yes same here
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Every person is unique. Each has something to offer. People in general have this critical need to mold someone into the image of their desires. We are always changing, physically, mentally, and socially. I believe relationships fail when partners don't learn to accept and participate with changes of their significant other. That creates a feeling of being suppressed and resentment blossoms.

So to answer your question. No. I need to love them for who they are, not for what I wish they were.
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Maybe its a girl thing, but I don't really get the notion of dissecting peoples' personalities, dividing them into qualities with the idea of cutting and pasting them on to someone else. Not being critical, just puzzled! And in my relationships I certainly would not make the same choices as I did say 20 years ago, no disrespect to my exes! But because I've learned and changed with each relationship and general life experience. Totally happy to accept I'm just odd though!!
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To have my ex's oral skill, my wife is not very willing to suck cock but my ex would have a cock in her mouth any chance she got and damn she was good at it
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Quote by ChuckEPoo
Every person is unique. Each has something to offer. People in general have this critical need to mold someone into the image of their desires. We are always changing, physically, mentally, and socially. I believe relationships fail when partners don't learn to accept and participate with changes of their significant other. That creates a feeling of being suppressed and resentment blossoms.

So to answer your question. No. I need to love them for who they are, not for what I wish they were.


All very true. Even so, we all fantasise about things we want. I love my husband very much, but I wish he enjoyed going down on me more. I've tasted myself. I'm not super yummy delicious, but I consider myself edible. He just doesn't enjoy doing much with his mouth. I don't even get all that many tongue kisses. As I said, I love him dearly, and he loves me, but I really wish he enjoyed oral more. I have an ex from long ago who enjoyed it immensely.

I'm not leaving my husband over that, though. ;-)
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All very true. Even so, we all fantasise about things we want. I love my husband very much, but I wish he enjoyed going down on me more. I've tasted myself. I'm not super yummy delicious, but I consider myself edible. He just doesn't enjoy doing much with his mouth. I don't even get all that many tongue kisses. As I said, I love him dearly, and he loves me, but I really wish he enjoyed oral more. I have an ex from long ago who enjoyed it immensely.

I'm not leaving my husband over that, though. ;-)


Glad to hear that. I assume you have told him your desires. I think I do the same thing we all do. Desire something but assume your partner would have already done it if they wanted to. Then, during an argument or discussion say, " you've never done that for me!" Their response is predictably, "you never told me!"
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Glad to hear that. I assume you have told him your desires. I think I do the same thing we all do. Desire something but assume your partner would have already done it if they wanted to. Then, during an argument or discussion say, " you've never done that for me!" Their response is predictably, "you never told me!"


Yes, I've most definitely been there, in a younger incarnation of myself. So yes, I've mentioned it before. As I said, he is simply not very orally inclined in general. I accept it, even if it's hard for me to understand sometimes, since I draw so much pleasure from using my mouth in various ways.

It is what it is.
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Yes, I've most definitely been there, in a younger incarnation of myself. So yes, I've mentioned it before. As I said, he is simply not very orally inclined in general. I accept it, even if it's hard for me to understand sometimes, since I draw so much pleasure from using my mouth in various ways.

It is what it is.



I'm sorry to hear he is not orally inclined but I understand. My wife has only let me go down on her one time - and I had to bribe her to let me do that. I on the other hand love to give a woman oral pleasure and find it disappointing that I am not able to do so in my relationship. I find sometimes when I masturbate i fantasize about giving oral and have intense orgasms thinking about it.
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my ex was nothing and my current is better, but still not very adventurous. I know for a fact that she was more adventurous prior to our relationship. Bummer for me I guess.
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I'm sorry to hear he is not orally inclined but I understand. My wife has only let me go down on her one time - and I had to bribe her to let me do that. I on the other hand love to give a woman oral pleasure and find it disappointing that I am not able to do so in my relationship. I find sometimes when I masturbate i fantasize about giving oral and have intense orgasms thinking about it.


See, and I have fantasies about *getting* great oral, which is perhaps not so odd. ;-)

God, I kind of envy your wife. She doesn't know what she's missing. Maybe someday she'll come around.
avrgblkgrl
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I would make my significant other playful. He's always so serious. I'm very playful and my ex was as well. It doesn't mean that my current love does not have a sense of humor, I just have to initiate playfulness and generally encourage it. However, that is one of the things he says he loves about me.
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If I even hinted I wanted a bj, my ex would go to town sucking my cock. She loved to swallow my cum. Also, she loved anal. Other than that she was psycho. My current SO has never let me cum in her mouth. I rarely get a bj, and wont do anal. BUT shes not a psycho.
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