First off, this is for a story, not real life. My wife is about as likely to agree to an open relationship as I am to a root canal without freezing.
I have a scene where a heterosexual couple in an open relationship is explaining their lifestyle to friends who are not part of it (yet, that's kind of where the story will ultimately go). The woman explains the basic rules that they follow to the female half of the other couple. I am not an expert on this, but I have read about various configurations over the years. I have her explain it as follows:
“We always tell each other before we have sex with someone outside the relationship and get the other’s approval. We only go outside for same sex relationships, never with opposite. It’s always safe sex. We also have two couples that are ‘pre-approved’. We swing with them in groups and trust them so the rules are relaxed if we are in the group or go individually with a member of one of those couples. For instance, it’s okay to have opposite sex hookups with them, though we don’t usually do it except during group play.”
Later, the man explains the reason for only same sex (other than with the "approved" people):
“For instance, right now we are only taking same-sex partners outside those two couples,” Ross added, “It’s safer for us emotionally since neither of us tends to fall emotionally for same-sex, just enjoy them in bed.”
Anyone care to comment on how this sounds? It doesn't need to be hardcore realistic, just sound like something that might work for a given couple.
If you want to know where the couple with the open relationship is coming from, read my story "New Friends" which is about their first time swinging with another couple.
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Sounds pretty realistic to me! 
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I am not in a relationship. However if I was he would know I would cheat. If he could not accept the concept, then he is the wrong guy for me .
I would not expect to tell him whom or where or when. He would have the same right and privileges.
If you have to report in or ask for permission just how Open is the Relationship.
The thrill of cheating is at least half the fun.
I would not expect to tell him whom or where or when. He would have the same right and privileges.
If you have to report in or ask for permission just how Open is the Relationship.
The thrill of cheating is at least half the fun.
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The whole story is up in the air right now (for other reasons than this passage), but thanks for the feedback folks.
Hope you didn't delete it.
I think having them talk about, and maybe even negotiate the rules, would make for great dialogue. And how the rules change might make a great idea for a series.
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Hope you didn't delete it.
I think having them talk about, and maybe even negotiate the rules, would make for great dialogue. And how the rules change might make a great idea for a series.
No deletion planned, but I really need to redo the first half, which is where that passage appears. It got too talky and didn't really build up properly to the second half, where things really get steamy. It also didn't really hang together in the end. Right now, I'm off on another, completely unrelated piece.
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Hubbie and I have been in an open marriage for all but the first year of our 38 plus years of marriage. We never had to ask the other for permission, just let each other know we were going to be playing. Most of the time we played, wevwere together. While we were in the Air Force we did not play with in the Wing Hubbie was in. We do not play with any of my employees either.
Until the mid to late 80s we did not use protection. I lost the ability to get pregnant due to an accident when I was 11, so getting pregnant was not anything we had to be concerned with. After AIDS / HIV showed up, protection was required. We were not interested in playing Russian Roulette with our sex life.
The AIDS / HIV scare was the main reason we co-founded our private swing group when those deadly STDs showed up. We now have 5 couples, 3 single gals, and 5 single guys. We all went through a 9 month initial testing period for STDs. We are all retested every 2 months. We do not use protection within the group, but have all pledged to use protection if we play outside of our group. We can all play within the group as we please. Hubbie and I still let each other know when we are going to play. Unless he is out of town we usually play together.
I know this lifestyle is not for everyone, but it has worked well for us and the other members of our group.
If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.
Brandie
Until the mid to late 80s we did not use protection. I lost the ability to get pregnant due to an accident when I was 11, so getting pregnant was not anything we had to be concerned with. After AIDS / HIV showed up, protection was required. We were not interested in playing Russian Roulette with our sex life.
The AIDS / HIV scare was the main reason we co-founded our private swing group when those deadly STDs showed up. We now have 5 couples, 3 single gals, and 5 single guys. We all went through a 9 month initial testing period for STDs. We are all retested every 2 months. We do not use protection within the group, but have all pledged to use protection if we play outside of our group. We can all play within the group as we please. Hubbie and I still let each other know when we are going to play. Unless he is out of town we usually play together.
I know this lifestyle is not for everyone, but it has worked well for us and the other members of our group.
If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.
Brandie
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We now have 5 couples, 3 single gals, and 5 single guys. We all went through a 9 month initial testing period for STDs. We are all retested every 2 months. We do not use protection within the group, but have all pledged to use protection if we play outside of our group. We can all play within the group as we please. Hubbie and I still let each other know when we are going to play. Unless he is out of town we usually play together.
I think I might have had your story vaguely in mind as I was writing this, Brandie. At least it was something I read on here that twigged me to the idea of them having a group that was "approved". Thanks for that
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. I speak only for us. I married a bisexual woman. I too am bi. This was known from the start as we met in a club that caters to the lifestyle. After a few years or marriage, she went on a work related trip to New Orleans with some co workers. She was gone about 5 days. Turned out, the lady she roomed with had sex with my wife on that trip, several times while I sat at home with my dick in my hand. When she got home, late around midnight, I immediately had sex with her. Following morning again. She realized that I hadn't had "any" since she left on the trip.
We talked about it. Her sex was les. We had agreed let let each other keep that part of our sex life. We had been in a few threesomes in those early years. I could have found a guy, but I hadn't really been with a guy in awhile. My gay sex is usually a product of opportunity, meaning that I don,t have a regular mate. When it comes available, I jump at the opportunity!
Our rules were that if she was going to have sex with another woman, I was free to find a partner. My partner could be male or female as she had some opportunities to get with guys while out with her lady friends. But, we would only do this at the same time. If she's on a trip with her friend(s), I could be with a friend or 2. As soon as she's back, I'm back. I was able to get a FWB situation with an older, divorced woman from work. My wife eventually got a relationship going with a woman. For whatever reason, Wednesday evenings, we spent apart and with our "other" lovers. Thursday, we were back home together.
We eventually got into swinging with another couple and the wives became lovers. It seemed that our rules were basically the same with the other couple so on Wed. evenings, the other hubby was playing the field as well.
One thing of note, she never had a problem with sharing me as she would invite women she worked with over to the house for sex. Especially if the woman hadn't had sex in awhile. I racall that after I learned to give my wife tantric massages, she had her coworker call in sick and come to our hose once while I gave her many orgasms while my wife was at work. We were still in bed together when my wife came home. Very open we are.
Another summer, she had one of her girls, recently divorced, move in with us for the summer. Am I lucky or what?
Main thing I found out was, if she was ok with it, hell go for it. It eventually came to a halt, as trust issues between the women would arise and my wife tired of it all. She wanted the sex, not the drama. I eventually got a gay thing going for awhile and we even did a mmf threesome. After watching me in gay sex, she got curious about trying anal and this led us to a brand new chapter and we stopped the open door policy.
We talked about it. Her sex was les. We had agreed let let each other keep that part of our sex life. We had been in a few threesomes in those early years. I could have found a guy, but I hadn't really been with a guy in awhile. My gay sex is usually a product of opportunity, meaning that I don,t have a regular mate. When it comes available, I jump at the opportunity!
Our rules were that if she was going to have sex with another woman, I was free to find a partner. My partner could be male or female as she had some opportunities to get with guys while out with her lady friends. But, we would only do this at the same time. If she's on a trip with her friend(s), I could be with a friend or 2. As soon as she's back, I'm back. I was able to get a FWB situation with an older, divorced woman from work. My wife eventually got a relationship going with a woman. For whatever reason, Wednesday evenings, we spent apart and with our "other" lovers. Thursday, we were back home together.
We eventually got into swinging with another couple and the wives became lovers. It seemed that our rules were basically the same with the other couple so on Wed. evenings, the other hubby was playing the field as well.
One thing of note, she never had a problem with sharing me as she would invite women she worked with over to the house for sex. Especially if the woman hadn't had sex in awhile. I racall that after I learned to give my wife tantric massages, she had her coworker call in sick and come to our hose once while I gave her many orgasms while my wife was at work. We were still in bed together when my wife came home. Very open we are.
Another summer, she had one of her girls, recently divorced, move in with us for the summer. Am I lucky or what?
Main thing I found out was, if she was ok with it, hell go for it. It eventually came to a halt, as trust issues between the women would arise and my wife tired of it all. She wanted the sex, not the drama. I eventually got a gay thing going for awhile and we even did a mmf threesome. After watching me in gay sex, she got curious about trying anal and this led us to a brand new chapter and we stopped the open door policy.
Marx Sister
Rules are often kind of a bummer, when it comes to open relationships. Not always, of course. Some couples make it work really well for them (i.e. they only have oral with other partners, or just no vaginal penetration because of the risk of pregnancy, etc.), but it has been my experience that the relationship of this sort which really last are typically undergoing constant change, and in general those sorts of restrictions fall away within a few months or a year of being functionally open. Functional in this case meaning that both parties have had the opportunity to do some dating. Anyway, rules are often negotiated, and that will make fine dialogue for such a story. I would keep writing, but the site is about to go down for twelve hours, and I'll forget what I was saying by then.
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Hubbie and I have been in an open marriage for all but the first year of our 38 plus years of marriage. We never had to ask the other for permission, just let each other know we were going to be playing. Most of the time we played, wevwere together. While we were in the Air Force we did not play with in the Wing Hubbie was in. We do not play with any of my employees either.
Until the mid to late 80s we did not use protection. I lost the ability to get pregnant due to an accident when I was 11, so getting pregnant was not anything we had to be concerned with. After AIDS / HIV showed up, protection was required. We were not interested in playing Russian Roulette with our sex life.
The AIDS / HIV scare was the main reason we co-founded our private swing group when those deadly STDs showed up. We now have 5 couples, 3 single gals, and 5 single guys. We all went through a 9 month initial testing period for STDs. We are all retested every 2 months. We do not use protection within the group, but have all pledged to use protection if we play outside of our group. We can all play within the group as we please. Hubbie and I still let each other know when we are going to play. Unless he is out of town we usually play together.
I know this lifestyle is not for everyone, but it has worked well for us and the other members of our group.
If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.
Brandie
Hats off to you for making this work for yourselves. You blindly trust everyone to follow the rules? What happens when one or more of you tests positive to an STD in one of those bi-monthly tests? Those tests aren’t going to protect you if someone breaks the rules and catches a disease.
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Must like fried eggplant and cornpone. An autograph picture of George Jones and Dale Earnhardt. Must like to dip snuff and gargle Tabasco. Have at least six or seven tattoos and a rebuilt Harley. Got through the third grade and can name the Three Little Pigs. Know how to hotwire a Formal tractor and pickem-up truck. Have a gun rack in their bedroom with a stuffed wild boar on the wall. Also a debutant at the volunteer Fire Station.
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well good start would like read more including the boar head ?