Hi! I'm new here and basically joined this forum to ask this question. I'm what I guess you would call a bit of a late bloomer, sexually. I never had any interest until a year or so ago (I'm in my late twenties now) and I'm still not especially interested in fucking other people, but I would really like to be able to reliably bring myself to a really good orgasm.
I've tried a few different vibrators and can always make myself come with one of those, though sometimes it's better than others, but I don't think I've ever been able to do it with just my fingers. And I only just managed to penetrate myself with a dildo last week. I've been trying for like a year, but it hurt and I guess I'm a wimp. Anyway, I finally managed it and I've tried it a couple times since then and it's... interesting. It's not something I look forward to or crave and I find it a lot harder to come once I've done that?
I don't know. I'm a little embarrassed to talk about this because by my age most everyone has already had loads of sexual partners and knows what's what and I'm still trying to figure out how to please myself. Does anyone have any advice?
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keep using your fingers. You will discover what feels best for you. Nobody else can tell you that, or keep using your vibrator. Use lube with your dildo and have fun!
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it dependas a lot on your libido, for me it takes time to get there... so take your time 
when you can
when you can 
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I am sure you will master the technique of making yourself Orgasm with just the use of you fingers. What works best for me may not be the answer for you.
Like school teachers say practice practice and then some more practice.
Remember many woman have problems in Orgasming and you may need to work at it for a while until you find just the right technique.
Good Luck
Like school teachers say practice practice and then some more practice.
Remember many woman have problems in Orgasming and you may need to work at it for a while until you find just the right technique.
Good Luck
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Since you are going solo I'd recommend reading up on Tantric or meditative sex and see if that is for you.
I'd also not dismiss all thoughts of sex with others. While vagina or oral penetration may not be on the table sharing your experience (like you are doing now with us) with others may still be a positive thing. There are some web sites, some very tasteful focused on mastrubation & sharing that with others. In more than fifty years of sex I've learned there a lot of way to sexual sharing and intimacy & the more your explore the more you appreciate and enjoy your favorites. Actually having someone orgasm with you is part of the personal growth experience.
I'd also not dismiss all thoughts of sex with others. While vagina or oral penetration may not be on the table sharing your experience (like you are doing now with us) with others may still be a positive thing. There are some web sites, some very tasteful focused on mastrubation & sharing that with others. In more than fifty years of sex I've learned there a lot of way to sexual sharing and intimacy & the more your explore the more you appreciate and enjoy your favorites. Actually having someone orgasm with you is part of the personal growth experience.
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I feel I could write a book on the subject lol - my 
- toys, toys, toys start small, don’t put pressure on yourself you don’t have to have an orgasm every time just enjoy the sensations. You’ll find your own way, practice makes perfect! Have fun!
- toys, toys, toys start small, don’t put pressure on yourself you don’t have to have an orgasm every time just enjoy the sensations. You’ll find your own way, practice makes perfect! Have fun! 
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I think I must have been born pleasuring myself! I do it a great deal more than partnered sex -- and I tend to get a lot more pleasure out of masturbating a lot of the time. There are lots of ways to masturbate, but explore all sorts of things that might make you feel hot and horny. Men seem to get off on the visual, some women do, for me there is nothing better than reading erotica. Find the flavor that suits you. Reading and gently fingering, not rushing but enjoying, works very well for me. I have a variety of dildos and other toys, but they are best when used with good lubrication. There are various compilations of women masturbating on some of the porn sites, and it is fascinating to see how other girls do it. Have fun!