Is it normal to be aroused by women even though Im straight?

In the past three weeks i I’ve questioned my sexuality multiple times but I’ve always ended up saying I’m straight because I could never picture myself marrying or seeing a woman in a romantic context in general. However I’m extremely aroused by these small women. I consider myself straight, but my nipples go hard while thinking of these women's hands at me lol. It's very confusing. I don't necessarily want to label myself as straight but also don't want to label myself as anything really?

I am 42 year old married woman. Unfortunately, we have been in a non-intimate marriage for quite a while. I have two son's. . I am tall and large! I'm on the curvy side I always feel like I take up too much space if that makes sense? I'm 6ft and curvy - I've got massive boobs, a big butt/hips etc. I’m very voluptuous. I get lots of stares and compliments. I’m pretty sure i am an eye magnet for lots of men & women as well, but they’re intimidated by my height. In my teenage/young adult years I've struggled with feeling bigger than everyone, men included. But now I Own my height and curves , I sometimes feel down about my height, but I quickly snap out of it when I know people would die to have height like me. I'm more comfortable in myself now generally but there are occasions when I'm in a small space where I really feel like I take up too much room. I realised I was always told I was too big (family usually) growing up, and actually I was just tall as a kid. Now I'm actually big.

My husband is a successful businessman. I come from old money. I grew up rich. I admit that i am used to a lot of money and expensive things because of this. I am dressing up everywhere (even for grocery shopping ). The whole shebang, satin/leather/shiny pants/skirts, satin/silk blouses, pantyhose, shapewear, high heels, full make up on, be it morning, noon or evening. Most of my outfits are well-coordinated in terms of color I love my style and get lots of compliments on my clothes. . My clothing makes me stick out like a sore thumb. I am always dressed up to the max, on high heels, full make up on. However, some acquaintances think I overdress for daily activities. On the other hand I feel confident this way, so i don't want to dress down . . .

About two years ago my husband started having difficulty maintaining an erection. At first I didn’t think much of it because he always had an excuse like, “I drank too much”, “the condom was too uncomfortable”, “I got distracted by (blank)”. It was happening about half of time we had sex and I started to get frustrated about it because he would never seek help or see a doctor. We then ended up having a dead bedroom for months on end, the longest lasting about a year. .When ever I try and initiate sex my husband is never the mood or tells me he feels to tired and maybe tomorrow after he takes a shower. Of course tomorrow never comes or he takes a shower at a time when sex isn't possible. When ever i am alone in the house i masturbate. This is just painful to me. It hurts to know that my husband just doesn't want to have sex with me.

About two months ago we moved here in this smaller town. I don’t work . I don’t need to . So out of boredom i started attending these women in wine parties. I've always had big boobs. I easily had the largest chest in my high school. But I was one of the "lucky ones" that's never had her boobs or butt grabbed, touched, or jiggled before i met this small woman Deb. I’m too intimidating. Probably because of my social status, my size and my bitch resting face. I apparently intimidated a lot of people which discouraged harassment. About three weeks ago i attended this women in wine party . I arrived there. I was wearing a red long sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top tucked into tight red satin pants and 5 inch red shoes. I had full make up on. I passed a group of older women and one of them this short skinny Korean woman in her mid 50's Deb grabbed my ass and I was shocked. I didn't react at all, just turned around and kept walking as they all laughed. About ten minutes later Deb took a picture of me , and when I asked her what the hell she was doing, she grabbed my boobs with her both and told me that i am the talk of the town because of my dressing style and my size and she just wanted to show her friends to talk about whether they were real. Then Deb told me that she is straight married woman , but she is obsessed with my boobs, my clothes, my height , ,my butt . She started repeatedly groping me. She'd grab them, poke them, stare at them, push them together, talk about them, shit like that. Everyone else laughed because they were mostly drunk women who think boobs are funny. I was just letting her. I always pictured fighting and getting angry too, but when I was actually in that position, I totally froze. I didn't know what to do, I was in shock. As i was leaving this small woman Deb just came up to me and slapped my ass. Surprisingly i got extremely aroused. .

Seven days ago i was in front of the grocery store. I was wearing my short sleeve purple satin blouse with waist tie buttoned up to the top, black leather leggings and 5 inch heels purple shoes. I had full make up on. Deb walked out of the grocery store , came up to me and squeezed them hard as if it was a greeting. She just held my boobs and talked about them. She was commenting on how nice they were and she wished she had boobs like mine, etc. I laughed it off . People were passing by and watching. This nice older woman grocery store owner was watching through the glass. I was embarrassed, but extremely aroused again. Then Deb slapped my ass as I was walking into the grocery store. .

Six days ago i attended this regular women in wine party . I was wearing a pink short sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top tucked into tight lilac satin pants and 5 inch pink shoes. I had full make up on. Deb showed up there. She would brush past me. She had a quick feel of my ass. Then this short skinny, kinda masculine , brown haired , pale woman in her mid 40's Ann, walked up to me, just reached up with both hands and GRABBED my both boobs for a solid several seconds exclaiming “Wow. They are so massive and soft. There is something about the elegant look and silky feel.” I laughed it off but man does that aroused me that she felt that was okay. I was so confused, but i was getting wet again. Ann loudly said my nickname from now on is "community chest" . So these two women Deb and Ann continued touching, squeezing , jiggling, slapping, grabbing my boobs and butt, and talking about my boobs there in front of all these women and I gave up trying to care. ..

The next day i was at the grocery store. I was wearing a white short sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top tucked into tight red satin pants and 5 inch see through shoes. I had full make up on. This older short skinny gray haired woman in her late sixties small grocery store owner Beth told me that she saw Deb groping me in front of her store a week ago. Then she asked if she could touch my boobs, while already making grabby hands about 3 inches from them. This was made "worse" by the fact that this girl her employee was right there to see her employer ask this, also there were like 3/4 other people in the store. She proceeded to grab my boobs. I kind of froze in the moment and didn’t really know how to respond, especially since we were literally at her store and I didn’t want to make a huge scene. Then later Inside the grocery store she kept putting her hand on my butt , she was laughing and then she slapped my ass as I was walking out of the grocery store with bags of groceries and they all laughed? I was so confused, but i was getting wet again.

It feels like these short skinny women suddenly think my big body is public property. But i love it. Think I've found what I've been missing. I am a straight woman , but i guess I have a loose free use unspoken agreement with these small groper women. It involves these women groping me “against my will” in public and basically forcing me to get wet and aroused. They can grope me through clothes in public whenever they want with minimal restrictions, no matter what I'm doing at the time. These small women can grope me through clothes in public whenever they want, without warning or warmup. This type of dynamic can put you in a constant state of alertness because your brain never knows when you could be groped . Personally, I love this.

Ever since the first women in wine party i attended , I’ve had three different women ask if they can feel them, make weird comments, or just straight up touch them without asking. I don't feel sexually attracted to these groper women at all and that’s one of the biggest reasons why I’ve ruled out the possibility of me being anything other than straight but im not sure at this point. But i can picture myself having sex with these three women Deb, Ann and Beth and its so confusing. I am aroused by their hands. I got very physically turned on just being groped by them through clothes in public. They just love to grope my titties and ass in public as much as if not more than any man. I was sexually aroused by these women's hands and i am often fantasizing about being with these three women, but not romantically. I definitely don't find these three women attractive . I think what i find attractive can have more to do with them groping me in public. I'm definitely not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them if that makes sense. Maybe it is because i am in a sexless marriage.

Taking this on face value, it is quite a situation. I can't say that I've ever heard of anyone - male or female - getting away with publicly groping and humiliating someone like that. I would suggest that you:

1. Do not tolerate being treated like this publicly. It is sexual assault, period. Even if it secretly turns you on, which is something I encourage you to explore some other way. If it continues, consider pressing charges. If doing so blows up the social order of your town, too fucking bad. This behavior must never be tolerated, and doing so gives them license to do it to others in the future.

2. Explore your internal feelings for other women. Like you said at the beginning, don't worry about labels, especially the binary label "straight," which is basically meaningless. The vast majority of people have at least some occasional attraction to the same sex. You probably have the most common sexual orientation there is, the peak of the bell curve: those that Kinsey described as "Predominantly heterosexual, but at least incidentally homosexual" in their attractions. Yes, it's normal.

And let's talk about the meaning of the word "attraction" or "attracted," since you said, "I'm not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them." Yes, you are sexually attracted to them, because that's literally what "interested in sex with" means. You're just not romantically attracted. Those are two different things, although many struggle to even recognize a distinction, finding that their sexual attraction aligns perfectly with their romantic attraction. Until some point in their lives when it doesn't, which is what you are describing. This is normal.

Enjoy the freedom this can give you! Exploring sex with someone who attracts you sexually, but doesn't pose a romantic risk to your marriage, might be exactly what you need.

And speaking of your marriage, given that yours is sexless, it's especially normal to become more interested in the same sex. Your subconscious may be steering you that way, because it feels less like cheating. Again, normal.

3. Explore your submissive side. You may be getting turned on by this because you enjoy having someone else in control or otherwise subjugating you. That's normal too (and particularly common amongst people like yourself who are used to being socially dominant). But it would be a lot safer for you to explore your dom/sub feelings privately than in public like this.

4. Consider actually hooking up with a local woman who turns you on and you think you can trust not to humiliate you publicly. It might not be any of these three, but I think it's likely that other women, seeing what's happened, may come up to you privately and express sympathy. Not only might you find a mutual interest with one of these women, one of them might even be willing to dominate you in private, but in a more respectful way. If you don't find anyone locally, and - as you say - you have plenty of money, it is very easy to find dom women online who will give you want. It may even be that you don't actually want to actually have sex with a woman, you just want one to dominate you. The Internet is crawling with dom women of all strips who will indulge you. In fact, I get the impression there are a few mistresses right here in the Lush membership who get off on that kind of thing, and might do it for free.

5. You might want to examine some deeper questions too. Are you allowing youself to be publicly shamed (and presumably socially shunned as a result) because you hate this town and you're trying to self-sabotage your presence there? There may be a better way out than with your tails between your legs. I use the plural because your husband is also being shamed by extension. Are you on some level allowing this to happen out of resentment towards him?

Best of luck to you.

Drunk straight women are some of the gropiest people I've ever met . Yesterday i attended the women in wine party . I was wearing a white short sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top tucked into tight pink satin pants and 5 inch see through shoes. I had full make up on. I was having a conversation with this woman when out of the blue my original groper Deb came over and started groping at my boobs saying “wow these are sooo massive” and as soon as she did that two other very drunk short skinny married straight women came over and started taking turns groping my boobs and butt. I really did not know how to react but figured making a big deal out of it would be worse and might out me so I just played along and jokingly said ya I have a bad case of mega boobs. It was such an uncomfortable experience and they kept at it throughout the night groping me as and when out of the blue. I mean they mean no harm because they were all just “being drunk girls goofing around.” I am lost as to how to feel . I got extremely aroused . I masturbated in the bathroom because I was horny and couldn’t wait to get home.

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This is quite a situation. I can't say that I've ever heard of anyone - male or female - getting away with publicly groping and humiliating someone like that. I would suggest that you:

1. Do not tolerate being treated like this publicly. It is sexual assault, period. Even if it secretly turns you on, which is something I encourage you to explore some other way. If it continues, consider pressing charges. If doing so blows up the social order of your town, too fucking bad. This behavior must never be tolerated, and doing so gives them license to do it to others in the future.

2. Explore your internal feelings for other women. Like you said at the beginning, don't worry about labels, especially the binary label "straight," which is basically meaningless. The vast majority of people have at least some occasional attraction to the same sex. You probably have the most common sexual orientation there is, the peak of the bell curve: those that Kinsey described as "Predominantly heterosexual, but at least incidentally homosexual" in their attractions. Yes, it's normal.

And let's talk about the meaning of the word "attraction" or "attracted," since you said, "I'm not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them." Yes, you are sexually attracted to them, because that's literally what "interested in sex with" means. You're just not romantically attracted. Those are two different things, although many struggle to even recognize a distinction, finding that their sexual attraction aligns perfectly with their romantic attraction. Until some point in their lives when it doesn't, which is what you are describing. This is normal.

Enjoy the freedom this can give you! Exploring sex with someone who attracts you sexually, but doesn't pose a romantic risk to your marriage, might be exactly what you need.

And speaking of your marriage, given that yours is sexless, it's especially normal to become more interested in the same sex. Your subconscious may be steering you that way, because it feels less like cheating. Again, normal.

3. Explore your submissive side. You may be getting turned on by this because you enjoy having someone else in control or otherwise subjugating you. That's normal too (and particularly common amongst people like yourself who are used to being socially dominant). But it would be a lot safer for you to explore your dom/sub feelings privately than in public like this.

4. Consider actually hooking up with a local woman who turns you on and you think you can trust not to humiliate you publicly. It might not be any of these three, but I think it's likely that other women, seeing what's happened, may come up to you privately and express sympathy. Not only might you find a mutual interest with one of these women, one of them might even be willing to dominate you in private, but in a more respectful way. If you don't find anyone locally, and - as you say - you have plenty of money, it is very easy to find dom women online who will give you want. It may even be that you don't actually want to actually have sex with a woman, you just want one to dominate you. The Internet is crawling with dom women of all strips who will indulge you. In fact, I get the impression there are a few mistresses right here in the Lush membership who get off on that kind of thing, and might do it for free.

5. You might want to examine some deeper questions too. Are you allowing youself to be publicly shamed (and presumably socially shunned as a result) because you hate this town and you're trying to self-sabotage your presence there? There may be a better way out than with your tails between your legs. I use the plural because your husband is also being shamed by extension. Are you on some level allowing this to happen out of resentment towards him?

Best of luck to you.

Thanks for your response. You are right. I realized I’m way into subjugation, humiliation and degradation, as a degradee. In these getting groped in public situations i am embarrassed as fuck… but also so fucking horny. I've got a strong fetish for these gropers women and being seen while getting groped by them, it really gets me turned on. I absolutely got used to it. I now so strongly get off on being “humiliated” in public. I’m having the time of my life, smiling and begging for more haha.

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This is quite a situation. I can't say that I've ever heard of anyone - male or female - getting away with publicly groping and humiliating someone like that. I would suggest that you:

1. Do not tolerate being treated like this publicly. It is sexual assault, period. Even if it secretly turns you on, which is something I encourage you to explore some other way. If it continues, consider pressing charges. If doing so blows up the social order of your town, too fucking bad. This behavior must never be tolerated, and doing so gives them license to do it to others in the future.

2. Explore your internal feelings for other women. Like you said at the beginning, don't worry about labels, especially the binary label "straight," which is basically meaningless. The vast majority of people have at least some occasional attraction to the same sex. You probably have the most common sexual orientation there is, the peak of the bell curve: those that Kinsey described as "Predominantly heterosexual, but at least incidentally homosexual" in their attractions. Yes, it's normal.

And let's talk about the meaning of the word "attraction" or "attracted," since you said, "I'm not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them." Yes, you are sexually attracted to them, because that's literally what "interested in sex with" means. You're just not romantically attracted. Those are two different things, although many struggle to even recognize a distinction, finding that their sexual attraction aligns perfectly with their romantic attraction. Until some point in their lives when it doesn't, which is what you are describing. This is normal.

Enjoy the freedom this can give you! Exploring sex with someone who attracts you sexually, but doesn't pose a romantic risk to your marriage, might be exactly what you need.

And speaking of your marriage, given that yours is sexless, it's especially normal to become more interested in the same sex. Your subconscious may be steering you that way, because it feels less like cheating. Again, normal.

3. Explore your submissive side. You may be getting turned on by this because you enjoy having someone else in control or otherwise subjugating you. That's normal too (and particularly common amongst people like yourself who are used to being socially dominant). But it would be a lot safer for you to explore your dom/sub feelings privately than in public like this.

4. Consider actually hooking up with a local woman who turns you on and you think you can trust not to humiliate you publicly. It might not be any of these three, but I think it's likely that other women, seeing what's happened, may come up to you privately and express sympathy. Not only might you find a mutual interest with one of these women, one of them might even be willing to dominate you in private, but in a more respectful way. If you don't find anyone locally, and - as you say - you have plenty of money, it is very easy to find dom women online who will give you want. It may even be that you don't actually want to actually have sex with a woman, you just want one to dominate you. The Internet is crawling with dom women of all strips who will indulge you. In fact, I get the impression there are a few mistresses right here in the Lush membership who get off on that kind of thing, and might do it for free.

5. You might want to examine some deeper questions too. Are you allowing youself to be publicly shamed (and presumably socially shunned as a result) because you hate this town and you're trying to self-sabotage your presence there? There may be a better way out than with your tails between your legs. I use the plural because your husband is also being shamed by extension. Are you on some level allowing this to happen out of resentment towards him?

Best of luck to you.

I don't have romantic feelings towards these small groper women but i am highly aroused by them. i am getting aroused by the idea of having sex with these women.

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it feels less like cheating.

You are right. It definitely feels less like cheating.

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This is quite a situation. I can't say that I've ever heard of anyone - male or female - getting away with publicly groping and humiliating someone like that. I would suggest that you:

1. Do not tolerate being treated like this publicly. It is sexual assault, period. Even if it secretly turns you on, which is something I encourage you to explore some other way. If it continues, consider pressing charges. If doing so blows up the social order of your town, too fucking bad. This behavior must never be tolerated, and doing so gives them license to do it to others in the future.

2. Explore your internal feelings for other women. Like you said at the beginning, don't worry about labels, especially the binary label "straight," which is basically meaningless. The vast majority of people have at least some occasional attraction to the same sex. You probably have the most common sexual orientation there is, the peak of the bell curve: those that Kinsey described as "Predominantly heterosexual, but at least incidentally homosexual" in their attractions. Yes, it's normal.

And let's talk about the meaning of the word "attraction" or "attracted," since you said, "I'm not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them." Yes, you are sexually attracted to them, because that's literally what "interested in sex with" means. You're just not romantically attracted. Those are two different things, although many struggle to even recognize a distinction, finding that their sexual attraction aligns perfectly with their romantic attraction. Until some point in their lives when it doesn't, which is what you are describing. This is normal.

Enjoy the freedom this can give you! Exploring sex with someone who attracts you sexually, but doesn't pose a romantic risk to your marriage, might be exactly what you need.

And speaking of your marriage, given that yours is sexless, it's especially normal to become more interested in the same sex. Your subconscious may be steering you that way, because it feels less like cheating. Again, normal.

3. Explore your submissive side. You may be getting turned on by this because you enjoy having someone else in control or otherwise subjugating you. That's normal too (and particularly common amongst people like yourself who are used to being socially dominant). But it would be a lot safer for you to explore your dom/sub feelings privately than in public like this.

4. Consider actually hooking up with a local woman who turns you on and you think you can trust not to humiliate you publicly. It might not be any of these three, but I think it's likely that other women, seeing what's happened, may come up to you privately and express sympathy. Not only might you find a mutual interest with one of these women, one of them might even be willing to dominate you in private, but in a more respectful way. If you don't find anyone locally, and - as you say - you have plenty of money, it is very easy to find dom women online who will give you want. It may even be that you don't actually want to actually have sex with a woman, you just want one to dominate you. The Internet is crawling with dom women of all strips who will indulge you. In fact, I get the impression there are a few mistresses right here in the Lush membership who get off on that kind of thing, and might do it for free.

5. You might want to examine some deeper questions too. Are you allowing youself to be publicly shamed (and presumably socially shunned as a result) because you hate this town and you're trying to self-sabotage your presence there? There may be a better way out than with your tails between your legs. I use the plural because your husband is also being shamed by extension. Are you on some level allowing this to happen out of resentment towards him?

Best of luck to you.

Honestly at this point i would let any small tiny women to grope me. I realized I take no issue with small women doing it. It is like is instilled in my mind now, that i am there for any short tiny woman who wants to grope me.

It's not like they don't have a barrier of clothes between them and my skin anyway. Personally, unless they're hurting me, I'd never take action against some small women copping a feel. I definitely feel safe with these because they are physically harmless. But i admit to you that if a tall, fat or muscular woman starts groping me and rubbing me, i will get upset. I literally had these women my gropers tell me that before they met me they hated me because I was overdressed which means I must be a high maintenance bitch, snob, and diva, and they were “surprised” to find out I’m letting other women to grope me through clothes.

Well, good. It's a lot less harmful if you're letting this happen at a party than in front of the grocery store. I would not at all be surprised if you could peel one (or two!) of these women off from the group and go do something sexual with more privacy. Either at the party or afterward.

It's pretty obvious you want to have sex with a smaller woman who will degrade and/or dominate you. You want a woman who will fondle and suckle those big breasts, maybe even smack them a bit. I suspect you probably want to play with their little tittles, too. And I'm guessing you'll want to escalate to some kind of orgasmic release since your husband isn't giving you that, and as you say, this is making you horny as hell.

Finding a safer, more private outlet for these desires will keep you out of bigger trouble, and give you the strength to stand up to anyone who tries to humiliate you in full public view, allowing which is self-destructive and also (as I mentioned) harmful to your husband as well as the confidence and safety of other women.

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Well, good. It's a lot less harmful if you're letting this happen at a party than in front of the grocery store. I would not at all be surprised if you could peel one (or two!) of these women off from the group and go do something sexual with more privacy. Either at the party or afterward.

It's pretty obvious you want to have sex with a smaller woman who will degrade and/or dominate you. You want a woman who will fondle and suckle those big breasts, maybe even smack them a bit. I suspect you probably want to play with their little tittles, too. And I'm guessing you'll want to escalate to some kind of orgasmic release since your husband isn't giving you that, and as you say, this is making you horny as hell.

Finding a safer, more private outlet for these desires will keep you out of bigger trouble, and give you the strength to stand up to anyone who tries to humiliate you in full public view, allowing which is self-destructive and also (as I mentioned) harmful to your husband as well as the confidence and safety of other women.

I get really turned on when I'm ever so embarrassed and blushing in public, I love the warm feeling in my face because it just spreads. I think that deferral of responsibility is part of it. Giving up some of my control then is a huge turn on, cos it allows me to enjoy without the guilt. Degradation for me is = I am not a person of worth or substance, I am just an object for their pleasure, maybe I am a dirty object, or bad object.
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I like degradation because I feel like my actions are now solely for pleasure. I am just a free grope buffet, I don't have to worry about my lines or actions or what not. Im just some object for their pleasure and its SOOO FUN! Its about that release of judgement because how can you judge the dirt on the floor?

It's hard to say why, I just know if I'm humiliated in public, it turns me on.

Even just writing that is making me wet, because it's embarrassing. I guess it has something to do with the attention.