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Sexuality, how did you know??
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Living bi-cariously through Lush
I don't necessarily have a problem with labels. Sure they can be used to pigeonhole people, but they can also be useful in describing what's going on, especially if it helps you define yourself in the face of a dominant culture that doesn't understand you.
I've always known I was bi. I mean, from grade school, when I became aware of sexuality and what men's and women's parts were used for, even though females held (and hold) for me a magical pull that guys never would, I knew I was had an interest in both. That never changed. I heard the label "bisexual" by the time I hit puberty, and I instantly knew it fit me even though it means a lot of different things to a lot of people and has often been used as an epithet.
As far as being "purely bi," which I suppose means you like both sexes in equal amounts and the same way? That's almost never a thing, so you can stop wondering. Hardly anyone expects a perfect 50-50 for women, so why should it be for men? Heck, one week I find women hot and don't even think about cocks, then for a few days all I can think of is a hot shaft in front of my face and spurting cum in my mouth. Goes back and forth. Even people who like both (or all) sexes equally (and I might be closer to 50/50 than when i was young) don't like them in the same way. I'm attracted to women romantically and not just sexually, their faces and whole bodies entering into my fantasies. My fantasies about guys are much more about the cock. I don't think that's uncommon at all. And again, on some level I have always known that.
I've always known I was bi. I mean, from grade school, when I became aware of sexuality and what men's and women's parts were used for, even though females held (and hold) for me a magical pull that guys never would, I knew I was had an interest in both. That never changed. I heard the label "bisexual" by the time I hit puberty, and I instantly knew it fit me even though it means a lot of different things to a lot of people and has often been used as an epithet.
As far as being "purely bi," which I suppose means you like both sexes in equal amounts and the same way? That's almost never a thing, so you can stop wondering. Hardly anyone expects a perfect 50-50 for women, so why should it be for men? Heck, one week I find women hot and don't even think about cocks, then for a few days all I can think of is a hot shaft in front of my face and spurting cum in my mouth. Goes back and forth. Even people who like both (or all) sexes equally (and I might be closer to 50/50 than when i was young) don't like them in the same way. I'm attracted to women romantically and not just sexually, their faces and whole bodies entering into my fantasies. My fantasies about guys are much more about the cock. I don't think that's uncommon at all. And again, on some level I have always known that.
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.I never have had any interest in the male species
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Raised in a seriously strict household.
Once when younger I fooled around with a guy but was interrupted by a parent. Never had the chance after that until older and then realised I did not like labels and was interested in both men and Women, Women more so. I decided to see what the other side offered and found it to be quite enjoyable despite society frowning. I am now bi not because I actively chase men but because I have no desire to restrict my diet and enjoy intimacy with both.
Once when younger I fooled around with a guy but was interrupted by a parent. Never had the chance after that until older and then realised I did not like labels and was interested in both men and Women, Women more so. I decided to see what the other side offered and found it to be quite enjoyable despite society frowning. I am now bi not because I actively chase men but because I have no desire to restrict my diet and enjoy intimacy with both.
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I don't know the how of it, just always did. Never a hint that I wasn't queer and overwhelming evidence that I was.
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Raised in a seriously strict household.
Once when younger I fooled around with a guy but was interrupted by a parent. Never had the chance after that until older and then realised I did not like labels and was interested in both men and Women, Women more so. I decided to see what the other side offered and found it to be quite enjoyable despite society frowning. I am now bi not because I actively chase men but because I have no desire to restrict my diet and enjoy intimacy with both.
Well said. I'm bi, but the attraction to men is different for me than my attraction to women. It's such a vague, fluid attribute that I simply prefer to be bi because, like you said, I definitely don't want to ruin opportunities for sexual pleasure.
But, to answer the question, I knew I enjoyed going both ways in my teen years. I kept it shut down until I was in my 40s.
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I always 'fancied' a variety of boys. Occasionally, I met a girl I liked personally and had a frission of physical attraction to.
That is the difference.
Living bi-cariously through Lush
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My fantasies about guys are much more about the cock. I don't think that's uncommon at all. And again, on some level I have always known that.
My perspective has evolved quite a bit since I posted this a few years ago. I've always considered myself bi and that hasn't changed, but there's a very wide range of possibilities within that label. I've shifted to where I regularly find myself fantasizing about a lot more of a man than just his disembodied penis.
I'm not in a position in my life right now to experiment, but if I were single today, for both companionship and sex I'd date more men than women, something I couldn't have contemplated until fairly recently. I've dated women, have checked a lot of juicy opposite-sex experiences off the bucket list, and am still attracted to them, but I would want to catch up on what I missed when I was young.
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Bi is not necessarily equally attracted to both men and women i.e. 50/50. You can be bi and be predominatly attracted to men and slighty /or occasionally attracted to women i.e 70/30 or 80/20 or 60/40 etc. Or vice versa . it is simply being attracted to both but not necessarily to the same. degree
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Bi is not necessarily equally attracted to both men and women i.e. 50/50. You can be bi and be predominatly attracted to men and slighty /or occasionally attracted to women i.e 70/30 or 80/20 or 60/40 etc. Or vice versa . it is simply being attracted to both but not necessarily to the same. degree
Hell, even when I'm feeling 50/50, I get turned on by men and women in somewhat different ways. What a beautiful and mysterious thing attraction is.
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Hi all,
I just wanted to know , how did you know your sexuality 100%?
So I guess I'm really confused , which is why I am asking how/what/when did you realise your true sexuality?
Well, interesting way to put it. My parents were concerned about ghosts in our house, so they hired a paranormal investigator who came with all sorts of detectors and recorders. One machine was a gaydar and it pegged me at 💯.
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If I had been able to spend my time just actively enjoying all those things I enjoy, rather than trying to put a label on what I was, or asking why I am what I am, my life would have been much more full.
Just be you, enjoy it, fuck labels and haters.
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I have known since I was teenager when I watched my first porn film and realised it was the guy who got me going and that came as a shock to me. I have never been with or been interested in being with girls and I have thought about how it would go but it was a big fat nothing. I am 100% gay it's just that simple. I couldn't get sexually interested in girls any more than I could sexually interested in sheep it's just not for me.
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Frankly, I like both genders but prefer guys. I am attracted to the attractive people
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I don't know the how of it, just always did. Never a hint that I wasn't queer and overwhelming evidence that I was.
What a delight of a person you have become and only intelligence defines you are, not sexuality! Maybe I am biased because you are also a fan of pickles…no innuendo intended.
Horny Bi Ape Who Writes
Wet dreams and occasional fantasies about men were the main sign for me. I was bullied badly through high school and part of that was taunts about being a "faggot" so I was basically in denial for a long time. Wanting sex with men would kind of prove their point, after all. However, as an LGBTQ ally, I finally got it out of my head that same sex desire was actually a negative. It finally kind of came to a head (ha ha) maybe a decade ago and I accepted that I was probably bisexual but I've kept it under wraps otherwise (save here). And after a couple failed experiments, I have not really actively pursued same sex activity.
Just call it "The Lust Boat"
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curious after having a threesome and seeing my friends cock, watching him with my GF. Very curious after I accidentally went home with a guy who I didn’t know was gay, but when he kissed me I tried it.
When I actually knew was the second time I was with a guy. I was being lightly hit on all night and I made sure to walk out of the party with him. He asked if I was down to do anything, and I really was wanting to try and embrace it. I ended up sucking his cock a few times and that’s when I knew
Several things but mostly I just knew that was the direction I wanted to go, as it just felt right for me. There were other events that confirmed that was what I wanted. Such as...
I tried/started cross-dressing as a young teen and fantasised about being seduced while dressed and I knew that a man would be in my fantasy doing the seducing. I didn't know which man - as in someone specific.
Discovering some gay porn a bit later and getting turned on by it.
Being introduced to my first bf, having my first kiss and loving the feeling it gave me.
Advanced Wordsmith
At the age of sixteen, I thought I was straight until my first same sex encounter. I was confused and a bit scared (guess that’s normal). But I liked it a lot. Of course I had a thought or two about being gay. After I had sex with my girlfriend, I could rule that out. First when I ended up in bed with my buddy again, I knew for sure that I was bi.
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like a spark you couldn’t ignore, or a feeling that made your heart race and your mind curious? For me, it was a mix of little moments, feelings, and fantasies that just wouldn’t quit. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes loud, but deep down, it’s about what truly sets your soul on fire.
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100% only after having sex with a girl for the first time.
But 99%... Emma Watson in Goblet of Fire. She kept dancing through my head in that pink dress for weeks.
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