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How do you convince your wife to try swapping or swinging?

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Beffer
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If she's not the least bit receptive to the idea, you will probably not be able to convince her. There are two kinds of women. Your wife is the first kind, and it ain't gonna happen. My brother-in-law tried to talk my twin sister into swinging because he figured since I tried it, she would too. Didn't work. It led to nothing but fighting between them.
deliciouslyfun
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Take it from someone who knows. Don't push this issue! It will leave her feeling very unwanted and that she is not enough. Like Dudealicious said, if it takes convincing, it will end badly.



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If she isn't into it, then forget about it! Doesn't work for everyone. Just openly communicate like many have already said. I don't mind my husband sharing his fantasies with me, but we both know that some of them will probably never become reality. Others.... well, I do my best!
Meggsy
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This would depend I feel on who you wanted her to share herself with.
Don't risk you marriage if she says - NO - then NO MEANS NO.
Stephen_Q
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When my wife found out about my history going to swingers party she said she could accept that it was in the past but it was not something she was interested in. I broached the subject several more times and her response did not change. We did end up in a hot tub with some swinger friends of mine and she did join in with some light touching of the others but it didn't go any further.
You could try some skinny dipping with friends or some adult games to get her naked with other people but I would suspect in the end it won't work. If you force her into it which I've seen, she might just say fuck it, go off and fuck some random guy and leave you high and dry with your relationship in tatters.
If your not into swinging and sharing your partner it ain't going to change. Don't fuck up your marriage for it!
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You don't. For it to happen, she has to be into the idea, not pushed or persuaded. Swinging/swapping has led to many divorces. Lines can get so blurred so quick. So, if you like a life with 100% of your possessions, drop it. You want to drop 50%, push it!
Jody
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We were having threesomes with her girlfriends. Then she had a married girlfriend, and the topic came up in their conversations. The weird thing was that my wife had only ever been straight with me. I was the only man to ever have sex with her. Our first encounter happened in our living room, and we were all fucking the other partner. I know it took them a few goes at it before he was in her in a way that was comfortable for her. He kind of got a little crazy and that didn't help her nerves. We didn't do many swaps after that.

griffton
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Don't get your mate she fancy to get off with her then one day turn up and join in
Jody
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For us to even try probably would have never happened if my wife wasn't bi. She was attracted to the other woman. She actually was better in orgies than couples' swaps. She didn't mind parties because she was always able to find pussy, and she mostly had lesbian sex.

griffton
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Quote by Jody

For us to even try probably would have never happened if my wife wasn't bi. She was attracted to the other woman. She actually was better in orgies than couples' swaps. She didn't mind parties because she was always able to find pussy, and she mostly had lesbian sex.

Same as my wife these days

joe71
Living bi-cariously through Lush

As many others have said, unless it's something she's already interested in doing (which, in a strong marriage, you should already know from having talked about your fantasies), there is no "convincing." Trying to do this will only lead to fights and possibly divorce.

Quote by MycroftHolmes

I think that, traditionally, many women have been drawn to swinging because of the acceptance of and opportunity for girl on girl sex. I wonder if acceptance of bisexuality is drawing in men now?

I would love for that to be true!
Jody
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You should have a good idea how she feels with your own common sense. Will she watch a porn flick with you? If she does, you probably have a better chance of doing this with her. Judge with your own experience with her. If she's willing to watch porn, maybe put on a scene that is a full swap in the same room. Ask her what she thinks. Or maybe make up something, I heard about these 2 couples nearby... See what her vibe is. Don't just ask outright. If you know she's bi, you probably have a better chance than most.

mmmmm_wong
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the only positive suggestion, besides watching pornhub stuff -

is maybe visit a nude beach. seeing cocks in various poses, swinging etc - might entice her?

just a suggestion.