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It feels odd when some Lush member that you like just disappears.

One that has not logged in for 3 months is abygaleturner69. I really enjoyed her stories and she always left great comments on mine. Her page is still there but who knows.

I am sure that this will happen every so often it just feels strange when it does. Maybe kind of a sad feeling.




I agree, there was this cool guy Javier, he was charming and funny but some paranoid moderator didn´t like him and banned him...talk about power trips.


He's doing okay though, I keep regular contact with him, he says he misses Dancing Doll, Lady X and Felix and sends his regards.
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I agree, there was this cool guy Javier, he was charming and funny but some paranoid moderator didn´t like him and banned him...talk about power trips.


He's doing okay though, I keep regular contact with him, he says he misses Dancing Doll, Lady X and Felix and sends his regards.


I LOVE broments like this when one guy is not afraid to say he thinks another guy is "charming and funny!" Kudos to you.

Since you only joined Lush 5 days ago, it's great to see you were able to develop such a bonding and lasting relationship so quick and have managed to stay in regular contact for so long; it's hardly suspicious at all.
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I agree, there was this cool guy Javier, he was charming and funny but some paranoid moderator didn´t like him and banned him...talk about power trips.


He's doing okay though, I keep regular contact with him, he says he misses Dancing Doll, Lady X and Felix and sends his regards.


LOL... this is the first time I have ever used this emoticon but it's well deserved ----->
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I agree, there was this cool guy Javier, he was charming and funny but some paranoid moderator didn´t like him and banned him...talk about power trips.


He's doing okay though, I keep regular contact with him, he says he misses Dancing Doll, Lady X and Felix and sends his regards.


Please send my regards to javier as well. I miss his unique insight on the world. His very original love life situations and everything else.
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LOL... this is the first time I have ever used this emoticon but it's well deserved ----->


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Please send my regards to javier as well. I miss his unique insight on the world. His very original love life situations and everything else.


*nods* he always made me smile with his off beat questions - a lot of people come and go, but some leave lasting impressions. give him a hug from me, too. smile

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I LOVE broments like this when one guy is not afraid to say he thinks another guy is "charming and funny!" Kudos to you.

Since you only joined Lush 5 days ago, it's great to see you were able to develop such a bonding and lasting relationship so quick and have managed to stay in regular contact for so long; it's hardly suspicious at all.




Nah, I am 100 per cent straight, but Javier is so cool and macho that I'd come out of the closet for him anyday of the week.
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Anyway...back to the topic. It sucks having paranoid moderators who ban people for no reason at all, or just out of personal bias and whims. That creates lots of unnecessary drama.

I am not talking about Nicola, just in general.


As Moderators we have rules we follow and if a member who is breaking those rules, that are posted when you sign up for lush, in the forum and chat rooms, breaks those rules then we have to address these issues. If that member continues to break the rules or has done something that is off the charts then that is addressed. We don't just willy nilly decided we don't like somebody and bam they are gone. We have bosses just like everybody else, it's not just one that makes that decision.

But back to the topic. Life does get in the way and when you get used to having somebody around it is sad when they leave. I'm not sure what is worse..having them say good bye or having them just leave. Both are hard to take.
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It sucks having paranoid moderators who ban people for no reason at all, or just out of personal bias and whims. That creates lots of unnecessary drama.

I am not talking about Nicola, just in general.


Only a select few administrators — I'm not one of them, fwiw — have the authority to ban members, and it is never done capriciously.
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Nah, I am 100 per cent straight, but Javier is so cool and macho that I'd come out of the closet for him anyday of the week.


Anyway...back to the topic. It sucks having paranoid moderators who ban people for no reason at all, or just out of personal bias and whims. That creates lots of unnecessary drama.

I am not talking about Nicola, just in general.


I have done moderating before on a few sites myself. I know for a fact the only way to get a ban is doing something really stupid against site rules and such. Mods don't ban just on a whim for their own amusement besides that if a mod did such a thing they would get banned as well
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It sometimes leaves a void especially when they do not say why....Luckily it does not happen often
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I know for a fact the only way to get a ban is doing something really stupid against site rules and such. Mods don't ban just on a whim for their own amusement besides that if a mod did such a thing they would get banned as well



What got me banned was asking "what's the difference between Andrew Breivik (the Oslo killer) and Osama Bin Laden?"

I asked it because a moderator said Osama Bin Laden was a religious leader therefor his death could not be celebrated.

So instead of an answer I got a kick in the arse, but was not a big surprise, since that same person had sent me a PM stating "I don´t like you" a few days earlier.


Just dropping some facts here, not a big deal.
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If you have an issue of why you've been banned, then you should use the "contact us" form, not sign up again.
Complaining about it in a public forum will do you no good either.

Who wants to be on a site they've been banned from anyhow, it beats me.
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If you have an issue of why you've been banned, then you should use the "contact us" form, not sign up again.
Complaining about it in a public forum will do you no good either.

Who wants to be on a site they've been banned from anyhow, it beats me.



I didn´t want to complain, just post as usual, keeping a low profile, but then I saw this thread and I thought "how many other people could have gone tru the same, perhaps should I say something about it?", it was so tempting.

"contact us" means contact that very person who banned me so I don´t think it would work.

Besides, there are many nice forumites around, why would anyone quit all the fun just because somebody in particular disliked him and unfairly banned him?
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It's simple really. When people don't follow the rules or act like assholes, they get banned.
Why someone would want to keep coming back to where they're not wanted seems like a mental issue to me.
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"contact us" means contact that very person who banned me so I don´t think it would work.



They come to me, and I was not the one that banned you.
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I am one that someday will just vanish in a cloud of smoke. To me very few people on a site like this are actually friends. Friendly with each other but friends no. I think the word friend has been overused and had its meaning cheapened. A friend of mine is someone I would die for and someone that would die for me. Needless to say that I will probably never have that type of friendship with someone here. If someone has vanished from here frown for a second, shrug your shoulders, and gone on with life.


I think that's a very sever definition of the word...

friend (frnd)n.

1. A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
2. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
3. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
4. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement


I am happy to say that I have more than my fair share of these here, on Lush. heart <3 (2)

I'm closer to some than to others and, just like in real life, I share things with them, laugh with them, cry with them, flirt, fall out, fall back in again.

Some, I'll lose touch with - sometimes we can pick up again, sometimes not.

Would I die for any of them? No, probably not, but then I don't think I'd die for many of my real life friends: my kids? Yes, fuck yes, I'd die for my kids...

Anyway, I said all the things you wanted - can I go now!! lol



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High Five (with a chair, he, he) Mazza! xx
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High Five with a chair Mazza! xx
(i have no kids, does my doggie count?) smile


I looked for a chair one...

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You is soo funny blood, no jokes!
(can you tell i work with youths)
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I've gone long periods of not posting in the forums, and not submitting, but it's really a question of time. A small child, a house and a husband (the husband needing the most attention...) and my career keep me pretty damn busy at times. I got a ton of writing in while I was pregnant and a fair amount in while dealing with the first few weeks afterwards, but it's still an iffy thing to find time. Right now we're snowed in, and Hubby's watching a Battlestar Galactica marathon, so I've got time to post.
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I have disappeared quite a bit from Lush when life gets in the way, or when I just have writer's block. Sometimes, I just have trouble with coming up with new ideas for stories to write, although this time I have a few swirling in my head. I never really post on the forums much. I kind of like lurking a lot more. I want to make more of an effort on posting on here this year.
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I know I connect with my Lushie friends and they definitely pick me up when I'm down, but when I'm dating someone seriously I don't generally use the site, I feel sort of guilty about it. If they're into it too, then that's cool, but a lot of times it just makes people uncomfortable or jealous and the emotional connection with my real life love life is more important to me so I try to avoid drama or hurt feelings. Plus it just makes ME uncomfortable. If I'm in love with someone and they are filling all my needs, I feel no need to use the site other than to just monitor my page/stories. To me,, when people disappear I always think they have something going right in their real life, and I try to be happy for them.


I guess, I have to agree with you...
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I have been here a long time. Online life is more intensive than most friendships or flirtations. People leave because they get bored or their other half finds out or their online lives start taking over their real one. I don't mean to sound cynical but how much can you really know from someone's online persona? How much is real and how much is bullshit? You once fufilled a need and they don't need you anymore so they leave in the most painless way(for them). They don't then have to deal with the fall out that their cowardice created.


I have not been here a long time but do agree with all of the above comments.

And as to the cynical observation, there is someone who did precisely this - his persona and stories were lies - he disappeared suddenly and has now reappeared with another avatar, another name and another story. I know it because he contacted me on his return.

My question to all is what do you do with information like this? Clearly this person intends to mislead others - or is this the chance we all take on the internet?
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I haven't experienced the feeling of loss anywhere on the net except for some lost accts.

Although I like some of you and respect the words you write, none of you are part of my real world. Outside of communicating with my family, I use the net for info and research. Even my writing and photography is a way to research myself. Have to admit though, would miss Dirty if he disappeared ; )

Love this site.
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hahaha! who was THAT??

(still ... it still seems like some things are odd that long time Lushers leave ... like LoisLane earlier too)


I probably shouldn't do this but... http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst19430_Heading-on-down-the-line.aspx
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I probably shouldn't do this but... http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst19430_Heading-on-down-the-line.aspx


LOL. Interesting thread, Overmykneenow. So let me get this straight: a member announces publicly that they're going to leave, then, contrary to said announcement, they actually do not leave? The hell you say!

The good news for the OP is that the member in question, Abygaleturner69, is (at least as of yesterday) around and active here at Lush. I hope you've re-connected with her.

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i'm feeling butt hurt by this thread. i'm leaving unless 200 people write me and beg me not to go.

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.