Brooklyn parents want to ban the Ice Cream Man from park. wtf?

4 Apr 2012

Quote by LadyX
What I don't get is how not saying no actually makes parenting any easier. It's not like kids ever get to a point where they say "you know, you've let me have my way quite a lot lately, I'm going to stop pushing and be cooperative and agreeable now." I can imagine that appeasement works roughly as well on kids as it did on the Third Reich.

Have you ever heard of that thing about how the more you tell a person no, the more they want to do something? Just like kids won't get to the point of of cooperating with you because you let them have what they want here and there they will also not get to the point of really understanding why you are telling them no. Yes you can explain all you want but fucking Timmy sees that all his friends get ice cream and he doesn't. He is not gonna think that it's his own fault for eating too much. He's just gonna think his mom is a dick.

Also what DD said about the ice cream being super bad for you now is a good point. Guess what, you are forced to say no again. "NO timmy, the chunky monkey is what made you a chunky monkey to begin with, you're having lemon sorbet." Then Timmy's jubilation is turned to dismay because mom finally said YES but she fucked it up with the sorbet.

If it was me? Sell the damn ice cream in the store along with the candy and soda and If I want my kid to have some then I will take them and let them pick one out. Otherwise I see it like pushing. Its just not needed.

Also, just google Ice cream truck fatalities and you'll see a bunch of articles of toddlers to young teens getting seriously injured or killed by ice cream trucks. It happened in my home town when I was a teen. I know that this argument is a bit unfair and extreme but ask anyone that has known a child that has been killed by an Ice cream truck and they will have no problem talking at length why it's something our society doesn't need.

I find ice cream truck drivers creepy as well, just saying.

5 Apr 2012

I'll find out for myself soon enough. But I think this is like almost everything else in life: avoid extremes and find a balance. You don't always say yes, but you don't always say no, either.

5 Apr 2012

Quote by LadyX
I'll find out for myself soon enough. But I think this is like almost everything else in life: avoid extremes and find a balance. You don't always say yes, but you don't always say no, either.

They should post that on the wall of every maternity ward hospital room so all parents can read it before they head home. Hell, put it on the ceiling in the delivery room too. Tattoo it to the dad's head so he'll see it every morning.

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5 Apr 2012

Really, have we reached the point where we want to regulate parenting easier for us? O wait we ready have. Learn to say. O and if your kid says I hate you , you are doing your job right! We are supposed to be Parents not friends!

5 Apr 2012

Quote by Magical_felix

Also what DD said about the ice cream being super bad for you now is a good point. Guess what, you are forced to say no again. "NO timmy, the chunky monkey is what made you a chunky monkey to begin with, you're having lemon sorbet." Then Timmy's jubilation is turned to dismay because mom finally said YES but she fucked it up with the sorbet.

Technically this does happen.

My mother was a sugar-nazi... she did not believe that children should eat anything with artificial colouring. Yeah, how great did I have it, right? That meant that I was not allowed to eat any of the rainbow coloured candy that all children crave like little sugar crack-addicts. When we went to the corner store and I longingly stared at the racks of bright candy, I was only allowed to buy those shitty little ice-cream cups that you peel back and eat with a flat wooden spoon. sad

Now... did I hate my mom for this? No. Did I plan a "tragic-child" rebellion because I didn't get what I wanted? No.

I rolled with it... Kids are pretty functional when they aren't coddled and allowed to run the show because we don't want to hurt their feelings.

But I agree with LadyX - the key is to let them have it sometimes and other times, say no. If you deny Fat Timmy the Chunky Monkey forever, then as soon as Timmy is in college or away from mom and dad, he's going to dive straight into the ice-cream tub and overindulge. These end up as those weird kids in college dorms that have cheetos and twinkies and piles of candy stuffed in their closets and under their beds.

To this day - the idea of sour skittles and fun-dip makes me giddy. But I still don't really indulge in it much, because in my efforts to stay superficially healthy, I moved on to other vices to give me my thrills when I need a little rush.

But getting back on topic - I think if I'd been allowed to eat "some" artificial-coloured candy when I was a kid, I totally would have outgrown any desire for it.

Hmm... I think "moderation" is the answer to most of life's questions, isn't it?

5 Apr 2012

Quote by Dancing_Doll

Hmm... I think "moderation" is the answer to most of life's questions, isn't it?

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5 Apr 2012

No gets easier to say the more you use it.
It actually works when your children learn that No means No and not just ......keep annoying and irritating mum enough untill she gives in and gives me what I want.
My lot have learnt that No and a raised eyebrow means dont mess with Mum or there will be trouble

6 Apr 2012

Ban the ice cream man? That sucks! One summer in high school I worked on an ice cream van.

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9 Apr 2012

Oh no ! when i was a teenager the ice cream man was who we bought our pot from . damn were would i be now without him ? damn were would i be now without him ? damn were would i be now without him ? lol

9 Apr 2012

Quote by tampmark122
Oh no ! when i was a teenager the ice cream man was who we bought our pot from . damn were would i be now without him ? damn were would i be now without him ? damn were would i be now without him ? lol

Yeah, but this is Park Slope in Brooklyn we're talking about here...I had a friend who lived there, so I know the park...and I can tell you they have separate people stationed in the park to handle drug sales...

Notice they want to ban the ice cream man from the park but not the drug dealers...

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9 Apr 2012

Quote by Buz
Have you ever got into an ice cream battle, when you and all of your friends shove ice cream down each other's pants?

not that I can remember Buz, wouldn't that be cold on the old cahoonas

9 Apr 2012

I can't stop laughing at this. Children born in the 2000's are so dam coddled their parents might as well put them in a pillow suit. Your children live in New York they have a higher chance of getting run over, than getting drugs. Seriously.

12 Aug 2012

Everybody wants to tell everybody how to live their lives mind your own business