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Mastrbater
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Hi I need advise , I'm married over 20 years with two children. I haven't had sex with my wife in over two years , we have been sleeping in separate rooms for the past year. About two months ago I meet a wonderful girl online we talk for hours at a time have online sex and now she wants to meet. I'm unsure what to do ...does anyone have any advise.
Simplicity
Just me
Only you can make that decision , just know once you meet it takes it to a hole new level, it is no longer just online. Are you ready and willing to take that route? Good luck in what ever you choose to do.
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Kiera
Short Arse Brit
Quote by Simplicity
Only you can make that decision , just know once you meet it takes it to a hole new level, it is no longer just online. Are you ready and willing to take that route? Good luck in what ever you choose to do.


^^^^^ This pretty much says it all.... It is should you choose to meet her take it from fantasy to reality and you need to be prepared for that especially seen as you are married, it would seem she wants more so bare that in mind if you are unwilling to give her more because you have a wife regardless of whether you have sex or not you are still lawfully unavailable and no I am not judging I am just saying that you are as you have not sort a divorce.

That said, if you choose to and it works out for you then good for you. I met a friend from here, not for sex but it was awesome and I care and love him dearly and I am so glad I did it, he even spent the Xmas year before last with me and my kids and we have gone out bowling ect and it was the best decision we ever made, however, we did not make it likely we are both quite shy and did not rush into it, we talked for months on the phone first and tbh it may not have ever happened at all except I needed help with my car which in the end prompted us finally meeting.

I was/am so lonely sometimes, well a lot of the time and he is a hugger and meeting him was just so easy, I thought I would be more nervous, but I really wasn't we may as well have known each other forever, it was so relaxed.. but it was emotional too, after he left I sat in my room and cried for a long time because it had been so long since anyone had ever hugged me like that.. Anyway just be prepared if you choose to meet her, I have been asked to meet others but I never have its a big decision to make and you are romantically involved which will make it further complicated for you.

I don't know if it is the same for others who have met people from here but I would suggest you take it slow...online relationships are fickle especially romantic ones they never seem to last but some do...take it slow is my advice.
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ChuckEPoo
Chuckanator
2 kids? How old? The children are a priority. It sounds like you need marriage counseling. If you don't want to be married there is divorce. But affairs never solve anything. I know.
JC72
Active Ink Slinger
It all boils down to one question.... Is your life better with her in it, and will it be what you want when you take the next step... Everything get harder and more stressful if you move forward, the time and stress of hiding something better be worth it, because its not just your life that will change..... Think of your children and yes even your wife because they will be affected with every choice.... My advice, whether this online relationship is the one or not, start planning an exit strategy so that you all can move forward with your lives normally....

Good luck...
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Quote by ChuckEPoo
2 kids? How old? The children are a priority. It sounds like you need marriage counseling. If you don't want to be married there is divorce. But affairs never solve anything. I know.


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Jack_42
Active Ink Slinger
No sex for 2 years? There has to be something seriously wrong with your marriage. If you take up this offer or not I feel you should do something about your marriage either talk it over (you mentioned no reason for the lack of sex) or get out of it. The kids sound like they must be at least in secondary school and they are adaptable. Also if you do meet this other person the reality may be different than you imagine so I would also not make any hasty decisions until I had more concrete feelings regarding that as well.
poppyx
Kiss My Wiggleass Baby
Speaking as someone who lived in a soulless marriage for years and had an affair during it (don't judge me cos I hate myself for doing it) an affair, regardless of the circumstances, really isn't the answer. In the short term you might get a good few fucks out of it and then go back to your sadly flawed marriage which is no better and probably much worse because you've had a taste of that human touch again, or in the long term you will develop true feelings for each other and then you will have to decide to leave your family - cos you will be the one who is leaving believe me. How would you feel if that happened, you have to ask yourself that.

If you are really thinking about an affair then you have pretty much written your marriage off and if you have done that then you should walk away so you both can be happy in the future. If you are still wondering if its the right thing to do then you might be able to salvage your marriage, you might be unhappy but I'm betting your wife is miserable too. Coming from someone who did it (not online though) it fucked me up and made me ache for a man who I couldn't have, it wasn't the answer for me. Hope you work it out for yourself.
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Mysteria27
Prolific Writer
Just be careful, because if the wife finds out you're marriage might just be finished.

Once you meet for real there's no turning back. Then you have to worry about your wife and your lover. It's a sad existence when you start lying.

If your marriage is damaged, seek counseling and a divorce. Lying and cheating and possibly getting a sexually transmitted disease and bringing it home is not the route to go either.

Just my 2 cents.

Hope it all works out for you.

Hugs,
Mysteria
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Cheating never has and will never be an answer to a problem. Sure anyone can justify it, give a reason for doing it. And convince themselves as well as other people that it was warranted. But the problem will remain. If your marriage is truly over, then give each other the respect that you both deserve and call it a good time, with good memories and go your separate ways. Doing anything else will be doing more harm than good. Just my two cents.
Magical_felix
Wild at Heart
Quote by Simplicity
just know once you meet it takes it to a hole new level


Hell yeah it will. 3 holes to be exact.