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Here's the thing... nobody would date an asshole if the guy presented himself this way upfront.
Assholes are often charming creatures that are good salesman and know how to create interest and close the deal before they flip the switch and reveal their true nature. This is usually after they get what they want. The woman will often try to make excuses for him at first. She will also fondly remember these little glimpses of the 'good guy' he played himself off as when they first started dating. She will feel like this 'good guy' is his true self and is just bubbling under the surface of his outward douchebaggery.
Women will justify that this man is just 'conflicted', misunderstood and 'afraid of love' and that really he is a good guy and with extra love, nurturing and 'stand by your man' perseverance, she will be able to change him for the better. By this point she is probably already deep into the infatuation stage and there will be something about the challenge of the situation that will keep her on her toes. Instead of cutting her losses, she will concentrate on the instances where he is the 'good guy' to her and ignore or make excuses for the rest of the time.
As someone else mentioned, assholes know their targets well. They pick people who are vulnerable with wavering self-esteem - someone that they can control and where they know the right buttons to push to always keep them in the power seat, always keep the girl wanting and chasing, and to always keep her unconfident in what she truly deserves. The emotionally-wounded are easier prey and these guys know how to pick those gazelles from the crowd of stronger animals on the dating savannah. They know the type of woman that will likely put up with their shit and those are the ones they tend to make those initial pitches to. Treating her like shit will only confirm her worst fears and keep her weak and unable to feel confident in going at it alone.
Even if the asshole does cut her loose, she will return to the dating scene even more wounded than before... and at risk of attracting the same kind of guy again, unless she takes a proper break from dating to reassess her self-worth and the kind of guy she really wants and feels she deserves.
That's the worst case scenario. Other girls see the charming guy, find out he's really an asshole in disguise and dump them outright. If it's a self-assured woman she will get better at seeing the red flags and warnings and start to avoid these types altogether.
I think every woman has at least one full-fledged asshole in her dating history. On some level, it's a good learning experience. lol
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
I think sometimes it boils down to how a woman sees herself.
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Here's the thing... nobody would date an asshole if the guy presented himself this way upfront.
Assholes are often charming creatures that are good salesman and know how to create interest and close the deal before they flip the switch and reveal their true nature. This is usually after they get what they want. The woman will often try to make excuses for him at first. She will also fondly remember these little glimpses of the 'good guy' he played himself off as when they first started dating. She will feel like this 'good guy' is his true self and is just bubbling under the surface of his outward douchebaggery.
Women will justify that this man is just 'conflicted', misunderstood and 'afraid of love' and that really he is a good guy and with extra love, nurturing and 'stand by your man' perseverance, she will be able to change him for the better. By this point she is probably already deep into the infatuation stage and there will be something about the challenge of the situation that will keep her on her toes. Instead of cutting her losses, she will concentrate on the instances where he is the 'good guy' to her and ignore or make excuses for the rest of the time.
As someone else mentioned, assholes know their targets well. They pick people who are vulnerable with wavering self-esteem - someone that they can control and where they know the right buttons to push to always keep them in the power seat, always keep the girl wanting and chasing, and to always keep her unconfident in what she truly deserves. The emotionally-wounded are easier prey and these guys know how to pick those gazelles from the crowd of stronger animals on the dating savannah. They know the type of woman that will likely put up with their shit and those are the ones they tend to make those initial pitches to. Treating her like shit will only confirm her worst fears and keep her weak and unable to feel confident in going at it alone.
Even if the asshole does cut her loose, she will return to the dating scene even more wounded than before... and at risk of attracting the same kind of guy again, unless she takes a proper break from dating to reassess her self-worth and the kind of guy she really wants and feels she deserves.
That's the worst case scenario. Other girls see the charming guy, find out he's really an asshole in disguise and dump them outright. If it's a self-assured woman she will get better at seeing the red flags and warnings and start to avoid these types altogether.
I think every woman has at least one full-fledged asshole in her dating history. On some level, it's a good learning experience. lol
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Here's the thing... nobody would date an asshole if the guy presented himself this way upfront.
Assholes are often charming creatures that are good salesman and know how to create interest and close the deal before they flip the switch and reveal their true nature. This is usually after they get what they want. The woman will often try to make excuses for him at first. She will also fondly remember these little glimpses of the 'good guy' he played himself off as when they first started dating. She will feel like this 'good guy' is his true self and is just bubbling under the surface of his outward douchebaggery.
Women will justify that this man is just 'conflicted', misunderstood and 'afraid of love' and that really he is a good guy and with extra love, nurturing and 'stand by your man' perseverance, she will be able to change him for the better. By this point she is probably already deep into the infatuation stage and there will be something about the challenge of the situation that will keep her on her toes. Instead of cutting her losses, she will concentrate on the instances where he is the 'good guy' to her and ignore or make excuses for the rest of the time.
As someone else mentioned, assholes know their targets well. They pick people who are vulnerable with wavering self-esteem - someone that they can control and where they know the right buttons to push to always keep them in the power seat, always keep the girl wanting and chasing, and to always keep her unconfident in what she truly deserves. The emotionally-wounded are easier prey and these guys know how to pick those gazelles from the crowd of stronger animals on the dating savannah. They know the type of woman that will likely put up with their shit and those are the ones they tend to make those initial pitches to. Treating her like shit will only confirm her worst fears and keep her weak and unable to feel confident in going at it alone.
Even if the asshole does cut her loose, she will return to the dating scene even more wounded than before... and at risk of attracting the same kind of guy again, unless she takes a proper break from dating to reassess her self-worth and the kind of guy she really wants and feels she deserves.
That's the worst case scenario. Other girls see the charming guy, find out he's really an asshole in disguise and dump them outright. If it's a self-assured woman she will get better at seeing the red flags and warnings and start to avoid these types altogether.
I think every woman has at least one full-fledged asshole in her dating history. On some level, it's a good learning experience. lol
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I disagree women will go out with assholes regardless how they present themselves.I've always try to be a gentleman and a nice guy and was passed over so many times for jerks,but it's all good been married now 35 years
