This might seem odd.
My wife likes to blow me. I can't complain, it's good and I love it.
However, if I ever ask to go down on her, it's always a lukewarm response, like she doesn't want me to.
I don't get. From all the things I read on here I would have thought any woman would be happy to receive oral sex.
Do I need to be more persuasive on this issue ?
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If you take her and don't accept no for an answer then you better make sure that you've got a good lawyer.
Other than that, having someone go down on you isn't everyone's cup of tea, despite what you read here on lush. Why not just talk to her about it and find out why she doesn't want you to go down on her?
It might prove very enlightening to you.
I use to avoid it - not because I didn't like receiving it - but because my husband was so much more intense with it. . .it was honestly a little too much for me to handle.
Might not be her deal - but you never know.
Some women have a complex, Thinking it to be gross. Witch is usually implanted from childhood by overly religious and crude parents.
Honestly, until I came to Lush I have never heard of a woman who didnt like having her pussy licked. But since Ive been here I have read about several women who dont like it. Personally I love it. The only problem I have ever had is that some guys just dont know how to do it well.
But if she doesnt like it and you have discussed it, Id leave it at that. She knows what is best for her.
One question, have you given oral to other women that liked it or is it possibly your technique that si the problem? Just a thought.
I like having my pussy licked as a foreplay thing. It's rarely enough on its own though. If i had to choose between them (and cock wasn't on the menu) I'd rather be fingered.
my wife didn't like to cum when I ate her, but she did several times, loved tasting her juice was so sweet, she wouldn't cum for my friend tho he ate her a lot, when she got hot she made him fuck her.
LOL yeah... I am kind of like that. I LOVE to have it done, don't get me wrong, but I'm rather OCD about cleanliness, I need to be freshly showered etc to feel comfortable with letting someone get down there haha
I think I've said this before in other threads like this: Women go through different things down there. Most women enjoy oral sex...MOST not all of them. It could be a mental thing more so than physical. The WORST thing, and I mean the ABSOLUTE WORST thing you could do is go down on her against her will. If you do, all sex may come to a halt for an extended period of time. As Nikki said (damn, I refer to what Nikki says a lot) if it's something you've already discussed and she doesn't like it then that's that. Or it could be the technique.
Communicate with her. Get her to open up and tell you why she doesn't like it. And be sincere. Tell her that it's something you would very much like to experience with her and something you believe she could enjoy if given the opportunity. If you can get her to open her mind to it, don't just go straight for the kill. Stroke and kiss and nibble her inner thighs. Her nerves will tingle and the blood will rush to her clit. Use your fingers. Rub, massage, and play. Slip a finger or two inside her and stroke her while using your mouth on other areas of her pussy. Keep her wet with your tongue until her own juices make her slick down there. Then remove your fingers and replace them with your tongue. Fuck her with your tongue...but keep her clit stimulated with your fingers.
If/when she does allow you to do it, MAKE THIS FIRST TIME COUNT! If you really want her to enjoy it, you gotta pull out all the stops. Make her feel a multitude of sensations, and she'll be begging you to do it time and time again.
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Some women just don't like it, or don't enjoy it as much as other things. I know a few people who don't like having men go down on them. It baffles me because it I find it to be amazing. I can't even guess how someone might not like it, but it does happen. I also know a few men who don't like having woman go down on them. I guess it comes down to "To each their own." I guess.
Your wife is not alone ... I'm not too keen on it either - yet men seem to think it's their bound duty to reciprocate if I've just given him oral. Sex is an adventure - and should be every time it happens - not a duty.
When I became more experienced with sex I would always pleasure my partners but would hate it if they started to pleasure me. I would literally freeze at the thought of it and feel sick and if I'm totally honest I still get that feeling every now and then! What I found helped easing myself into it asking my bf at the time to only do a minutes worth and kept on adding time after that! Do you know if its just you or has it been other partners as well?
If your wife/girlfriend doesn't like to receive oral sex, the answer is pretty much black and white. Either she has some hangup about it being "dirty" or you can't find the magic spots. Either get a map or counselling.
There may be a number of reasons. I suspect she may just not get that much out of it; some women aren't turned on that much by it. Or maybe she isn't super confident about it?
