Is it possible to write a good story when you havent actually had sex before?

Quote by jolander055
Ok so i am a 20 year old male and i am still a virgin. I have been reading these stories for a while and would love to write one. Do you think it is possible to capture the emotion and feelings behind a sex story if you havent experienced sex? Let me know what you think. Thanks.

Quote by jolander055
No i havent ever had a girlfriend or anything. Always been too shy.

Quote by Shylass


I think it is possible to fool people into thinking you can capture the emotion and feelings behind a sex story, certainly. Whether or not the story is good, is an entirely different matter. Here are some pointers that I've found useful:

EXPERIENCE
The first place to start, in my opinion, is with your own feelings. How does your skin feel when you use certain pressures in certain places? What emotions do you wish you could experience? How do you think you would feel if somebody said certain things to you? How might you respond?

EMPATHY
Try to think about another person. What would they like? What might they like you to do to them? What might they like to do to you? Why? What makes them feel that way? What motivates them to do what they do? Is it the same for you, or can you at least understand it? Empathy is the master stroke (geddit?) of your writing. Try to take what you have, and roll that into how somebody else might feel.

OBSERVATION
Read. Read the forums. What words do people like to use? What turns them on? What scenarios get them wet? How do they express themselves? What phrases and images do they use, or like to hear or see? What shapes of body, what settings, what positions? Get a coffee in a busy place, and watch people. See how they interact. Sit in the chat rooms and stare. How do they respond to certain things?

IMAGINATION
Sometimes, all we have to go on is what we can imagine. Using the first points, you can create a scene and characters, and string words together that will capture the imagination and emotions of your readers.

EXPRESSION
Using everything that you have experienced, empathy for other people, observation of their behaviour and words, and a splash of your imagination, you can construct a piece that is exciting or quietening, raw or polished, edgy or flowing, romantically sensual, or fucking brilliant. But you will never know until you try.

ENJOYMENT
Write because you want to. Enjoy the process, even if you find it frustrating at times. Write because you have something inside you that wants to be exposed, played with, explored, and shared. Whether it makes the verification process will be important to you, as we may work hard, but it may not always be something that is ideal reading. But you have to start somewhere, if you do want to start. Don't let anything hold you back unless you like it that way.


Experience.
Empathy.
Observation.
Imagination.
Expression.
Enjoyment.

A wise man (who has already posted in this thread) once said to me, "Fuck what you know. Write what you feel." The truth was, I didn't know what I felt, other than that I wanted to write. What does a virgin know about fucking? Nothing. Or so many non-virgins might think. But we can build up a picture with those points, and it's a start. I've learned a lot, and I'm not just talking about the proper use of a semi*.

Write because you want to, not because you know how.



*I mean a semi-colon, you mucky people. Or do I?

Quote by Shylass


I think it is possible to fool people into thinking you can capture the emotion and feelings behind a sex story, certainly. Whether or not the story is good, is an entirely different matter. Here are some pointers that I've found useful:

EXPERIENCE
The first place to start, in my opinion, is with your own feelings. How does your skin feel when you use certain pressures in certain places? What emotions do you wish you could experience? How do you think you would feel if somebody said certain things to you? How might you respond?

EMPATHY
Try to think about another person. What would they like? What might they like you to do to them? What might they like to do to you? Why? What makes them feel that way? What motivates them to do what they do? Is it the same for you, or can you at least understand it? Empathy is the master stroke (geddit?) of your writing. Try to take what you have, and roll that into how somebody else might feel.

OBSERVATION
Read. Read the forums. What words do people like to use? What turns them on? What scenarios get them wet? How do they express themselves? What phrases and images do they use, or like to hear or see? What shapes of body, what settings, what positions? Get a coffee in a busy place, and watch people. See how they interact. Sit in the chat rooms and stare. How do they respond to certain things?

IMAGINATION
Sometimes, all we have to go on is what we can imagine. Using the first points, you can create a scene and characters, and string words together that will capture the imagination and emotions of your readers.

EXPRESSION
Using everything that you have experienced, empathy for other people, observation of their behaviour and words, and a splash of your imagination, you can construct a piece that is exciting or quietening, raw or polished, edgy or flowing, romantically sensual, or fucking brilliant. But you will never know until you try.

ENJOYMENT
Write because you want to. Enjoy the process, even if you find it frustrating at times. Write because you have something inside you that wants to be exposed, played with, explored, and shared. Whether it makes the verification process will be important to you, as we may work hard, but it may not always be something that is ideal reading. But you have to start somewhere, if you do want to start. Don't let anything hold you back unless you like it that way.


Experience.
Empathy.
Observation.
Imagination.
Expression.
Enjoyment.

A wise man (who has already posted in this thread) once said to me, "Fuck what you know. Write what you feel." The truth was, I didn't know what I felt, other than that I wanted to write. What does a virgin know about fucking? Nothing. Or so many non-virgins might think. But we can build up a picture with those points, and it's a start. I've learned a lot, and I'm not just talking about the proper use of a semi*.

Write because you want to, not because you know how.



*I mean a semi-colon, you mucky people. Or do I?

Quote by vines
Yeah it is man. Every women wants a man that will make her feel as if he woild do anything to get her and to keep her. So in your story make the male charater like that. And every man wants to be the guy that gets the dearm girl no matter what. Also it's good if you give the male character a big flaw. Such as, he is ugly and the dearm girl is around this greek god looking mother fucker. And he does what it takes to get her and they live happy for ever and ever. Also keep in mind every woman needs to be made to feel as if she is her dude's dearm girl. You can gain insight by reading authors that do well in writing these types of stories.
As the self proclaimed number one romance writer, go take a read at some of my stuff? You may not want to read my stuff to start off with as it is complex. Even the master writers of our time would have a difficult time mimicking my style and if they did it still would only be an imitation. However, if it were me I would read this, read a few stories, and then dig deep into myself to find out what it all means to me.

Do you have gingerbread men in your stories too? I am so totally up for all of that.

I think I'm wet already...

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Do you have gingerbread men in your stories too? I am so totally up for all of that.

I think I'm wet already...

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I can write about gimerbread sex story. Just be sure tell people all about me and how great my stories are.

You write a gingerbread sex story, and I will read it (as long as the category is not Incest). If it is truly great, I will tell everybody I know (well, the people who wouldn't have a heart attack upon finding out that I read Ginga Porn).

I will warn you, however, that I am very persnicketty, so you'd better do a very good job. Good luck! Let me know when it's posted.

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(well, the people who wouldn't have a heart attack upon finding out that I read Ginga Porn)

Quote by jolander055
Ok so i am a 20 year old male and i am still a virgin. I have been reading these stories for a while and would love to write one. Do you think it is possible to capture the emotion and feelings behind a sex story if you havent experienced sex? Let me know what you think. Thanks.

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Not naming any names but I do know of authors that have written stories when they were a virgin.

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Aww, damn! How did you know!