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1ball
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 69
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The worst sex I've had was with a woman who didn't make good sex a mutual goal. It was my responsibility to initiate sex, to turn her on, to give her orgasms, to take away everything that distracted her, to know exactly what she desired exactly when she desired it and to provide exactly that with a complete absence of cues. She took no responsibility for a failure to have good sex. If my back, neck, hands, fingers or tongue became exhausted during foreplay, it was my fault for not getting her there, it was never her fault for not being emotionally invested in getting there. After an hour of beating a dead horse, I would hear, "you shouldn't have <whatever> so soon" or "you should have <whatever> sooner" when she finally decided it wasn't going to happen. This didn't happen every time, but it sure was annoying when it did.
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Quote by Passionate_Fantasist
Okay, so I have a thing for legs, especially a man's legs. So, the other night, my man and I were getting it on in the back of his truck and I kept finding myself grinding against his legs, rubbing them and holding onto them. I don't want to call this a fetish, but maybe it is. But here is my question,
Guys, has your girl ever been obsessed with a body part of yours (other than your cock)? And if so, is it a turn on or a turn off?
I don't know if I would call it obsessed, but my legs and my ass are what I can tease her with. She enjoys massaging both. I'm fairly hairy and she seems to like me that way.
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I like the reader to be able to picture himself or herself in one of the roles in the story. To do that requires less detail rather than more, because the detail can exclude the reader from the character. So I give the level of detail that is important to the story and very little more. That's often age, race, skin tone, height, and sometimes build or body type and I give it as naturally as it flows from the narrator/storyteller character, because how the detail is delivered is saying something about the character who is telling the tale.
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You can probably get a fair estimation of what it feels like by putting on a strapon and then masturbating. Except for the difference of having that weight extended from the male body, the physical sensations are supposedly very similar between the genders, as near as the medical experts can determine by measuring physical response. But I'm sure that's not a satisfying answer. It feels like a very pleasant buildup of pressure, followed by a loss of control of the thrusting muscles and the pumping muscles in the groin that is even more pleasant, almost to the point of deliriously so. Then an overall feeling of well-being that lasts for up to 20 minutes. My balls feel empty and cold afterward.
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Quote by SexySofie
Why is it that most men in America are circumcised and those in UK are not? I always thought only Jews and Muslims were circumcised for religious reasons ... but America is as much a Christian country as Britain so why is it? Personally though I do prefer a circumcised dick .. much nicer to suck.
Also, never knew there were different levels of circumcision.
Probably because it's covered by private health insurance for newborns but not by the NHS. Private health insurance became a common employee benefit starting in WWII. It's classed as a preventative procedure.
The different levels of circumcision probably depend on the preference of the cutter. Some pull more skin over than others.
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Because those that ask for it usually have no idea what it feels like to be on the receiving end.
I've been asked for it 3 times, and each time my answer was the same, he can do it after I get to stick Johnny in him. (Johnny is my favorite . .. naughty-time toy- this is lush, you guys know what I'm talking about)
Someone has yet to say yes, it probably doesn't help that Johnny has a face and sports every color under the sun (it's like having sex with a rainbow)
Assuming Johnny isn't ridiculously huge and assuming you could be trusted to follow through if he agreed, that seems like a great way to separate the men from the boys. A real man wouldn't expect to receive the level of trust that anal penetration requires without giving the same level of trust and it really is a matter of trust. No one can say they have "surrendered completely" (to their love, passion, etc.) until they've surrendered that, but no one can reasonably expect complete surrender from an equal without reciprocating. That would be a double standard.
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Quote by Shylass
I would like to know subjective views, though. I'm interested in people and what defines them as an individual, and how they view the world. And, in this case, "erotica".
Okay, well my view is that erotica is very broadly defined. Sex does not have to be included. A story just has to arouse me sexually in only the slightest amount, but to call it erotica, that has to be the author's primary intent.
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In a famous court case in the US, Justice Stewart Potter on the topic of hardcore pornography said, "I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description; and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I see it, and the motion picture involved in this case is not that."
I bring this up, because i think "Erotica" might be just as subjective.
I bring this up, because i think "Erotica" might be just as subjective.
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I'm not a Brit and I defininitely notice when people use whilst or learnt or a number of other words that I think of as British. In my Trespasser series, I write from the POV of a Brit character who has lived in the US for a while and is trying to assimilate. That's a cheat so that I don't have to get the speech mannerisms perfect.
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Thanks Guys, I was thinking we could use the hot tub after to gives a bit of a break, then maybe get him to use one of my toys on me until he's ready agian?
That might be a good plan. Age is a factor and you didn't say how old he was. When I was in my 30s, I recovered much quicker. Now in my 50s, once a day is about all I can hope for.
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All I can tell you is what I've heard. To get greater length, weights work, very slowly over a very long period of time (years) a penis can be safely stretched. Vacuum pumps supposedly will also work to increase both length and girth, again, very slowly over a long period of time with lots of dedication. I just can't see devoting an hour per day for years to gain an inch or two.
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Quote by TraceyAmes
There are many perverts around in the world, and I feel by intentionally flashing one's wares, you could easily finish up being stalked, molested, or even killed. I wouldn't wish that on anybody. Be sensible girls and take my advice.
It's unfortunate but understandable that you feel that way. It takes much less to trigger most men's predatory response, but fortunately most of us have learned to control predatory urges, so exhibitionism is just a brief thrill for us. Making sure it looks accidental will greatly increase the odds of having it not be seen as an invitation to pursue. Making it obvious is playing with fire and caution is a good idea.
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My parents have been married over 50 years and I don't think I've ever seen my father touch my mother. I know how much it would mean to her. I've been married over 25 years and I still hold hands with my wife on occasion when we walk and touch her leg sometimes when we drive together. I don't have a problem with public display of affection.
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nope - just like regular stories, minimum of 6,000 characters, max of 10,000 words.
I don't think I could write a story that had 6,000 characters. How would I keep all their names straight?
It's unfortunate that there's only one entry allowed per author. I'm thinking up a sequel. I'll postpone it until after the contest.
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Way back in the late 1970s, I was a college student at "a large Midwestern university", which was pretty much a code phrase for a Big 10 school. Penthouse Magazine had a letters to the editor section that basically became a submit your story section. A girl that I knew told me a true story of an experience she had. With her permission, I wrote it up and sent it in and it got published. That was a thrill.
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I often write the basic story in my head as I'm going about my daily business, often while driving. That's when I get the highest level of arousal from what I write. Then, when I can work on the laptop, I recall my thoughts, but not perfectly, and I write fresh stuff into the story also. Once I have the basic story down, I think about what I've written while going about my daily business and I think of enhancements and embellishments. When I can get back on the laptop again, I again recall my thoughts. By the time I feel a story is ready for publishing, I might have washed through it 6 times or more.
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Maybe it's the idea that he's being submissive that bothers him. Some dominators will not do anything they believe is in the realm of the submissive. Or maybe he just had a really bad experience with a girl who had very poor hygiene. Or maybe he is a germophobe or something. I love to lick pussy.
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This is something that changes for me. For a day or a week or a month, it might be an image of a guy's POV while fucking a woman doggy style. Another time, it might be a woman reclining and masturbating. Another time, it might be an upskirt. I once saw a woman walking through an airport with a short skirt and thigh high stockings. As she walked, the skirt would alternately bounce against the area on the back of her thigh just below the curve of her ass and just above the top of her stocking. That video replayed in my head for weeks.