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Quote by littlemissbitch
and me being me i am drawn to love like moth to a flame...and when it came my way, even if it wasnt what i thought it was i took it. more than once too.
It sounds like you did what you needed to do in order to endure, and then escape, a bad situation. I know what it's like to not be able to simply walk away. In this case the cheating seems like a form of self-defense.
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It might be possible for women to have orgasms in their sleep, not wake up, and not remember whatever they were dreaming when it happened. For all anyone knows, it could happen a lot. The only evidence would be wetness, unlike with guys who would have ejaculate. I guess a squeez-o-meter would have to be inserted to prove this theory, but that might void the experiment.
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Quote by digbickjack
thanks for taking the time out to help with my situation everybody, i feel like i could enjoy this, but its honestly more for her than for me. It feels like she would get more turned on having the power and the ability to pound me for once. Anybody have an idea of how much enemas are?
2 for $3
http://www.drugstore.com/fleet-enema-saline-laxative/qxp27196?catid=184255
http://www.drugstore.com/fleet-naturals-cleansing-enema-with-aloe-twin-pack/qxp243948?catid=184255
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Quote by alex35
Never!...but there are days I feel weak.
One of my mentors likes to say "Don't cheat on your wife. If you really have to go somewhere else, then pay for it with a professional'.
I think if I ever do crack, I will go down that road...and it will only be because I want to try anal which my wife refuses....
Do you really think that's not cheating? I don't think many wives would. They might find it more acceptable than an affair, but that's hair-splitting to a degree I wouldn't expect.
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Quote by Shylass
I use Firefox, but not the notepad (I'm not sure what that is). My laptop has a habit of crashing, so I write in Word documents and save them as I go.
Notepad is probably your default editor for .txt files. Right-click with your cursor hovering on your desktop, hover your cursor on New in the menu that shows up, and then select Text Document from the popup menu. That opens notepad and lets you save your document as a .txt file. Very simple text. No formatting except for wordwrap.
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Quote by yocowboy
Now she has cut out all sex, says she doesn't like her body. What am I to do?
If you want to stay with her, ask her to get counseling. Low libido is a sign of clinical depression. If she says no, ask her if you can get some on the side. Being expected to go without, in the absence of a medical reason is a sign she wants out of the relationship, but lacks the strength to make it her choice.
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Some people are just prone to being dissatisfied, so when they view porn or read stories, they become prone to blaming their partner for the fact that their sex life doesn't match up with their ideal. They might even be tempted to go looking for better. But in general, people are realistic enough to understand that better is the enemy of good enough and that what they can learn from erotica is useful for helping them get to good enough.
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No. I've even given my wife enemas prior to medical procedures and that has not mattered. She heard about unpleasant experiences that two or her friends had with inconsiderate guys, and she's a germophobe, and blah, blah, blah, it's a no-go zone. It's not worth leaving her over and it's not worth getting rough over. She likes a little rough, but she's not into as much pain as it would take to force that open and I'm not the kind of guy that would inflict that much pain.
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Quote by littlemissbitch
yes see thats what i thought too and how i would have felt if it had been my ex. i would have known from the first touch almost anywhere on his body, couple that with smell and of course i would know.
i mean...cant everyone tell the difference between coke and pepsi?
I'm enjoying thinking about how to make this an objective experiment.
Scent alone, like from off her shoulders or hair, isn't likely to be strong enough to be detected when my nose is not receptive. I'm not sure it would be strong enough even during the 2% of the time when I suddenly can smell even delicate scents. So securing a sample of a concentrated unique scent without touching her, seeing her or hearing her would probably require the use of swabs. And I'm only guessing, but I think I could tell.
I think if I was blindfolded, I could tell by braille pretty quickly from just rubbing her back around her neck and shoulders if one of the women in a line is my wife, even if they're similar in many respects. Backrubs for decades will do that.
Unlike my wife, I've had neither Coke nor Pepsi for over a year, so I could probably miss a guess on those.
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Quote by Jackwanker
What do I need to do. Wife want have sex with me and when she does I don't last long at all because my dick gets stimulated so quickly and it feels so good. I would love to last longer than 10 minutes. We have had sex a total of 5 times this year and we used to have sex at last twice a month until about 5 years ago. I have always been a quick one, but usually get her off by other means. Can only remember once feeling her orgasm around my penis. I don't know what to do and yes my penis is small before you ask, 5 inches hard.:(
There's a big difference between want or won't and due to the grammar seeming more like you meant won't, please clarify that.
Premature ejaculation seems like one problem here. The other might be that most women simply don't come from vaginal penetration. Clitoral stimulation is required for orgasms for most women and they simply don't get enough from vaginal intercourse. So get in there and lick pussy or use fingers or toys on her clit, under her guidance, and get her off before you penetrate her. She might then have secondary orgasms while you get off, but if not, she will at least be emotionally closer to you and more willing to have sex more often. If that doesn't work, then her libido might just be low or she might just be living with you out of habit or circumstance rather than sexual desire.
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Quote by littlemissbitch
really? youd be ok coming home and finding spread legged in front of a comp being cyber fucked by some random dude online? i think you need to try it before you say you'd mind it or not.
A cyber cuckold? Next he'll be licking the cyber creampie.
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Quote by H2O
I use Open Office for writing my stories. I have some dating back to 2006 and one in particular that won't transfer here with paragraphs intact. I copy and paste but the editing vanishes. It's 12 pages long and I would really hate to walk through the entire document to put in the spaces. I've tried Text format, Word 97/2000, and their default setting and they all paste the same way. Two other stories I've posted haven't had that problem. Anyone know what I'm doing wrong?
Thanks in advance.
Try a different browser for the submit. Some browsers remove one line between paragraphs when they're written with notepad. I don't know why. Chrome and Firefox don't.
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My process varies a little because I like to experiment, but basically my stories often form when I'm not in a position to write. For example, I could be driving down the road and "writing" in my head. It can be anything from forming the plot to imagining the dialog. When the time comes, I type it into notepad with wordwrap on, because that adds no formatting. I write symbols into the text to let me know where to add formatting in the finished product. For example [ i ] for italics and [ b ] for bold. I write the title, tagline and tags at the top when I think of them.
I sometimes write the sex in with the story, but other times I write the story with placemarkers for sex scenes. I sometimes write a paragraph describing how the plot advances and then I get away from the keyboard for a while and that's when ideas for smoothing, expanding or otherwise improving the story happen. I often replace these paragraphs with dialog.
I reread and catch mistakes. Before I submit, I review the consistency of the character's dialog, and sometimes reread the story several times to find flow problems. Sometimes I do a manual find and replace on the most common mistakes, your and you're, there, their and they're, to make sure the correct word was used.
When I'm ready to submit, I turn wordwrap off and copy and paste the text into the submit form. I run through the story one more time because now I have a spellchecker from the browser and this is I remove the formatting placemarkers and add the formatting. I try to minimize editing here, but I invariably still find something I want to change. This last minute editing is where the majority of errors that I miss get injected. I skim through the preview, looking mainly for formatting anomalies, and then I place my baby in the hands of whichever verifier snags it from the queue.
I sometimes write the sex in with the story, but other times I write the story with placemarkers for sex scenes. I sometimes write a paragraph describing how the plot advances and then I get away from the keyboard for a while and that's when ideas for smoothing, expanding or otherwise improving the story happen. I often replace these paragraphs with dialog.
I reread and catch mistakes. Before I submit, I review the consistency of the character's dialog, and sometimes reread the story several times to find flow problems. Sometimes I do a manual find and replace on the most common mistakes, your and you're, there, their and they're, to make sure the correct word was used.
When I'm ready to submit, I turn wordwrap off and copy and paste the text into the submit form. I run through the story one more time because now I have a spellchecker from the browser and this is I remove the formatting placemarkers and add the formatting. I try to minimize editing here, but I invariably still find something I want to change. This last minute editing is where the majority of errors that I miss get injected. I skim through the preview, looking mainly for formatting anomalies, and then I place my baby in the hands of whichever verifier snags it from the queue.
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Quote by VirginalViet
I just want to say that most of my favorite stories on here DO NOT have a lot of views or votes. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the stories by Tashitasha, SITTING and a few others. Most of the stories that people respond to quickly on here are very superficial and stupid and you really can't read them. Also if a story is really short and just about the sex then I have no connection to the characters and I don't really give a shit about them so who cares if they're having sex? Tasha, Emilia, John and Jake.....Rachel.....I love you all and your stories rock!
It's great for me as a writer to hear this. I'm not going to knock the quick wank stories, because that's what many readers seem to prefer. But I prefer to write about complex interpersonal relationships. Putting a story into either the Novels or the Love Stories category seems to alienate many potential viewers, but it targets the audience that appreciates the difference. It would be great if the readers in those categories would comment more.
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Because I prefer to write in the first person, the persona of the storyteller/character guides the choice of words. So if it's "natural" for the storyteller to weave a complex story, that's what happens and if it's natural for the storyteller to get down to business and "git 'er done", that's what happens. What sells the story to the reader is the situation and the believability of the characters.
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Quote by digbickjack
So my wife has been suggesting that we use a strapon on me. The reason for this is because during sex she'll lick my ass and rub it with her fingers, no actual penetration due to um....ya gross. Anyway, I really enjoy the assplay and common sense would only say that a strapon would feel that much better. I'm torn on the topic so any insight, aside from "just do it" would help alot. Thanks
The reason for it is probably more complicated. The point of allowing the penetration is to enjoy it. Stimulation of the prostate is one thing that makes that possible, but it doesn't require a strapon. A strapon is more of a role play thing. You submit and she drives the bus, unless you go cowgirl on her.
I recommend some reading at this site.
http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/06/convincing-her-to-try-it/
http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/05/convincing-him-to-try-it/
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If her sexual history makes her the kind of person who could not be the one, then yes. I knew a woman who was damaged by her history. It made her bitter and gave her a number of other undesirable personality traits. Or maybe those were just there and contributed to her history. Either way, it was the personality that excluded her, not the history. And besides, she dumped me. 
I didn't look to marry a virgin or a "nice" girl, but I did look to find a woman who wasn't such an extrovert that being with her drove me bananas. Women tend to be extroverts, but I think women with "sordid" sexual histories probably tend to be more extroverted than average and wouldn't want me as a life-mate because I'm not likely to provide what she needs emotionally from a partner.
Athletes, being highly focused on their individual performance, are often introverts, people who need to be alone much more than average, even though they can be very gregarious for periods of time. So maybe it isn't a matter of sexual history, but a difference between who is fun to spend some time with and who is compatible over the long run. An introvert can have fun with an extrovert for a while, but unless the extrovert has enough other sources of emotional support, they can overwhelm an introvert.
I didn't look to marry a virgin or a "nice" girl, but I did look to find a woman who wasn't such an extrovert that being with her drove me bananas. Women tend to be extroverts, but I think women with "sordid" sexual histories probably tend to be more extroverted than average and wouldn't want me as a life-mate because I'm not likely to provide what she needs emotionally from a partner.
Athletes, being highly focused on their individual performance, are often introverts, people who need to be alone much more than average, even though they can be very gregarious for periods of time. So maybe it isn't a matter of sexual history, but a difference between who is fun to spend some time with and who is compatible over the long run. An introvert can have fun with an extrovert for a while, but unless the extrovert has enough other sources of emotional support, they can overwhelm an introvert.
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Quote by littlemissbitch
so then my question is....doesnt every pussy feel individual and different? i think i would have been able to tell from feel of his cock alone if it was my ex or not. not so with women?
Considering the high degree of variability, I think yes, I would be able to tell by feel, providing there was enough of it to get a detailed braille picture.
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Quote by DanceWithShadows
If a woman had to issue the challenge: "Don't touch yourself, or have sex, for as long as you can", how long would you men last?
The big question is, "Why would I bother?". I think 10 days has been the longest I've gone without since age too young to mention, but that abstinence was due to injury. There is a point where it simply isn't healthy.