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Quote by candyflossbaby
we're no different from men really (apart from the physical lol) smile
almost all of my friends are male, because i talk to them in the same manner they talk to each other.


I gotta say that this isn't very good advice. When I'm talking with another guy, I might say things like, "Wow, did you see the awesome legs on that redhead in the blue shorts.", but I don't think Terry should say anything like that to a girl he's interested in.
If she's facing me, eyes, mouth, face, shape, in that order. If I'm seeing her from behind, legs, ass/hips, overall shape, in that order.
My opinion is that thread titles should be more explicit about what the thread is about. That way I don't have to revisit dumbass threads because I forget they're dumbass. For example, this thread would be better titled "Dumbass thread about whether cyber sex excites you."
I've had proper conversations with women authors about writing stories about people who have sex. Does that count?
Ass. But that's lower on the list than legs, eyes and smile.
Towel on the bed. Showers shortly after. No Problem. I never had a problem with blood and my wife loved the results. Wetter faster, cramp relief, great orgasms.
The key is pretty much to get her talking about herself, especially about what she likes and dislikes that might be common interests. "What do you like to do when you've got free time?" For example, If you find she likes watching football and you like watching football, now you've got something you can do together. Same with shoe shopping at the mall.

It you don't find many areas of likes and dislikes, then you can go with what she would like to try. "Have you ever done this or that? Would you like to try it?" Women have often been denied opportunities to try things they might be interested in. Odds are she won't want to do a lot of things you've done, but that's good info for deciding whether she's right for you. In the meantime, you're showing interest in her and helping her get over any reluctance to talk to you. Eventually, she might ask you similar questions.
Mentally? or physically? At my age there's a difference.
I've thoroughly enjoyed conversing with some interesting men. One was an Apollo astronaut. I would love to talk with certain writers, Neal Stephenson would probably top that list, but it would be a long list. I admire the minds of highly creative and intelligent people, especially if they remain passionate about their field for decades. It might be more appropriate to call that a brain crush, if that didn't sound so gruesome.
My nose doesn't always work well and this has been a lifelong issue. So sometimes I probably could tell by scent and sometimes I couldn't. But I would probably have to go down this line of women and get their specific scent on my fingertips to do it. And if my wife was in that line, I would probably have a bloody nose after the first scent.
Damn! I've been trying to pace out all my Creepy McCreeperton questions so they wouldn't exhaust y'all, but...

I have sat back and wondered whether you creep-busters will run out of snark to answer with. You haven't failed to entertain so far.
Quote by Jack_42
[I now wonder if this parental guidance thing re prospective partners is something mothers teach their daughters rather than male parents. Apart from my mother my family household was all male (5 of us) and there was never any emphasis on suitable future partners. It was a very egalitarian household though apart from the WWII generation's usual ambivalent hang up re premarital sex. We were never allowed to develop any racist or other forms of bigotry but this was not presented in a preachy way more by behaviour example. This was in the North East of the UK by the way.]


I think both mothers and fathers try to keep their daughters from bad boys, premarital pregnancy, and poverty. But I think a lot of cultural influences merged in a perfect storm to form this dysfunctional bad boy - nice guy sexual attraction issue. If you ever saw the film American Graffiti, it was present there. Some of the influences included drive-in movies, Rock 'n' Roll music, motorcycle gangs, drugs, anti-heroes like James Dean, and writers like Kerouac and Kesey. Of course, before all those, there was always the rich guy vs. poor guy distinction but it didn't become cool to be the bad boy, the rebel, the one who could take the girl away from the sleepy life of suburbia, until about the late 1950s. It's been going strong ever since. The women's liberation movement and access to The Pill and the subsequent sexual revolution contributed. Now you've got a lot of sexually liberated sexually frustrated women with relationship issues in a cycle of self-abuse by virtue of falling for guys who don't respect them while being unable to overcome the damage they wrought on guys who used to.

I don't know how much of this was centered in the US and Canada, but judging from films made in the UK and Oz, it's definitely there.
Quote by Resident
But I'd like to think that's it's not a waste of money to give her funds for lingerie if whatever she has in her
collection has pleased you before.


The point is that, if she can please you wearing just a t-shirt or something she already has, it is a waste of money. She could have just worn a t-shirt (or something from her collection) and put the money to a more effective use.

It also wouldn't be a waste if you just wanted to do something nice for her, regardless of
what's in it for you (like visual pleasure).


Buying her something she won't wear is a waste of money. Giving her a gift certificate or buying her something that you know she will wear pleases her, and that's fine, unless she expects that you would be more pleased than if she wore the t-shirt and gets disappointed when it produces no better response than the t-shirt. This is one of the situations where the wrong thing to do is show your true feelings and the right thing to do is pretend her effort produced a better result than she could have achieved without expense.

I've personally never been punished for asking "her" to try something that appeals to me.


I said "She will never understand that you can't control what appeals to you and she will punish you for that." She will want you to alter what appeals to you to match what she wants to wear, as if you should be able to do that. Your inability to do that will be presumed to indicate that you don't want to do that, or that you don't care enough to do that, or that you don't care enough at least to fake it. That's what you'll get punished for, if you don't pretend that what she chose to please herself is better for you than what you told her you preferred.

I leave it as that and I keep it moving. But since I generally love lingerie on women, it's hard for me to be dissatisfied.


It isn't a matter of being dissatisfied. It's a matter of having to convince her that you are more satisfied than if she just wore the t-shirt, when really, you aren't, but you could have been, because you told her what you liked and she ignored that because it isn't what she wanted to wear. If the purpose of the lingerie is to look sexy for you and she ignores your preference in favor of what she feels sexy wearing, then she's put you into a situation where nobody wins, unless you can somehow pretend that what she chose was better than the t-shirt option.

But I guess the main thing here is experience and personal tastes. I'm speaking from my own perspectives on both, so that's probably why our opinions differ.


Maybe our opinions don't really differ. Maybe you just didn't understand what I meant.
I know you asked the gals, but I advise you not to waste your time or your money. Men and women both suck at buying lingerie. Prostitutes succeed because they learn financially what sells. Almost all men, consciously or not, buy lingerie to reveal what they want to reveal. Almost all women, consciously or not, buy lingerie to conceal what they want to conceal. The odds of success are infinitessimally small. The dramas involved play out in almost every relationship with the same results. The lingerie goes unworn or the guy acts impressed with something that isn't all that impressive.

A gift certificate lets her waste your money the way she wants to. So if your only goal is to do that, try to act convincingly pleased when she shows it to you. That a better option than buying what you think she'll look good in. That pleases neither of you, because it will sit in the back of her lingerie drawer until the faeries ruin the elastic. If you make the mistake of going shopping with her, try to correctly guess her hints about what she wants to buy and let her buy it. It doesn't matter if it does nothing for you. She will never understand that you can't control what appeals to you and she will punish you for that. You're supposed to give her credit for trying no matter how unsuccessful the result. This is one of those things where a true meeting of the desires is extremely rare. One or the other is sacrificing for the sake of the other. It might as well be the guy, because, let's face it, we can be satisfied with anything that doesn't require a nuclear bomb to get into.
Quote by adele
Not sure about RL at this point, but on here, I have both male and female friends. a few of the guys started out more sexual, but are pretty much platonic at this point. With one, if it goes any further now, it is more a FWB kind of thing. as for women, I have far more I just talk to as friends than those that I do more with


On here, it's easy to have platonic friends. You're not getting other senses involved. You're not seeing them move or hearing their voices or smelling them or touching them. You don't even really know that they're anything like they claim to be. It's all mental. So falling for them is less likely, but still possible. In RL, like in a coworker situation, falling for friends can be impossible to avoid.
Quote by Jack_42
Never went to high school - joined the air force when I was 15 and nearly all of us spent our time being the above definitions of bad boys. Different terminology possible cultural and generationwise too. Seems to me nice guy in this context is some conventional and respectable person yawn. Rather than an adventurous and exciting type. In my my mind you see you can be a socially conventional guy and be a wife beater on the other hand you can be a considerate caring yet risk taking racing driver the latter being in my terms a nice guy.


This sounds like a cultural thing. Two factors are import to the teen girl in English-speaking cultures. The first is her status among her peers, other girls. The second is her relationship to her parents. These two things drive which guys are exciting to her, because the right guy can boost her status and, for many women, be a weapon in her war for independence from her dominant parent or from both parents. So if daddy is the ogre and wouldn't mind his daughter dating a racing driver, that makes racing drivers boring.

Maturing in her choices of who to associate with is often contrary to what turns her on sexually. Some women never become receptive to men who are good for them. Some don't until the men they've been shunning are fed up with women who've been abused emotionally by bad boys and have become unwilling to commit or so pathetic that it takes a saint to tolerate them. That's why Prozac and its descendant anti-depressant drugs are such staples of the drug industry.

Many women will disagree that this description applies to them, but they all know women who it does apply to. It's all a matter of degree. Some never had a war with their parents. Some didn't conform to the peer pressure. But to some degree, almost all of them were influenced by both factors. Guys had their own issues with their peers and parents.
All women are built for sex, so I prefer the more descriptive terms, built for comfort (curvy) and built for speed (petite). Both have their attractions. The woman in your avatar photo looks like a comfortable ride.
Quote by Pat278
When I do start to lick and suck on the dildo she really starts to moan and get really excited. I know I am fucking her but it seems like she is getting excited at seeing me lick and suck the dildo. Would she do that just because she wants me to lick her juices off of it? To a guy like me her excitement tells me something else, but that is why I am asking other women what they think.


It symbolizes something to her, but it might only be a desire to dominate or even penetrate you as opposed to seeing you with another guy. Many women don't want to share their SO with anybody.
Quote by littlemissbitch
usually tho it goes along the lines of "Did your husband buy you that truck?"


That's what passes for a sly way to find out if you're married. ;)
Women who drive trucks get flirted with, especially by working class guys. Driving a truck indicates a lot of good things. Less fussy, more down to earth, more honest, more reliable, more good bitch, less bad bitch, etc.
My sex toy has bigger balls than your sex toy.

I generally see it as someone who will have sex with people without the intent of pursuing long term relationships. No judgement intended.
Slightly but noticeably smaller is completely normal. Almost every woman has that. There's some kind of relationship between which hand is dominant and which boob is smaller, but I don't remember it. It seems to show up most clearly when a woman is in a doggy position and they're dangling. It certainly is not a turn off for me and I don't think even a wide disparity would bother me, but I'm not really a boob man.
Quote by BelleduJour
With the right partner, I fucking love it


It's very intimate and very equalizing. Sexy as hell if you're into that.
What Clu3 said, plus just the responsibility/burden of becoming a surrogate parent if you get into an LTR, especially without full parental privileges.

I once dated a woman who had a 5 year old kid. I had no real concerns about losing her back to her ex-husband, but the idea of stepping into a "ready-made-family" was something I approached with caution. We never got near that far.
Quote by angelaslater
What is "snowballing"?


Holding a glob of semen in your mouth after a bj and dumping it back into the mouth of the guy who gave it to you (or somebody else).
Quote by mazoo
don't see a problem really when lyind down in bed height is irrelevant


Well, the view kind of changes. When a tall guy is having sex with a short woman, eye contact can be difficult and if that's important, adjustments have to be made. But like I said, not a deal breaker.
I heard of a guy who got turned on by smelling farts. Anybody's farts. Even his own. He was supposedly a fart connoisseur and somebody who deliberately ate fart food so he would fart a lot.
Quote by BK_Hottie
I have been married for over 15 years. We enjoy an awesome sex life in which we explore each others fantasies yet he was so embarrassed to reveal his foot fetish to me. He was afraid I was going think he was weirdo. I happen think its awesome that he likes my feet and I use it to my advantage all the time.

What is it about a foot fetish that guys find so embarrassing? Why aren't you equally embarrassed about liking tits or any other part of the body?


I am also curious to know, what makes feet so sexually arousing. I've asked my husband and he can never give me a straight answer. I understand legs, tits and ass being sexually arousing but whats up with feet?




Feet are symbols of power in ways that other body parts aren't. Submissives are forced to worship their "betters" and kissing or licking feet is what the lowliest of the low would be required to do. The gods and goddesses would use their feet to grind mere mortals into the dust, so foot worship became a way to appease them. Sounds like your guy may have a little humiliation thing and that could be too humiliating to admit. You could test that by making him do humiliating things, but that could be playing with fire. How would you feel about him if you learned he enjoyed it?