Some people just get off on fantasizing about (or doing) the naughtiest (or most depraved, disgusting, humiliating, or otherwise extreme) thing they can imagine. If you asked him what the specific motivation is, he might not know, but Freud would probably say "It stems from something that happened in his childhood." and that's probably true. It's a kink and we all have them and some are better left as fantasies, but if your relationship is strong enough, some are worth exploring. I would be pretty worried about the possibilities with that one, because you have an idea of what it means to be a man and it seems like you might think less of him if he went through with that.
Can't complain, and it wouldn't do any good if I could, but mine's pretty good.
Just curious, is your guy smallish? or at least not largish? Presumably you're also doing something with your clit while getting anal. Don't answer if that's too personal.
I just read through this whole thread and Guest sure does give a lot of BJs to strangers. And he keeps repeating that he does.
Tension in interpersonal relationships happens so naturally that as long as you make the relationship realistic, it should be there. Some basic categories are automatically tense. Examples are:
First time/virginity loss
Marital strife/cheating
Reluctance
BDSM
Situational:
Will it happen?
Will it live up to expectation?
Will it cause regret?
Will I get caught doing it?
Hope those help.
Welcome to Lush! I'm sorry to say that your situation sounds terribly unhealthy. It seems unlikely that you'll ever be able to stop withholding your trust, because it has been abused once. You could ride this relationship for whatever benefit you can get from it while looking for another, essentially treating your guy like a FWB until you find someone worthy of your emotional investment, but if you want to be able to date without risking getting caught, it would probably be better to make a break.
Probably window peeping with binoculars from another apartment building. Somebody has to be the voyeur for the exhibitionists, but if any of those women innocently left their curtains open, oh well, they got peeped.
I'm married, so of course I would stop her. But I can hug.
He should try the drugs and keep trying to have sex. Speaking from experience, it's worth it.
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If both her mouth and one of her nipples is available for attention from my mouth, her nipple is usually the place where she gets the most pleasure, after she gets enough kissing. She will almost never want kissing while she's coming.
I have scars, too, so I would be a real shithead if I let a woman's scars bother me. I might even trace them with my finger or lick them to show how much I accepted them. I love it when mine are.
I used to hang with a woman who had a huge set of open heart surgery scars from a wide open chest operation. A long vertical down her centerline from neck to diaphragm and a long horizontal under her breasts. She used to wear a bikini top without letting it bother her. I heard her tell her surgery story several times.
It's very tough to recover from emotional abuse, especially if it happened at a young age. If it goes on long enough, it becomes impossible to trust. If you see any aspect of your abuser in future lovers it makes you hold back. If they know your weaknesses and exploit them, it violates your trust, so sometimes you just have to lay down the list of things they can't do at the risk of losing you. Give them one or two warnings and then move on. Living with someone you can't trust is self-destructive.
I've never been controlled, but I generally hate being controlled in other aspects of my life.
It hasn't happened to me. I don't expect it to.
