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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 68
United States

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Quote by jadirt
Anyone i am attracted to usually is dating someone.


It will always seem like the good ones are taken. As you get older, you learn that what makes someone good for you is a matter of wisdom, not some standard set by others. You learn what you can overlook.

I am shy (scared I think) to ask someone out. How do you know of someone is interested?


Eyes and smiles, questions they ask and answers they give, body language, and how they treat you. If they seem unwelcoming, hold back and look elsewhere. Asking them out is a problem. Asking them to hang out someplace fun for you is different. You're offering a chance to get to know you better either way, but they'll learn more about you where you are comfortable. If they want it fine, if they don't, you have your answer.
If you are sexy without the glasses, you will be more sexy with glasses. As long as they fit your face.
Quote by BelleduJour
My desire to engage in such activities as often as I like to is completely fuelled by my desire to be fully and completely connected with my partner and not just a means to having an orgasm.


I don't think it's healthy to be 'completely connected' too often, like the expression 'joined at the hip'. Guys are often more introverted than women and spending too much time together, even good quality time, can be emotionally draining. Women sometimes use guys as a crutch because they don't have other interests to fill their time with. Sometimes they take it personally when a guy doesn't want to be with them 24/7 and that's really not fair to someone who needs to spend time in his own head pursuing other interests. One of the reasons many guys appreciate 'independence' in a woman is so they can have the time they need apart from their SO. This is just my 2 cents, but that might be part of this 'too much sex' issue. It might not be too much sex, it might be too little freedom.
Quote by MrsCorne
Is talking on here cheating?


If your spouse did it, would you consider it cheating?
Quote by Dudealicious


Or the loss of your job, family and favorite pet!


Good points. In a broad sense of the word, injury covers those, but they deserve special mention.
Here's to a lady who really puts the ass in classy.
Quote by ashflower
I used to never have problems getting wet. Now I am in a monogamous seriosu relationship and I have issues getting wet. Ofcourse we do not do alot of foreplay, which could be part of the problem how do I get my guy to want longer foreplay where it is not always about sucking his cock?


Getting him to want longer foreplay could be a problem. Getting him to provide longer foreplay, long enough for you to get wet, depends on whether he wants to please you enough. I would suggest that getting you wet before you'll suck his cock might be an incentive.
When it's causing injury, exhaustion or unhappiness.
Quote by a wise woman
you need to make sure that you're putting yourself out there in terms of meeting people. Just be yourself and when you find a girl you like, let her know that you like her. Don't worry about being a virgin, just take things slowly and let things happen.


And if that doesn't work, you could try auctioning it on Ebay.
Quote by AbigailThornton
I'm sure that I could smuggle a mini-mars bar in my bikini bottoms if need be, so I don't think it'd be a problem.


I once had a set of cheap eating utensils that had turned wooden handles. One of my ex-roommates was desperate enough to put three spoon handles together, throw a condom over them and use it for a dildo. She said it worked.
Don't be afraid to try getting her off first with your hand or tongue or both and then have intercourse for your satisfaction. Plenty of women can't get off by penetration alone. Having an orgasm with nothing more than penetration is more the exception than the rule.
Quote by DakotaKid
Anyone else care to answer my question or Is it too fun to argue?


Based on an entirely non-scientific survey of pictorial porn, I would say that less than one in 10,000 clits qualify as "big" (enough to be noticed in a swim suit). So asking about them on a site like this is asking for a ridiculously small number of qualified answerers, like possibly zero. Subtract from that, those who would not come out of the closet about something so personal, and you may get a negative number, but then you could add those who would lie intentionally and inflate their statistics plus those who might be confused and think "well, mine's pretty big" even though it really isn't, and you still might not get a taker.

I have seen where some women use suction devices to temporarily inflate their body parts, including clits, but I haven't seen that practice mentioned here.
I wouldn't say hide your feelings, but hold them back. You're only deeply in love with an ideal of her. If you confess your love to her and she deposits you in the friend zone, you'll find out the difference. Invite her someplace where you want to be. If she's interested in being with you, she'll go. If she doesn't go, look elsewhere unless she makes a positive move toward you.
Quote by HayleyHollyGrace
Alan loves me so much he want's to share my name and look like me sometimes. Getting him a wig of my hairstyle for him made. He is willing to take part in my games and we both enjoy every minute


I would be seriously concerned about the possible consequences of letting that kind of think go on. It sounds like obsession.
If it's okay for your boyfriend to always have a backup girl, then it's okay for you to always have a backup guy. The backups have a responsibility to look out for their own best interest, but if you're false to them, you'll deserve certain consequences.
Quote by menarealwaysignorged

All the more reason one shouldn't be in that type of relationship to begin with


What one should or shouldn't do is not something I would take your advice on. You've offered nothing to recommend yourself as a good source of relationship advice. I've got over twenty-five years of marriage experience. That has included learning when to bend, when to put the foot down, when to demand, and how to draw something worthwhile from a situation that is often far less than ideal for either of us. What life experiences do you have to offer? A set of failed relationships because you just didn't know how to pick 'em?
Quote by HayleyHollyGrace
Is this normal?


Probably not. Most people probably don't know whether they know a cross dresser who hides his cross dressing. So just knowing one makes your situation abnormal. But what's really the issue here is whether flirting is normal (yes), whether you've crossed the line into cheating (unknown) and whether bicurious feelings are normal (yes).

If you've done something you wouldn't tell your husband about, you may have crossed the line. If you've done something that you would feel was cheating if you discovered your husband had done it, then you probably have crossed the line.
It would hurt if, for some reason, I could no longer communicate with some of the personalities I've met here. So, yes.
Quote by Shylass


is this a lifestyle thing? It reads like the OP is treating the lad like a female doll. Is that right?


That would be two lifestyle things. he crossdresses and he obeys commands, both for his gratification and if he finds a willing Domme, for hers too. I think it's basically harmless and I wish them both happiness.
A lot of desirable healthy stuff grows there. Think about it. A lush garden. A lush forest. A lush lawn. A lush valley. A lush community.
I've never caught my wife cheating, but if I did, I might keep it secret while I planned and executed my exit strategy. There's no way that I could know, but I think it's kind of a one strike and you're out situation for me.
Quote by CenterLine
I've said it once, twice, too many times to count. I will continue, though. Not all guys are anything.


You really don't have to continue. People are going to generalize and they understand that their generalization doesn't apply to every member of a given population. It's okay to generalize when a generalization is generally true and it's repetitive to see the same statistical outliers repeatedly point out that there are statistical outliers. But if you want to continue because you get something out of being repetitive, that's fine. It won't really serve any other purpose, but that's not a requirement.

I like lesbians because I share some interesting common interests with them.
This might work better as a poll in The Think Tank, but you've asked two different questions, one about disallowing and the other about monitoring. Either would be a violation of freedom of association and would be practically unenforceable.
It's covered by insurance in the US and (I'm pretty sure) not covered by the NHS in the UK.
If you live near a naval base, you might hear, "Nice guns." Being compared to a warship apparently isn't a bad thing.
Does having sex with people without the intent to attempt an LTR with them mean they're slutty? Probably. Is that a bad thing? It wouldn't stop me from attempting to have an LTR with them. It doesn't say that they wouldn't be faithful in an LTR. It only says that they're not that fussy when they're not in an LTR. And who but a persnickity person could blame them for that.

I can understand why guys who are image conscious might not want an LTR with the town pump, but if the town pump has enough attractive qualities, isn't that really what matters?
Quote by HighDesert
And for those that are... I am a little disappointed that my mother and father made the decision to do that to me. Do you feel the same? Do you not give it any thought? Do you think it is an advantage or disadvantage for any reason?


I guess that I'm disappointed about a lot of the choices my parents made on my behalf, including that one, but I don't give it much thought. I kind of got used to it about 55 years ago. I think it might be a disadvantage in that I think it might contribute to hypersensitivity which could result in premature ejaculation when I was younger.
My guess is that she is more relaxed because she's less distracted by the events of the day. Also, her stomach won't be digesting food so there's more blood available. And there's less tendency to fall asleep during the afterglow, so there's a sense that you're starting the day off romantically.