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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 68
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The woman of my dreams is nobody that I've ever seen except in dreams. If I could be 25 years younger for this magic night, I would be about her age and we would spend the time we had connecting deeply on every level we could in that time. We would use all of our senses and converse and pleasure each other at the limits of our abilities.
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Quote by 0PrincessX0
What can a woman do to turn you on the most?
Walk around in thigh highs and CFM shoes and nothing else and pretend she's not trying to turn me on.
Are there any normal day-to-day activities that you find a woman doing particularly sexy? E.g. ironing, washing the car etc...
Just about anything where she's standing and I can come up behind her and wrap my arms around her. That includes cooking and dish washing.
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I have a thing against body modification for cosmetic reasons. It even extends to nail polish, obvious makeup, and tattoos. I overlook it easily, but with breast augmentation, it would be harder to overlook. It screams lack of something. In most cases, probably lack of self-confidence.
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
In general though I've found that men initially rebound faster with sex/flings/fuckbuddies, but women 'get over' their exes faster than men.
This seems accurate, but I think women are generally more prone to "swearing off" all men for a while after being hurt by one. I haven't known any guy who said, "I give up. No more women." I've known a few women who have. I'm not saying there aren't any men who are like that, but we're more prone to hunt and women are more prone to evade, especially when injured.
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Quote by CenterLine
I was once at a dinner party where we all worked on the preparation. One guy forgot to wash his hands during the entire time between chopping these bizarre experimental hybrid peppers and and fingering his girlfriend. She was in the shower for about two hours with a cold sprayer crying. It would have been the saddest thing ever if she hadn't been able to find it as funny as most of the jerks who were at that party.
Pepper juice can be pretty bad even without being bizarre experimental and hybrid. Something about honey calms it down much better than cold water. Might be the vitamin E.
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On the practical level, I think it's easier for women. Generally speaking, all a woman has to do is be available and somebody will hit on them. There's often someone who's been waiting for her to available again. Guys will often not hesitate about starting up with a woman who's just become available, but women will.
On the emotional level, I think it's easier for men, assuming they're not the obsessive type.
It might depend on whether/who got dumped. "Once bitten, twice shy" applies to either gender. The person who calls it quits generally emerges with greater emotional strength and that makes it easier to act with confidence and attract someone else. Of course the reason for calling it quits might matter. Lessons learned can result in reluctance to get involved.
On the emotional level, I think it's easier for men, assuming they're not the obsessive type.
It might depend on whether/who got dumped. "Once bitten, twice shy" applies to either gender. The person who calls it quits generally emerges with greater emotional strength and that makes it easier to act with confidence and attract someone else. Of course the reason for calling it quits might matter. Lessons learned can result in reluctance to get involved.
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Quote by sweetaz
The last sentence pretty much somes it up ... stupid! Off to the doctors you should both go to get some medical advice. To answer your question anything that touched my pussy was meant to be there!
And people wonder why the cost of healthcare is so high. If the pain goes away with time and there's no obvious burn or rash, there's no need for a trip to the clinic. You know what the cause was and unless you really are stupid you won't do that again. And I'd be surprised if there was a woman in the US who hadn't heard of Vagisil.
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What would you want your partner to do in a situation like that? I find that if I try very hard to not have a double standard, that will often guide me to a choice. If you would want your partner to have the fling to see if it gets out of his system, then go for it.
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Quote by MMonroe
Well im not going to say it here because it will make me sound like im making excuses for him but i know now why we didnt meet up. I dont want to stop seeing him, i just want to be ok with the casualness of it, not feel like im worth nothing when we cant meet up
It sounds like you're saying that you became satisfied after the disappointment that he wasn't uninterested, that unfortunate circumstances intervened. If that's the case, then you don't want to seem too clingy by demanding that he let you know in advance if he can't make it to a casual rendezvous, but of course it causes insecurity if he doesn't, because it might indicate uninterest. One good session with him will erase all that insecurity, so leave yourself open to that as long as you accept that he's interested.
As to what would help you be ok with the casualness of it and not feel worthless when he doesn't show up, another source of feeling good is probably the key to keeping it casual.
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Quote by karebare09
Oh, I am definitely satisfied, its my partner who wishes for more.. I think because we are getting older and thinks don't work quite the way they used to...
Yep, getting older sucks, but it beats the alternative. Even with Viagra, he may get/stay hard a lot more but not come. Insecurity can cause a guy to feel he needs to prove his masculinity by having lots of orgasms. There's no biological reason for having lots of orgasms in a short time with one woman, because sperm production drops off. Letting him know that he's virile enough for you might sooth anxiety over aging.
I recall a study that indicated that access to more women inspires more male orgasms. In other words, being able to spread the genes more does something that causes more horniness and more semen production and more ejaculation. So if you bring a second woman into the mix, it could produce a burst of unusual activity. That wouldn't mean he finds her more emotionally attractive than you, it's just how evolution maximizes reproductivity.
Interesting theory about gang ...
Apparently the topic of sex attracts a lot of speculation and research.
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Quote by sexi_virgin25
Is it me or the whole male population is slowly turning gay by the generation? I bet within a 100 years every male on the face of the planet will be gay.
Gay? Probably not. Less narrow-minded? Maybe. More adventurous? Possibly. Less constrained by "conventional wisdom"? Hopefully. More accepting of individuality? That would be nice.
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Quote by Kimasa
Reality: In the real world you and I would initially be attracted to the same person we chose when they were all naked but now we’re all dressed (damn it). Your blonde with the big tits is a complete airhead who thinks that the Leaning Tower of Pisa is in Venice and J Edgar Hoover invented he vacuum cleaner.
My hunk with the intimidating appendage can name the Super Bowl winners in reverse order from 2012, The New York Giants, back to 1967, The Green Bay Packers and reckons his next car will be a Ferrari because he’s already bored of the Porsche he bought last month.
After circulating and holding conversations with the other guys I would make a different choice based on many other attributes that fascinate me and I hope you would too.
Damn! That is one of the smartest answers I've ever seen to this question. Basically you're saying that, if first impressions come from a nude lineup you think with fewer parts of your brain than if first impressions include those that come from conversation. Which just seems true, because a nude lineup is just about sex while a conversation is about emotional and intellectual compatibility. That's when first impressions based on surface level criteria are overcome.
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I have never been with a guy who could perforn more than twice in an evening. If there is any one with tips about how to help a guy to climax more than once or twice, I would love to know.
Get with a younger guy. Most of us are quite satisfied with one or two in an evening. Those who want more are common, but those who need more in order to feel fulfilled are possibly dangerously obsessed.
There is an evolutionary theory that women are multiorgasmic as a coping mechanism for gang sex. Men who raided villages would gang the women and if the men weren't satisfied after one or two, the survival rate of the women and the men would decrease.
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Maybe a moderator will move this to somewhere else, but in the meantime, experimentation is about pushing outside of your comfort zone into realms you think you or your partner might enjoy. Sex in risky places might light your fire. Exhibitionism is risky. Anal sounds like an option. Whatever seems naughtier than what you're used to.
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For those who say no, because it's something that somebody else calls you, I can see that point of view, but you could also say the same for a woman who calls herself a doll or an angel or cute or pretty or anything that is in the eye of the beholder and not the beheld. Same for a guy who calls himself a self-serving name and there's a lot of those around.
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I think if there's evidence to back up the claim, like a MILF badge or something that got legitimately awarded by a person (man or woman) the same approximate age as the mother's children, then adding MILF to a screen name is legit. It doesn't have to be an actual badge, but I could see a market in offering to award one. ;)
Stifler's Mom deserves one.
Stifler's Mom deserves one.