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Well, that might be a way out of going back to school.
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Over 90 days ago
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When reliable hormonal birth control was invented, women became liberated from a lot of risk and asserted rights more readily as a result of being less dependent on men. That liberated men, too. I open doors for women and often men now, but if a woman gets to a door first and doesn't hold it for me, I think she's inconsiderate and I'm less likely to respect her as a person. I thank anyone who opens or holds a door for me. I have this thing against entitled attitudes.
As the stronger person, I will be a beast of burden. As the taller person, I will reach higher and do the tasks where height is a benefit. As the person with back problems, I will generally stay out of a kitchen because they're designed for shorter people. I will do most tasks that require problem solving knowledge and abilities that are uncommon among traditionally raised females (e.g. auto mechanics). I won't pay for everything because our finances are mutualized by marriage. I won't do all the driving. I will offer my coat when she's chilly. I won't order dinner for her. I will taste the wine first because she expects that. I will do some things just to avoid a ration of crap from her and other things because society still gives women a raw deal in some respects, but I have a fairly low tolerance for almost everything that smacks of entitled "respect" or deference due to gender. I try to resist male entitlement as much as I resist female entitlement. So feminists get a little of what they want and self-entitled traditionalists get a little of what they want and I get a little respect as a person.
As the stronger person, I will be a beast of burden. As the taller person, I will reach higher and do the tasks where height is a benefit. As the person with back problems, I will generally stay out of a kitchen because they're designed for shorter people. I will do most tasks that require problem solving knowledge and abilities that are uncommon among traditionally raised females (e.g. auto mechanics). I won't pay for everything because our finances are mutualized by marriage. I won't do all the driving. I will offer my coat when she's chilly. I won't order dinner for her. I will taste the wine first because she expects that. I will do some things just to avoid a ration of crap from her and other things because society still gives women a raw deal in some respects, but I have a fairly low tolerance for almost everything that smacks of entitled "respect" or deference due to gender. I try to resist male entitlement as much as I resist female entitlement. So feminists get a little of what they want and self-entitled traditionalists get a little of what they want and I get a little respect as a person.
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It seems to me that both guys and especially both gals acted pretty immature. If it was that easy to lose a gal to another guy, that's not the gal for me and I would walk away from that mess long before it became violent. Then there would be two immature gals fighting over one immature guy's tool. Then again, based on the gal's apparent lack of intelligence, I wouldn't be with her in the first place.
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Quote by SexySofie
Maybe I'm just a simple Brit girl who knows not a lot - yet somehow I don't think that's right either. Just wish and hope someone will explain to me what exactly is meant by the word 'cuckolding'. Is it derived from the cuckoo ... a bird who by habit and possibly parental laziness lays its egg in another birds nest thus avoiding the work and perils of motherhood? Or is it an American expression, coz I've never heard it used in UK.
A little google goes a long way.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold
Cuckold derives from the cuckoo bird, alluding to the alleged habit of the female bird in changing its mate frequently and authentic practice of laying its eggs in other nests within its community[2]. The association is common in medieval folklore, literature, and iconography. The original old English was "kukewold". It was borrowed from Old French "cuccault", which was made up of "cuccu" (old French for the cuckoo bird itself) plus the pejorative suffix – "ault", indicating the named person was being taken advantage of as by a cuckoo bird.
In medieval literature, the "kukewold" was almost universally scorned instead of the adulterous wife, they were viewed as worthless due to their physical stature and somehow at fault for the adulterous act. The word was chosen in an attempt to connote scorn.
Usage first appears about 1250 in the satirical and polemical poem "The Owl and the Nightingale" (l. 1544). The term was clearly regarded as embarrassingly direct, as evident in John Lydgate’s "Fall of Princes" (ca. 1440).
The female equivalent cuckquean first appears in English literature in 1562, adding a female suffix to the "cuck"; Wittol, which substitutes "wete" (meaning witting or knowing) for the first part of the word, first appears in 1520 and means a man aware of and reconciled to his wife's infidelity (in contrast to a cuckold, who by the original definition had been deceived by his wife).
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Sometimes a little google goes a long way.
http://www.benwaballs.net/
Invented hundreds of years ago, Ben Wa Balls were made to enhance sexual stimulation and to exercise the kegel muscles. Still popular to this day, Ben Wa Balls have been one of women's favorite items to use. Now they come in many varieties and variations called Duotone Balls and Kegel Balls. People also refer these kind of products as Ben Wah Balls, Pleasure Balls, Orgasm Balls, Love Balls, and Smart Balls.
http://www.benwaballs.net/
Invented hundreds of years ago, Ben Wa Balls were made to enhance sexual stimulation and to exercise the kegel muscles. Still popular to this day, Ben Wa Balls have been one of women's favorite items to use. Now they come in many varieties and variations called Duotone Balls and Kegel Balls. People also refer these kind of products as Ben Wah Balls, Pleasure Balls, Orgasm Balls, Love Balls, and Smart Balls.
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So do you think there are alot of married women with secret girlfriends?
I don't think it's that common. It would appear common from the profiles on this site, but take that for what it's worth. There might be a lot of married women cybering with women secretly, but then again those might actually both be guys pretending to be women.
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Quote by Kimasa
Can you do this or know how it's done?
If you can, please explain how you achieve it physically and mentally.
For me, it's always been a matter of stopping before the PoNR (point of no return). I did it by stopping all stimulation. ignoring whatever stimulation is naturally there from her and thinking thought that disrupted, like doing arithmetic in my head or thinking about what I'm going to plant in next year's garden. As I got older, it would sometimes cause me to lose the erection and sometimes it wouldn't come back for a normal recharge interval, so it wasn't worth it.
Hope that helps.
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I really don't see the parallel to necrophilia. It's more like masturbation using something she voluntarily supplied, which is within her rights. But I don't think I would do it at a time when she was incapable of reasoned consent, like passed out drunk. Sleeping? I don't know. If I believed she really wouldn't mind, then maybe, because she might feel complimented at being so irresistible.
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Sometimes when I get aroused it's like a little ticking (pulse probably) right behind(inside) the clit area.
And if I don't get stimulated and keep getting aroused it's like a hunger feeling growing in the area.
(You know when it feels like your body is trying to suck in the air through your skin.)
Do you get that sort of feelings on the inside?
Yes, those feelings seem very accurate. Not like an itch that needs to be scratched. More like an bellyache that needs to be rubbed.
To disconnect the internal from the external for a moment, the external feels like something is crawling around in your pants. Like if you didn't know from the internal sensations that it was growing, you would swear it was a warm blooded creature of some sort rolling around. But the internal sensations are a pleasant swelling in addition to what you described above. You want to hump it against something but you also want it to fully unfurl. It doesn't feel terrible uncomfortable if it stays tightly constrained, but if you give it any slack you can't take it back or it will hurt.
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My wife likes romance novels, which can get fairly racy, but fall short of what you read here. She doesn't want to read anything more explicit, but they can make her dynamo hum. Google Mean Bitches and there's a website about romance novels. If the James book is too hot for her, try something more soppy.
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I think it can, because age related physical issues come up or in some case fail to come up when you want them to. Male sexual performance can drop off quickly, especially when passes 50, so with your 10+ years of age difference, you would need to be understanding and supportive at a time when you might resent it. So you have to think of something called emotional age. At some point, you may have to act more mature than you want to. Until then, it's really a matter of emotional compatibility.
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Kimasa, I'm going to get a little technical. I don't have an emotional urge to thrust into a woman's mouth nor do I have an emotional urge to thrust into my own hand while masturbating. When my body gets taken over by orgasm, it does thrust unless I consciously override it, which I do if she is not in a position to back away. I'm not emotionally interested in causing unwanted gagging. She'll sense my thrusts and ride them to her level of comfort.
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Should I be direct about asking to get involved physically or work my way into it such as getting together sometime and go from there?
I see this working out much better as physical and not romance, and I just want to do it right.
Letting her know that you're not looking for a commitment might be just the thing that will bring her around. Just tell her that you're available to fill any blank pages in her little black book.
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Since you aren't married and you know about it, all that's important is whether you want to put up with it. You're morally justified in looking elsewhere, or not. If you're planning on staying with her but looking elsewhere, put her on notice that she's a fuck buddy and not a girlfriend.