AudriNichols's Forum Posts | Lush Stories

Join the best erotica focused adult social network now

AudriNichols

Over 90 days ago

Straight Female

United States

Profile Stories

Forum

15 Jul 2014

Quote by fantasylady
Every so often, I suffer from writers block. I can feel it coming. I open up my laptop. I want to write and then, nothing. I have ideas but cannot put the detail in. It gets so frustrating.

A couple of years ago, I didn't write for nearly a year. I had no desire to even open my laptop. I got out of it by continually reading books and stories, until I felt I just had to start writing again.

How do you get out of writers block?

Thanks

Abi

I get writers block most often when I try too hard to write "the perfect story". That never ever happens in the first draft anyway, so remember, writing is supposed to be fun. Just relax and don't try so hard, and it will come back.

I find stream of consciousness writing helps. Set a timer and spend ten minutes just writing something. Anything. It doesn't matter what it is, or how bad it is. The act of writing will get your juices flowing.

Sometimes I use writing prompts. I find that they spark my creativity to write something totally silly. Then, when the cobwebs clear, I can write something else.

15 Jul 2014

Your comments are clearly there for all to see that you are the one who started this "debate" when you made the assumption that I hate all men. You were wrong. I've asked you to stop repeatedly and you childishly refuse to. Refusing to do so says more about you than what you continue to suggest about me. You don't seem to comprehend that this is OVER. Now, for the last time, STOP. That would be the "adult" thing to do.

15 Jul 2014

I think there are probably quite a few people (whether they admit it or not) that would be curious about what it would be like to be with someone with both male and female parts. I suppose some might think it's weird, but every fantasy is different, and what turns people on is completely personal. If that is what works for you, great. It's not weird to be curious. I think that curiosity is healthy and natural, and is at the root of many people's sexual fantasies.

15 Jul 2014

No, it's disgusting. Huge turn off.

15 Jul 2014

Quote by sprite

you'll like it. trust me. and then, when you like it, it will break your heart, again and again.

Hmm...I've only seen the first three episodes. Now I'm wondering if it would be better not to watch it at all. LOL

15 Jul 2014

I've never heard of it, although I'm not a huge fan. I read the books and saw the movies, but it wasn't that amazing to me. (I know, I know, not what you want to hear right?) Sorry.

15 Jul 2014

Quote by Buz
Fargo
The Walking Dead
Justified
and I'm in mourning that they canceled Burn Notice.

Burn Notice was awesome!

15 Jul 2014

I recently started watching Game of Thrones. I'm not sure I like it or not.

15 Jul 2014

I will watch Disney movies over and over again. I've lost count of how many times I've seen The Lion King.

15 Jul 2014

Quote by dpw

Just be careful who you call a troll, I suggest you read the rules on posting in the forums.
My only arguement with you is the bias you showed against men, that's all. You certainly aren't the only person that has a gender bias, and yes, there are guys that do the same!
I just pointed out that using and being used is not gender specific. Nor is there proof that one gender is more guilty than the other.

And you completely ignored it when I said women do it too and the fact that I do actually have respect for men. Which is true. I'm not some feminist man hating she banshee, but you wouldn't actually know that because you don't know a damn thing about me. You just made an assumption and got pissed off about your own assumption. I guess that wasn't good enough to please you because you, continued to argue with me, ignoring everything I said in an effort to end this bullshit, demanding I justify my opinion, and then threw a fit when you didn't like my answer. Then resorted to calling me a child when I said enough was enough and to get the fuck over it. I feel really sorry for you. You must not have anything better to do with your life than to start shit in online forums. I am done with your bullshit. Now, for the last time, stop harassing me and get a life.

15 Jul 2014

Quote by Unlaw
I love the great debate between dpw and Audri... It was very articulate and intelligent with two opposing sides. I was really enjoying it...dpw, you really crack me up in the forums. I have to say you won this debate hands down. Audri...you were doing well until you used the ``don`t like it, get over it defense`` it didn`t work and it cheapened your debate...

As for my opinion, because I do have one...I use everyone on this site and any others I frequent, just as I am used...until I meet an actual live person in the flesh, how do any of us actually know we are dealing with the very person someone claims to be...I therefore believe we are all used to some extent...

What you lost in being in an online relationship with this male (if in fact the person was a male) was any emotional value you put in as well as your time given to pursue the relationship.

Take it as a lesson learned, time to move on because your online `friend`has...

LOL I haven't "lost" anything. I am simply choosing to ignore the childish name calling and tired insults. Bullying doesn't work on me.
I've got better things to do with my life than entertain fools who have nothing better to do than to troll forums trying to pick fights.

14 Jul 2014

Yes, I know the paper I wrote is outdated. But I guess you all conveniently missed the part of my post when I said

Since more and more people are dating online these days, it's safe to say it's probably happening more frequently than ever before.

Seriously people, I gave an opinion. That's it. Don't like it? Get over it.

13 Jul 2014

Quote by dpw

I've never disappeared, although some wish I would, lol.
It is easier, cowardly but easier to just disappear. For both men and women!
Why would you say "not every woman is a crazy stalker", who said they were?
Again, you mention "a lot of men", how do you quantify that? Some men, yes. So are some women.

I suggest you go back and read your own comments. You were the one who implied that women online are stalkers, and somehow that is what makes it okay for men to just disappear without explanation.

I actually wrote a psychology paper on the phenomena of internet relationships about twelve years ago. I based my paper on my own personal experiences, the experiences of almost all of my friends and family, and the thousands of men and women I've talked to online all over the world. More than half the men I've asked admit to doing the "slow fade" or disappearing all together as their preferred method of internet "breakup". When I asked guys at my college, they admitted to doing in IRL too. Hundreds and probably thousands of men admitted it. I'd say that qualifies as "a lot". I've lost count of how many over the years, but since more and more people are dating online these days, it's safe to say it's probably happening more frequently than ever before. When I ask them why, the majority of them basically said something along the lines of "I didn't want to deal with her emotions." or "What's the point? It's not real anyway."

I don't know why you are continuing to make an issue of this. The OP asked if a man used her. Given her description of the events, I answered her question with my personal opinion, which has nothing to do with you. My opinions aren't going to change just because you choose to be offended. Get over it. I will not debate this any further.

13 Jul 2014

Quote by dpw

When you use terms like "most men" and "a lot of guys", you sound as if you're blaming males for the ills of the world. I was merely pointing out that it can happen both ways.
If you had said "perhaps he didn't have the balls to break up", that would be fine, instead you chose to say "not a lot of guys have the balls to break up"! A touch anti male, don't you think?

And you said that it's "often easier to disappear" which only supports my point. Even you, a man who claims you've never had a bad experience online, admits that it's easier to not say anything at all. It's easier to disappear. Easier for who exactly? Where does that mentality come from?

Break ups are hard, whether it is in person or online. What makes it worse is just disappearing without a word. Not saying anything at all is just lazy and cowardly. How hard is it to write a 30 second email and say "It's not working out. I want to break up. Goodbye." It's a whole ten words. Not every woman is a crazy stalker either, so that is no excuse.

Whether you want to admit it or not, a lot of men DO treat women like that, especially online. By the way, I'm not "anti-male". I actually have a lot of respect for men. I have even more respect for the ones who have the balls to communicate like adults.

12 Jul 2014

Quote by dpw

And this never happens the other way round?
It's a byproduct of the transient nature of online relationships. There is rarely any foundation to them, they are built on sand. Both parties are using each other to fill a void in their real life.
With the rise in cyber stalking, it's often safer to disappear. I'd like to think that I wouldn't do it, but I've never had anything bad happen to me online.
There's too little information to give a definitive answer, we can merely give suppositions

I never said the same thing doesn't happen the other way around. It does. However, the OP was specifically speaking of a man she had met and felt abandoned by.

11 Jul 2014

A lot of guys will string a girl along, pretending to be more interested than they actually are, until one of two things happens.

1. They gave them what they wanted all along. Usually a cyber session.
2. You set a boundary with them and they don't like it.

Most men see women as something of a challenge they must conquer in some way. When you make it clear to them that you aren't that "easy" or they think they already have, they will either do the "slow fade" or disappear completely. Yes, it sounds as if he used you. Not a lot of guys have the balls to actually "break up" in person. When everything is done online, they don't even send an email to explain themselves. It's easier for them not to, so they don't bother. They don't see it as a real relationship, so they just disappear.

9 Jul 2014

Racism exists because people are too stupid to realize color doesn't mean a damn thing. Black, White, Yellow, Blue, Green or Polka Dotted...who cares? There is only one race. THE HUMAN RACE.

If you treat people with common decency, they should treat you the same in return, no matter what color your skin happens to be. However, if you treat people like shit, don't expect them to want to be around you. If you are arrogant, cruel and rude to others, just know people have better things to do than put up with your attitude. That doesn't make them racist, it just makes you an ass.

I've never not been with someone because of the color of their skin, but I have turned down people who acted like an ass.

8 Jul 2014

Quote by sarahxbunny

I agree with Jen070 - great reply. Must be a professional!

No, I'm not a professional (I assume you meant counselor).
To me, it's just common sense.
There shouldn't be secrets between a couple, because it only breeds lies, resentment and mistrust.
If you really care for someone, and you care about your relationship with them, you cherish it, and protect it.
Not do things to deliberately destroy your relationship. Keeping secrets, lies and cheating destroys relationships.

4 Jul 2014

Cheating doesn't have to be just sexual. If you have a relationship with someone else (sexual or not), and keeping it secret from your partner, you are cheating. Period. People only keep secrets when they know they are doing something they shouldn't be.

If you think you have to justify keeping secrets with an excuse, and aren't really doing anything wrong, then prove it. If you aren't cheating then there is no reason to hide it from your partner. Tell them, and ask them if they think you are cheating.

2 Jul 2014

I can't stand any Jenifer Aniston, Evan Rachael Wood, Anna Faris, Jennifer Tilly, Helena Bonham Carter, Johnny Depp, Mike Meyers, Charlie Sheen, Hugh Grant, Jim Carey, Adam Sandler, Seth Rogan, or Will Ferral movie.

I don't like any of the cheesy creature features where there is some genetically altered/ freakishly large critter eating people.

2 Jul 2014

I prefer to be the one behind the camera, not in front of it. I've taken nudes of people before.

2 Jul 2014

It's not something I've ever done. My man's hands are literally twice the size of mine. So it's not likely that I will ever do that, but it's not exactly a turn off either.

2 Jul 2014

Nope. I'm in a relationship not a group meeting.

1 Jul 2014

Quote by SixtyMinuteMan

Yeah. And when that happens it's inevitably 4000 words of snappy, clever dialogue that you love so much it makes you cry to cut it. Find yourself thinking things like "Look, this story can be like one of those French movies where it's just two characters sitting at a table for an hour chatting over wine. And then they fuck. People will like that, right?"

I wiped a whole scene in my most recent story because while I just loved the dialogue, it was after the first sexual encounter and just completely stopped the tension leading up to the big finale. I had to pour myself a glass of wine before I could cut it.

Most of my characters dialogue is just stupid...but maybe I'm my own worst critic. I once cut down a 24,000+ word story down to less than 5,000 words because it was full of crappy dialogue. It was a painful edit, and I did it sober. In hindsight, I could have taken advantage of a bottle of wine that night. Perhaps you can use that bit of writing in another story?

1 Jul 2014

Quote by SixtyMinuteMan

Amen. Sometimes I walk around the house actually saying my dialogue out loud to hear how it sounds. Writing a casual conversation that seems light and witty and genuine is one of the hardest things to do.

Another thing I struggle with is when my characters sort of take over the story and I have to try to stay out of what I call Dialogue Hell...in which I have characters who will drag a conversation on and on. I can't get them to shut up. So I will have ten pages of basically nothing but dialogue that gives my inner editor fits, but my characters are happy...ugh.

1 Jul 2014

I am a monogamous person, so if my man were with another woman, he would be cheating on me and it would be over between us. I would expect him to react the same way if he saw me with another man.

1 Jul 2014

My breasts.

1 Jul 2014

Yes, a long time ago, in high school, but not since then.

1 Jul 2014

My man respects me more than that, so I don't have to worry about being pimped out to pay off his debts. I wouldn't be with a man who thought it was acceptable to treat me like that.

1 Jul 2014

You know, its funny, I don't really remember all that much about it, accept that my jaw hurt, so it wasn't as much fun as I thought it would be. But the guy turned out to be a colossal jerk, so I think over the years I just blocked things out.