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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
Canada
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Unless your partner has been living under a rock or has lived by some moral and/or religious code, there are bound to be other lovers so it's better to just learn to deal with it. As long as those past lovers are in the past, who cares? If a relationship is built on honesty and trust, there shouldn't be an issues. And besides, I think it's healthy to feel a bit of jealousy - it's what keeps us on our toes after all 
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LOVE it! A nice change of 'scenery' (LOL!!). All other senses are definitely heightened when you take away site and that can make for an insane encounter.
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Quote by atltennispro
strangers - no;
one new acquaintance where the chemistry is so interesting - wild horses couldn't tear me away
I might have to agree on this one.
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There is no rhyme or reason to any of it at all. I've seen couples get married after only a couple of months of meeting or because they got pregnant and wanted to do the right thing who have all stayed married and happy. Then there are those couples that started out as high school sweethearts, grew up together, probably lost their virginities to one another and who have seen and experienced a lifetime together already who decide that marriage was the next natural step only to split up before the ink has dried on the marriage certificate.
Break-ups are just part of life and heartache, provided you actually felt something for your partner, is inevitable but it's not a death sentence either. Life goes on no matter what. The key is to learn from past experiences, stay open and always be grateful for the good times - there must have been good times if you ended up together in the first time, right?
Bottom line is doing what feels comfortable and right to you. If that means marrying once or following in the steps of Elizabeth Taylor or remaining steadfastly opposed to marriage just on principal alone, whatever floats your boat. Life is too short not to find your little piece of happiness no matter how that might take form.
Break-ups are just part of life and heartache, provided you actually felt something for your partner, is inevitable but it's not a death sentence either. Life goes on no matter what. The key is to learn from past experiences, stay open and always be grateful for the good times - there must have been good times if you ended up together in the first time, right?
Bottom line is doing what feels comfortable and right to you. If that means marrying once or following in the steps of Elizabeth Taylor or remaining steadfastly opposed to marriage just on principal alone, whatever floats your boat. Life is too short not to find your little piece of happiness no matter how that might take form.
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I'm a fan of the Brazilian method but prefer to leave it in the hands of the professional.
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I've thought about this on several occasions mainly because my son has asked me.
Thankfully, I'm not completely jaded and still believe in modified happily-ever-afters. As far as remarrying again, personally speaking, I don't think I would go to the trouble the second time around. That's not to say I don't believe in monogamy or commitment or even common-law because I do but to go to the trouble and pageantry of getting married again all for a piece of paper is definitely NOT necessary for me. A commitment is a commitment and I don't need a notarized sheet of paper proving anything to anyone.
At the same time, never say never BUT it would take one INCREDIBLE man to make me rethink things
Thankfully, I'm not completely jaded and still believe in modified happily-ever-afters. As far as remarrying again, personally speaking, I don't think I would go to the trouble the second time around. That's not to say I don't believe in monogamy or commitment or even common-law because I do but to go to the trouble and pageantry of getting married again all for a piece of paper is definitely NOT necessary for me. A commitment is a commitment and I don't need a notarized sheet of paper proving anything to anyone.
At the same time, never say never BUT it would take one INCREDIBLE man to make me rethink things
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I suppose I can understand your desire to with those friends you've built some kind of connection with (with or without sexual playtime). Getting on does indeed prove the person on the other end is who they say they are. It's proof positive and there is no denying that fact.
What you might not have considered is that MOST men on here or on sites like Lush, RELENTLESSLY pester women to jump on for playtime. Hell, some don't care to friend you or even know you and opt to simply post their , , WhatsUp, Viber, etc. handles in their profile hoping someone will take the bait! As I'm sure you can appreciate, as sites like Lush are concerned, Skyping tends to have a bit of a reputation for naughty and sometimes questionable behaviour more than anything righteous.
As already mentioned over and over again in this thread, everyone comes here for their own reasons and each have their own agenda, good or bad. Everyone has the choice to be as transparent as they want. This isn't Facebook after all, it's a SEX SITE which makes 'trust' an expensive and sometimes elusive commodity.
You may in fact be a really sweet guy who's intentions are honourable but unfortunately, that may not be enough to convince someone to do something they don't feel comfortable doing. Period. I wouldn't take any of it personally, it's just how things roll sometimes. If you're questioning the authenticity of some of your friends, maybe you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place.
And just a bit of FYI, harping on and on about Skyping can be a SERIOUS turn-off to many women.
Good luck!
What you might not have considered is that MOST men on here or on sites like Lush, RELENTLESSLY pester women to jump on for playtime. Hell, some don't care to friend you or even know you and opt to simply post their , , WhatsUp, Viber, etc. handles in their profile hoping someone will take the bait! As I'm sure you can appreciate, as sites like Lush are concerned, Skyping tends to have a bit of a reputation for naughty and sometimes questionable behaviour more than anything righteous.
As already mentioned over and over again in this thread, everyone comes here for their own reasons and each have their own agenda, good or bad. Everyone has the choice to be as transparent as they want. This isn't Facebook after all, it's a SEX SITE which makes 'trust' an expensive and sometimes elusive commodity.
You may in fact be a really sweet guy who's intentions are honourable but unfortunately, that may not be enough to convince someone to do something they don't feel comfortable doing. Period. I wouldn't take any of it personally, it's just how things roll sometimes. If you're questioning the authenticity of some of your friends, maybe you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place.
And just a bit of FYI, harping on and on about Skyping can be a SERIOUS turn-off to many women.
Good luck!
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Of course! I especially love it when he's going down on me - his tongue and lips teasing my clit while he works my pussy with his finger(s). 
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So far so good! 
Yes they can but again, regardless of where and how you meet, honesty is critical and trust is earned. After that, anything is possible if two people want it badly enough.
Yes they can but again, regardless of where and how you meet, honesty is critical and trust is earned. After that, anything is possible if two people want it badly enough.
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To each their own. Personally, I wouldn't wait. As already mentioned in several posts, sex and sexual chemistry is an important (among other things of course) ingredient in a long, happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship. Better to know sooner rather than later if it ain't working for ya ;)
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Absolutely! But just like in real life, there needs to be a foundation of honesty and friendship from which to work. When you have that, anything is possible even on Lush (I'm living proof of it 
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Given his kind response to LasarDaddy and his profile, he appears to be a nice guy which is always refreshing to see on sites like this.
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It is a requirement. The mind is what is the most attractive thing about a person. I have seen people who were very physically attractive but their lack of intelligence made them less and less appealing. I have also had the experience of someone rather plain but then they start talking and they become more and more attractive. Intelligent people tend to be curious about the world and therefore are ultimately more interesting to be around.
One point I do want to make, you can't judge a person from their outside appearance how intelligent they are.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
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Apart from cranberry and vodka on the rare occasion, I much prefer red wine over hard liquor any day of the week.
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I have recorded video of myself masturbating on a few occasions but it was more about arousing the viewer than myself. Personally, I don't get any real arousal from recording or watching myself masturbate for my own sake but put a handsome man across from me and it becomes over-the-top H.O.T!
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I'm not sure I would say I "prefer" them, I mean, I'm just happy whenever I get to orgasm, PERIOD! BUT I do, be it on my own or with a lover, have multiple orgasms most often. I LOVE sex and can cum very quickly and with very little down time in between OR I can hold out for hours, just depends on a variety of variables like the partner, time, location, energy level, etc. Most of my encounters have been with men that prefer to edge or it takes them a bit longer to cum than me. Unless it's a night where we're in the mood for very s-l-o-w, tender, lovemaking where we're both edging with the goal of one glorious simultaneous outcome, I will typically cum as many times as I can before he has his big release.
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I'm thinking that you're not telling the community everything. If I were a betting man, I'd say that you are enjoying some things about this relationship you haven't shared with us, yet.
In any relationship I've been in where I had discussed monogamy and then expected it from my partner, only to learn later that she'd stepped out on me...That was the end of that, as quickly as I could effect the transition.
So, spill. You're kind of liking the situation, aren't ya? She trips your trigger with something or a lot of somethings she's doing -or- providing?
My thoughts exactly.
I couldn't give a crap whether you're getting off on your situation or not, you gotta live with it BUT if/when there is the possibility of child getting caught up in all your drama, in particular as a result of one of her many affairs, I take particular offense to this and it only proves to me how selfish and immature you both are.
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I suffer from bouts of insomnia as a result of my job and major projects to manage that have my name all over it. I'm a perfectionist and therefore tend to over-think and over-analyze every detail which means I have lists running through my head at all hours of the night. During these times, I can go 2-3 days WITHOUT any sleep or what I refer to as surface sleeping - where you're eyes are closed, you're exhausted but you are all too aware of every second that's counting down on the clock.
Thankfully, those sleepless bouts have become pretty predicable which means I know when it's about to happen and have learned how to deal with it as best as I'm able. When those stressful moments are over, I definitely catch up on my sleep and like to get about 6-7 hours and maybe 8 hours on the weekend if I don't have any pressing commitments.
Thankfully, those sleepless bouts have become pretty predicable which means I know when it's about to happen and have learned how to deal with it as best as I'm able. When those stressful moments are over, I definitely catch up on my sleep and like to get about 6-7 hours and maybe 8 hours on the weekend if I don't have any pressing commitments.
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I agree with the guest above that after 7 years together, you should be able to talk to her about anything, most importantly about your sex life.
Regarding your comment that you think the only way you can add more excitement to your dwindling sex life is to go this route is very short sighted. Have you REALLY exhausted EVERYTHING? I can't imagine that you have.
There is no question that, although it may be somewhat of a common fantasy to most men, it may not go over very well with your woman. For me personally, I know if my man asked me such a thing, it wouldn't go very well. As open and liberal and sexual as I am, sharing or being shared is NOT something I want in MY relationship and I would hate to know my man would be perfectly fine with another man having me. But that's ME.
What happens if you ask her and she refuses? Will you be okay with it or will it be something that will eat away at you or even tear you apart anyway?
Unfortunately, I don't have any answers for you, just my own humble opinion. Who the hell knows, she might LOVE the idea and may even install a revolving door in your bedroom. How's that for excitement in the bedroom?
Regarding your comment that you think the only way you can add more excitement to your dwindling sex life is to go this route is very short sighted. Have you REALLY exhausted EVERYTHING? I can't imagine that you have.
There is no question that, although it may be somewhat of a common fantasy to most men, it may not go over very well with your woman. For me personally, I know if my man asked me such a thing, it wouldn't go very well. As open and liberal and sexual as I am, sharing or being shared is NOT something I want in MY relationship and I would hate to know my man would be perfectly fine with another man having me. But that's ME.
What happens if you ask her and she refuses? Will you be okay with it or will it be something that will eat away at you or even tear you apart anyway?
Unfortunately, I don't have any answers for you, just my own humble opinion. Who the hell knows, she might LOVE the idea and may even install a revolving door in your bedroom. How's that for excitement in the bedroom?
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I'd run from this - unless you don't care about losing your husband and/or friend.
Exactly. If it's something you all want to do, I guess you should go for it BUT be prepared that this little tryst might not be quite as simple as you might think - sometimes these propositions come with a hefty price to pay. There is no going back from this once you've done it.
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Well, if you're asking if I've cum in public just on my own as in masturbated - maybe a couple of times tucked away in a restroom. If you're asking if I've cum in public with the help of my partner, absolutely and many times!
BUT to clarify the word public for ME, I am by no means an exhibitionist, have sick fantasy of making strangers uncomfortable or worse, getting them off while they watch and like Trinket, I especially don't fancy getting arrested and thrown in jail. When I say that I have cum in public it's much more discreet with an element of getting caught I suppose; dressing rooms, cars, public restrooms, elevator, stairwell, movie theatre, park bench at night, restaurant, ocean, pool, balcony/window...etc. Not something I HAVE to do all the time but it definitely adds a level of excitement that can be quite intoxicating.
BUT to clarify the word public for ME, I am by no means an exhibitionist, have sick fantasy of making strangers uncomfortable or worse, getting them off while they watch and like Trinket, I especially don't fancy getting arrested and thrown in jail. When I say that I have cum in public it's much more discreet with an element of getting caught I suppose; dressing rooms, cars, public restrooms, elevator, stairwell, movie theatre, park bench at night, restaurant, ocean, pool, balcony/window...etc. Not something I HAVE to do all the time but it definitely adds a level of excitement that can be quite intoxicating.