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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
Canada

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Quote by MasterJonathan
Chivalry isn't dead but it has been sorely wounded! Respect, manners and gentlemanly behavior is practically a lost art anymore, unfortunately.

Those who know Me know that I try very hard to maintain a gentlemanly position and that respect and honor is very important to Me.

I wish more felt the same way.


=d>
Quote by JohnC
The reason a man opens a door for a woman, or pulls her chair out for her, has nothing to do with her not having the ability to do it herself. It has to do with the man WANTING to SERVE the woman, and to do something for her; making her the focus, the most important thing at that moment. The same as if you are up getting a drink or refill on your coffee, you ask if the other would like something. Of course they can get it themselves, but you WANT to do something for them. You are putting them first and showing your devotion to them. But it also applies to women OTHER than you partner. Like if you see a woman changing a tire. Of course she can do it herself, it isn't that hard or rocket science. But if you have the time (as in you are not already rushing for something) you help her change it, or change it for her. And there are countless other examples; none of which mean the woman CAN'T do the act/action herself. Like when you see an older person reaching for something on a high shelf at the store, they may be able to get it themselves, but OFFER to get it for them because you may be able to get it better/easier or you simply want to assist/serve them in a sign of respect. It is not belittling at all. It all depends on your REASON for doing things. And chivalry is about caring and serving, out of respect and love, not because you are belittling or patronizing the other party in any way.

Chivalry is not dead, but like some have stated, it is becoming more and more rare (OR it is seen in the beginning of the relationship, but fast fades away.. unfortunately). I will also point out that chivalry is NOT about being a sniveling hand servant or submissive puppy drooling over the woman and being a wimp.


Couldn't agree more! This is when I realize just how old I really am *sigh* I was raised in a time when boys were raised to treat girls/women with dignity and respect and taught to have manners that is all but lost on so many men today but especially the younger ones. These values were not things reserved just for the object of his affections but included his mother, his sister, and the old lady in the grocery store. Any acts of chilvalry no matter how small or large, were never about dominating women but rather holding women in high regard.

I also believe that chivalry begins at home where it's taught directly or indirectly by the parents. Lazy parenting seems to be an epidemic these days and you can see it in the way younger generations treat each other with such little respect and that's including themselves. Personally, I find it very disheartening to see those old fashioned values get forgotten. If there ever was a time to reinstate them, I think it would be now. Having said that, I'm still a hopeless romantic at my core which means I always live with notion that there is hope and therefore still believe that chivalry isn't entirely dead - harder to find perhaps but not dead and thank goodness for that.
I don't get it either but then again, I still don't completely understand why women want breast implants so go figure. I can't speak for all women but for me, large cocks aren't nearly as pleasurable as average ones. I love sex way too much not to enjoy every moment I have with my partner.
Quote by SuccubusDreams
I don't know if it qualifies as unusual but stubble. OMG stubble.


AMEN! Facial hair - my fucking kryptonite
Like most newbies when it comes to a place like Lush, I too had hundreds of friends when I first joined and carried the 'socialite' status that seems to brand most profiles on here. I pretty much accepted friend requests from anyone and everyone and dove head first into the deep end of debauchery with vim and vigor. Lots of fun was had (oh yes!) but also (and thankfully) some lessons were learned too and as a result, I've done some major house cleaning more than once since I joined. Just as my profile says, these days, my friend list is put together based on the quality of the people I meet and not on the quantity and I'm perfectly happy with that.
Quote by sweetaz
Honest opinion, I'm not bothered whether he's cut or not. If its not hygienic he gets the short shift to go and sort himself out pronto in fact I'll offer to clean it in the shower and off we go! Its not gross its natural I'm more interested in him being happy with himself and what he can do with it to pleasure each other wahoo


Well said! As I've said in other similar threads, I've had both and really don't have a preference either way provided he's clean. I am WAY more interested in the MAN than how much foreskin he has at the end of his cock. Seriously. Just seems a bit superficial otherwise.
I have and I have always done as I was told. Of course, it goes both ways smile
Tonight, when I finally get to crawl into bed at the end of this busy day.
Well, I've never been in a threesome and don't think it's something that will happen in my real life mainly because I'm not one that is into sharing or being shared when it comes to men I'm exclusive with BUT that doesn't mean I don't have fantasies about it. For me, the fantasy of choice is MFM. Some fantasies are probably best left to the imagination.
Of course! It's not something I want or need to do ALL the time but when the mood strikes and you need to get busy at a moment when you can't stop and get 'cleaned up' afterward, so be it. I actually find it to be highly erotic. As others have said, it's like a dirty little secret between me and my partner and who doesn't like a little dirty secret? smile
I've learned that age really is just a number. At this stage in my life, I find myself more attracted to younger men which works well since that is exactly who I tend to attract more often than not anyway. An immature prick can be an immature prick at any age after all and it takes much more than youth to hold my attention for any length of time. The age gap doesn't bother me anymore provided they're legal ;)
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
If he were an all around great guy, absolutely. However, if he's poor and lacks ambition, I couldn't see myself loving him. Then again, I couldn't see myself loving a rich guy who lacked ambition, either.


Ditto. Ambition is more important than his bank account.
Quote by kornslayer1
Mine has really grown over the last few months. I frequently buy some online, and through the mail. i actually don't remember the last day that I didn't watch some at least. By now, I have well over 500 DVDs.


Quote by iWoMan
sucked yes. milked? I am not a cow.


Couldn't have said it better myself.
Umm, just about every single morning. Why do you think I LOVE morning sex so much? Geeeesh ;)
Quote by Autumn17
If you are going to wear that than why even bother wearing underwear!


Haha my thoughts exactly! Looks ridiculous if you ask me but if you have the body that can rock it, God bless!
As a rule, I have no issues with it and actually enjoy it provided it's not that creepy stalker stare (have had a few of those and they are NOT fun!). At this stage in my life, it feels like I get a LOT more attention and even the blatant up-down-licking-the-lips stares from either young men in their twenties or older men in their late fifties/early sixites. I'm not going to complain too much especially when it comes to the younger guys if only because it makes me feel like I still got it...or something...whatever it is and I'm cool with it.
I have always been the 'good' girl - the one that did what I was told, rarely spoke back, played all the roles that were expected of me and always wore a painted smile whilst doing it, I spoke when spoken to, remained steadfast polite and never rocked the boat regardless of anything.

Fucking torture! Thankfully I finally woke up and realized what a crock of shit that was and is. I think it is important to stay true to yourself and speak your mind even if others may not always see your point or be comfortable with your opinions. I agree that some people talk simply because they love the sound of their own voice or love to stir the pot but if you really have something to say, SAY IT!

One of the beautiful things I love about getting older is that I have low tolerance for bullshit anymore and have no issues with letting people know it. I'm also a woman with a brain and have my own opinions and I'm not afraid to share them. Of course, there is a good way to go about it and a not so good way and I always choose to be classy about speaking my mind but speak it I shall.
Wonderful to hear so many men love being intimate with a pregnant woman. I only wish I could have been that lucky sad
I will echo many of the things people have listed on here but the one thing I did not see is good old-fashioned chivalry. Seriously. Having returned to the world of dating after being away for a while, I am amazed at how much it has changed including and especially how men treat women. Perhaps my age is really showing now but I remember a time when being a gentleman included such things like opening doors, letting a woman walk into a room first or letting her order first at a restaurant etc.,

I know, I know there will be some of you (especially the young women) who will go absolutely ape-shit reading that saying they don't NEED a man to do those things for them, that they can do all those for themselves...Of course we can! It's not about being helpless.

I consider myself to be a feminist and am NO prima donna. I have always made my own money and have no issues with asking men out on dates or even paying. I have my own opinions and am not afraid to express them. And I've also tirelessly advocated for women's rights both here and abroad over the years but when it comes to dating and relationships, I guess I'm still a bit old-fashioned. I enjoy being treated like a lady. It's the little things that men do that set's them a part from the rest. I think being chivalrous is that little edge.
YES!

Seriously, it doesn't matter to me. I've had both. I'm much more interested in the man attached to the penis.
Quote by Nikki703
I guess it also depends on what you mean by public? In a car in the mall parking lot? In a secluded area of a park? In a bathroom in a club? Changing room in a store? On a crowded beach? Under a blanket on a plane? Some are more public than others!


Agreed. I'm not an exhibitionist, not interested in putting on a show for anyone or making people uncomfortable. And I'm definitely not interested in getting arrested for lewd and lascivious behavior and having my ass thrown in jail. BUT having some fun in 'public' where there is still some level of privacy and control without loosing the risk-of-getting-caught factor entirely (which is what makes it so exciting in the first place) is something I enjoy very much.

So the answer to your questions is yes
Quote by Dancing_Doll
This really depends on your partner.

I'm a verrrry dirty talker, but I've always censored myself to varying degrees based on how the guy responded when I first started talking dirty. To me, it's not fun if I'm doing all the talking and he's basically silent. When you have the right interplay, you can really push things farther than you'd expect and there really are no limits.

I should also say that dirty talk only sounds natural when you're not "thinking" it. If you're having sex and trying to think of something dirty to say, or you want to say something but are afraid of judgement, then you're not in the right headspace to really roll with it.

I just think it comes down to really knowing your partner and what their kinks are, so I'd suggest talking about sexual fantasies and likes and dislikes...you just have to know what your partner likes and what their limits are (if they have any).


Completely agree. It only really works when both people are into it and on the same page and that requires some serious communication. I LOVE dirty talk (both talking and hearing it) and am no stranger to waving my own freak flag if/when the mood and partner calls for it BUT I'm also just as happy and comfortable with the more sensual, romantic and even, vanilla encounters with my partner. Variety is essential in any relationship not to mention that there is a time and place for everything.
Quote by GayleMom
Cock. Unless he's a dick.


Excellent response and I couldn't have said it better myself!