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He isn't above 'taking matters into his own hands' - he's human after all
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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
Canada
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If I had a gun pointed at my head, I'd have to choose blowjob otherwise I could never really choose - I much prefer to mix it up until my man is completelly and utterly and blissfully satisfied.
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I LOVE men who are vocal be it groaning, moaning, growling, panting, grunting, cooing, talking (dirty or not), whatever! I like to know my man is enjoying himself (not to mention ALIVE) and 'hearing' him gets me off BIG time. Agreed, quiet men just aren't as much fun but at the same time, his responses have to feel natural and not contrived just for my benefit otherwise it's just awkward.
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Scent is pretty important to me. I do enjoy the scent of cologne on my man but agree that many are far too strong (or the guy puts way too much on) It has been known to bother me but there are some wonderful soft scents out today that do me in nicely. Other than that, I'm also a big fan of the after shower clean scent.
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I'm not huge on the whole role-playing thing but I don't mind putting on a costume or two to enhance an intimate encounter. If I had to choose a costume I'd be comfortable wearing, it might be the proverbial french maid outfit and...drum roll please...a catholic school girl uniform (if only I could still fit into mine from high school, lol!!). As for dressing up my man, I think I'd be up for seeing him in an officer's uniform - you know, the whole "An Officer and a Gentleman" look. Tit for tat after all.
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Agreed. I'm a pretty simple girl and I prefer my man's cum straight up and just about anywhere he wishes unload it 
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It would be a very sad, sad world if men and women felt they could only express their sexual wants and needs on Lush and not to their partners 
To answer your question, everything I post on the forums are experiences and desires which I have shared with past lovers at some point. At this stage in my life, I have absolutely no problems sharing and expressing my wants, needs, fantasies and desires with any man in my life. What is the point otherwise?
To answer your question, everything I post on the forums are experiences and desires which I have shared with past lovers at some point. At this stage in my life, I have absolutely no problems sharing and expressing my wants, needs, fantasies and desires with any man in my life. What is the point otherwise? 
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Depends on what kind of shopping - grocery shopping, I will go a couple of times a week as I prefer fresh ingredients. As for clothes/shoe shopping, maybe once a month or less but it really depends on the season or if I have somewhere special to go but as a rule, I'm really not a huge personal shopper.
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My thoughts on the matter is that if the beach is an open nude beach, and not a SEX CLUB, then if you get an erection (for ANY reason) you cover it up. I don't buy any excuses why erections happen, or why they might be seen. And honestly I think that every open nude beach would frown on visible erections. It is poor form and frankly RUDE and SELFISH of the person to not cover it up.
If you want to be naked and sexually aroused, go to a sex club.
Agreed.
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I've got shrimp marinating and ready to be grilled when I get home. Add toit with a big green salad and roasted asparagus. Yum!
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Like many women on here, I got inundated with requests when I first joined and like a child with ADHD let loose in a candy store, I happily accepted anyone and everyone who asked. Having been here a while and met a wide variety of characters and gone through many experiences, some good and some not so good, I've come to learn a thing or two. As a result, I have completely changed my approach on how to exist on Lush with my dignity and sanity in tact and especially who I will accept as friends. As my profile states, I'm all about quality not quantity. If they don't care to leave me a message as to why they are asking for my friendship, I won't bother accpeting their request - is it really that hard? If they do leave me a message, depending on what it says, I'll first take a look at their profile to see if it's filled out and if what they have to say fits well with me and my take on this place. Regardless of anything, I do have a habit of cleaning up my friend list pretty regularly for one reason or another so there is never a guarantee of anything. It's just how I roll these days 
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Our school name was Redmen and our mascot was a Native American Indian.
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If that is what he wants and enjoys, I'm happy that he's happy.
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Oh my, there are SO many things that my man could say that would send me over the edge. I am one that really, really, REALLY gets off on cumming together with my partner - usually it's the passion and intensity of our love making, the look in his eyes, the feeling of his body tensing up, his hands gripping me harder and his fingers digging into me, and most definitely it's the moaning and growling that he makes just before he struggles to tell me he's about to cum and breathlessly begs me to cum with him! FUCK! Yeah, that definitely lights my fire every fucking time 
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Nah, it's not your profile, it's just the nature of the Lush beast You have to take everything on here with a grain of salt. There are some amazing friends and online lovers to be found on here but you have to learn to be discerning otherwise it's a bloody battlefield (unless you're one of those extreme heartless players, then you're in good company). You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and appear to be honest and polite with regards to how you handle some of the men on here. That already makes you better than most :)
You have to take everything on here with a grain of salt. There are some amazing friends and online lovers to be found on here but you have to learn to be discerning otherwise it's a bloody battlefield (unless you're one of those extreme heartless players, then you're in good company). You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and appear to be honest and polite with regards to how you handle some of the men on here. That already makes you better than most :) 
Good one!
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Hmm, tough one for me. I'd like to say that I wouldn't be so shallow or cold as to dump someone just because they didn't fulfill my sexual needs but I'd be lying through my teeth. Having been in a sexually unfulfilled marriage for WAY too many years, I'm afraid that I have very little patience with anyone that doesn't at least work with me to find ways to satisfy each other. Sex is a two way street, give and take and it takes effort to make a relationship work and even more effort to have and maintain a good sex life. I am far too young to live the next 20+ years feeling anything but completely fulfilled be it sexually or otherwise. Live and learn.
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There is a time and place for everything. Dirty chatter can be a HUGE turn on for me with the right man who knows me inside out and knows when to turn on the dirty talk - it's not something I need or crave with every sexual encounter (sometimes making sweet tender love is more than wonderful) but definitely do enjoy it when the time is just ripe!
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Apart from a bit of pinching and/or light nibbling on my nipples and/or clit, no thank you. I'm not into serious pain of any kind.
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I'm not sure I understand your comment about "these guys being exclusive online lovers" - do you mean they want and are asking for an exclusive online relationship with you ONLY in terms of cybering and having playtime or do you mean they just want to have fun online with you or whomever and never meet in real life? I find it very hard to believe that many men would so eagerly opt for an exclusive online relationship with anyone on here, at least not until you've established some kind friendship/relationship and feel like it's the next step. My experience has been that any man that jumped straight into wanting an exclusive relationship was just saying it cause they thought that's what I wanted to hear but in reality, they were anything but exclusive online as I'm sure they weren't in real life.
Like most women I think, I used to get bombarded with requests to cyber and even cam from not only people on my friends list but from complete strangers who saw me online. It didn't matter if my AWAY light was on, they seemed to always be very aggressive and relentless. I'm no stranger to the cybering and playtime encounters and admittedly, have engaged in random cold-calling cybering in the past (I was MUCH less discerning when I first joined Lush) only to realize that it's just not for me. I need to feel a special connection with someone after a bit of time getting to know them first. Through trial and error, I managed to figure out what I ultimately wanted to get out of Lush, cleaned up my friend list BIG time and even more importantly, learned how to navigate around here in terms of privacy settings and have visited here hidden ever since. This gives me the power to pick and choose what I want to do on here and who I want to chat with if at all. Pretty simple
Like most women I think, I used to get bombarded with requests to cyber and even cam from not only people on my friends list but from complete strangers who saw me online. It didn't matter if my AWAY light was on, they seemed to always be very aggressive and relentless. I'm no stranger to the cybering and playtime encounters and admittedly, have engaged in random cold-calling cybering in the past (I was MUCH less discerning when I first joined Lush) only to realize that it's just not for me. I need to feel a special connection with someone after a bit of time getting to know them first. Through trial and error, I managed to figure out what I ultimately wanted to get out of Lush, cleaned up my friend list BIG time and even more importantly, learned how to navigate around here in terms of privacy settings and have visited here hidden ever since. This gives me the power to pick and choose what I want to do on here and who I want to chat with if at all. Pretty simple
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Good sex, like a relationship, is about give and take. Personally, I'm a giver and take great pleasure in pleasing my man but I do like to know that my man wants and especially enjoys pleasing me as well. There is no room for selfishness when it comes to great sex.
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Agreed. It really depends on the man and the relationship to you if any. If it's someone I'm interested in then YES, feeling the bulge in his pants is most definitely a huge turn on for me
