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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
Canada
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Hmm...I'll go with read a story for this round.
Get a present or give a present.
Get a present or give a present.
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Given my 'advanced' age, I've learned to appreciate and become a fan of the monokinis, tankinis and onesies. Thankfully, the styles and designs these days, still allow me to feel pretty and sexy while rockin' any one of them.
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Quote by Pixie
Take Melatonin. It is all natural, and you already have melatonin in your body. You won't wake up groggy and you will get a restful nights sleep.
I battle bouts of insomnia from time to time and have found the shower followed by Melatonin works great for me most nights. If not, I always have a bottle of Nyquil handy - a couple of swigs of that and I fall into a coma-induced, drooling stupor
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I get bored easily so I tend to change up my playlist often, however, I do tend to prefer dance/club/rave music the most as it seems to give me the jolt I need to get through some of my workouts.
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While people are cleaning the dirt and crud out of their fingernails and painting their toenails, I would also add that it might be a good call to clean up the sloppy mess of clothes and miscellaneous garbage in the background of the photo and use a lil windex on the mirror and flush the toilet before they start snapping away those self-shots with the camera-phone.
When I see those splayed pussy lips held back with dirty chipped nails and the 'mystery smears' all over the mirror, reflecting back a bedroom that looks like a total dump... I swear I can smell tuna. Blechh...
Another AMEN moment! This goes for guys as well BTW. Personally, I couldn't give a crap about how hot the guy thinks he is, squatting in some nasty, fucked up messy hovel is a HUGE turn off and means for immediatel termination
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I have seen so many pics of beautiful women around here on Lush. It is just a pity that we do not all care about our hands and feet the same way.Some girls virtually tear their pussies apart so we can see deeper. But before we can get anywhere, there is a bad manicure or even dirty fingernails obstructing the view. Some nice feet around here as well but goodness Girl, take some time off and do a good pedi.
Nothing that distinguishes a woman so much from the next one than a lovely pair of hands and neat feet. Agreed, not all of us are so priviledged to have beautiful feet or hands if you want to include that.....But, we can all have neat and clean hands and feet!
Thank God I'm not the only one that was thinking this! If you can't get to your manicurist in time before you blow up your camera with naughty pics for our beloved Lush, at least make an effort to HIDE your nasty fingers and toes
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Hmm never thought about it, lol. Usually, it's just an all out raid in the fridge or cupboards - not very picky I guess.
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I think general flirting is fine. Now if it was excessive and genuine signals of "come and get me" are being sent.... I think there would be a problem.
Agreed. I'm a big flirt myself but that doesn't mean I'm trying to break up a marriage or get a man into my bed. Sometimes a flirt is just a flirt and that's fine. But when it crosses the line where it begins to feel and look inappropriate, I'm more than happy to get my CRAZY on
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Leftover homemade eggplant parmigiana and mix green salad with balsamic vinaigrette - delicioso 
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Umm...how about sitting him down and having a serious and honest adult conversation about it where you can let him know how you're feeling and then work together to figure something out. So many people SAY they talk about things but really it's just an off-the-cuff comment or in jest rather than really trying to get to the root of it.
Honestly, I'm always so dumbfounded to hear and see that COMMUNICATION seems to be the LAST thing people think of when facing issues that causes them concern. What is this world coming to?
Honestly, I'm always so dumbfounded to hear and see that COMMUNICATION seems to be the LAST thing people think of when facing issues that causes them concern. What is this world coming to?
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I've NEVER had a cavity in my life - a bit obsessive with oral hygiene 
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Ah...I watch porn all the time and the last time was this morning before getting out of bed. As for the type of porn, it was a deep throat and facial compilation
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Agreed. Every women is different. For me, I like my man to change it up and keep me guessing 
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NO
Well said babe
From a women's perspective, I would NOT like my man to EVER want to share me in such an intimate way. If he did, he'd most definitely end up my EX
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The best definition of the two is this..
To LOVE someone is: to cherish, to be kind to, to want to spend time with, to respect, to enjoy, to trust, to want to know better.
To BE IN LOVE with someone: to be smitten, infatuated, enamored, hooked, taken with, besotted, head over heels.
My ex-husband is a perfect example of this. Married for 16 years and together for 20, we managed to separate and remain the best of friends. Obviously, we fell 'in love' in the beginning, had a family and remained 'in love' for a good part of our years together but then it changed and being 'in love' turned into resentment and anger and all the rest of the ugly stuff that happens when a marriage goes bad. Eventually, through hard work and a mutual desire to make things work for us and our son, a beautiful friendship was formed and 'love' blossomed again, albeit different than when we were married. So what does that mean? It means that I deeply care for my ex, that despite the fact that our happily-ever-after didn't make it, he's an awesome father and a good man who loved me as best as he could at the time. I spent almost half my life with him and we've been through it all together, good and bad. Since our break-up, I have come to appreciate the man and father and friend that he is and genuinely care about his happiness and well-being. That is 'love' but no longer 'in love'.
As for being once 'in love' with someone, always 'in love', I don't think that's entirely accurate. In my case, 'in love' turned into 'love' and I'm very grateful for that because I know it's rare. Turing 'in love' into 'love' has been just as beautiful and special both for my relationship with my ex and especially for our son to see his parents still care for each other.
I hope this makes sense...in my head it makes perfect sense of course, lol. Here's hoping I've done the question justice.
To LOVE someone is: to cherish, to be kind to, to want to spend time with, to respect, to enjoy, to trust, to want to know better.
To BE IN LOVE with someone: to be smitten, infatuated, enamored, hooked, taken with, besotted, head over heels.
My ex-husband is a perfect example of this. Married for 16 years and together for 20, we managed to separate and remain the best of friends. Obviously, we fell 'in love' in the beginning, had a family and remained 'in love' for a good part of our years together but then it changed and being 'in love' turned into resentment and anger and all the rest of the ugly stuff that happens when a marriage goes bad. Eventually, through hard work and a mutual desire to make things work for us and our son, a beautiful friendship was formed and 'love' blossomed again, albeit different than when we were married. So what does that mean? It means that I deeply care for my ex, that despite the fact that our happily-ever-after didn't make it, he's an awesome father and a good man who loved me as best as he could at the time. I spent almost half my life with him and we've been through it all together, good and bad. Since our break-up, I have come to appreciate the man and father and friend that he is and genuinely care about his happiness and well-being. That is 'love' but no longer 'in love'.
As for being once 'in love' with someone, always 'in love', I don't think that's entirely accurate. In my case, 'in love' turned into 'love' and I'm very grateful for that because I know it's rare. Turing 'in love' into 'love' has been just as beautiful and special both for my relationship with my ex and especially for our son to see his parents still care for each other.
I hope this makes sense...in my head it makes perfect sense of course, lol. Here's hoping I've done the question justice.
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I will agree that there isn't enough information for any of us to give you a thorough and well rounded answer, however, from a woman's perspective, the apparent permission granted by your wife to take on lovers outside of your marriage, I fear is an empty one not to mention a loaded one. I'm going to assume from your post, albeit pretty vague, that you both love each other very much and, up to this point, had a good or decent sex life. Being the loving and dutiful wife I would assume her to be, she probably feels tremendous guilt that she may not be able to please you in the ways you may come to need at some point - an awesome blowjob only goes so far after a while - and feels amost 'obligated' to offer up the free pass. The fact that she does not want to know anything about it and/or want to include a third person in your bed, screams out insecurity and fear as well as a deserpate need for denial in order to make peace with her decision to allow this in the first place. I suspect that deep down, she doesn't want this at all and perhaps in some way may even be testing you to see how you will handle things. It's a very tricky and difficult and complicated situation and ultimately, no one here can really give you a 'right' answer as to how or what to do. It must come from you and your wife and perhaps further discussion even if it's to find other more creative ways to stay sexually connected and faithful at the same time. I sincerely wish you the very best.
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My ex-hubby, who, whilst we were married basically abandoned me sexually for far too long and ended up being a BIG reason why I ended it after more than 16 years together, started the same shenanigans until I realized he was trying to get back together with me. Sometimes the idea of hooking up with an ex seems tempting because it's something you're familiar with BUT when you have a history with them, it's VERY difficult to keep your emotions out of it. What ends up happening more often then not, is a never-ending merry-go-round of of emotions and issues that brought you together but ultimately also tore you apart. Just plain messy if all you want is a fuck buddy. Personally, I'd stay clear of your ex and look for a 'fresh' partner to have a NSA 'relationship' otherwise, I suggest you get your communication on and have that talk with your ex ASAP and see if you can't get on the same page. Good luck!
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A 69 is fun but distracts me from doing my job properly. Him lying on his back and me between his legs is cool.
I love being on my knees with him standing or sitting, to me it feels like a very submissive position, especially with some head grabbing and hair pulling when he gets close to orgasm.
Him straddling my chest or me upside down on the bed being face fucked are both awesome but I don't see it as giving head it's being face fucked or force fed cock which I love best of all.
I love doing it every way.
Bang on right - couldn't have said it better myself
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This hits a very sore spot for me personally since my ex-husband almost seemed to prefer masturbating to porn over having sex with me. All women want to feel wanted and desired by the men in their lives and often times, when their hubbies opt to masturbate instead of or in place of having sex with them, they may feel like they are not good enough. At the same time, if you want and are indeed trying to have sex with your wife but she keeps shooting you down, I can understand your need to find some release. I think the best way to handle this is talk about it.
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If he has it, I'm on it. It's that simple. Okay, even if he doesn't have it, I'd still be on it. The only way my man should be woken up in the morning is with his cock in my mouth 
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I'm in agreement with most - no need to spy. I'm always up for anything sexual so there is never a need for him or I to 'hide' it. In fact, masturbating for each other is so fucking amazing - why would you want to do it on your own? 
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Of course! I'm no road warrior so my run ins with the law have been few and far between but if the situation called for it, I have been known to use my womanly charms to get out of a ticket. As for how far did it go...innocent flirting, smiling, chatting and a phone number once upon a time.
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Like everyone has said, if they weren't rude...why the hell not?
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You know it...and more than once ;)
Have you ever engaged in a session of feet fucking - giving or receiving?
Have you ever engaged in a session of feet fucking - giving or receiving?